I have two autistic DC late junior school age and they both have learning disabilities. My youngest is non verbal with severe learning disabilities and has always been a bit violent to us over the years but recently it's been absolutely relentless.
He's still quite small but (despite professional experience in the area) I've very rarely come across violence this extreme and random- slapping, punching, biting, kicking, eye gouging, scratching, hair pulling, throwing objects at me and he also tried to stab me with a pair of scissors. He's particularly targeting me and it is constant. He's badly hurting me and I'm frightened of him. I keep trying to spend nice quality time with him but he just smiles then attacks me. Tonight, I went downstairs to be with him because I've barely spent any time with him (DH looks after him because DS can't push DH over etc) and sat on the sofa, he came over smiling like he wanted a cuddle then grabbed my head and clawed my face and pulled my hair. Normally I try not to react too much (because I think he enjoys my reaction) but I started screaming and then broke down in tears. I've just had enough.
I don't know what we've done wrong, but clearly we haven't got it right.
AIBU just to stop trying? This is breaking my heart, I love him but I don't want to be anywhere near him.