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AIBU to be surprised this was advertised at 12pm today?

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MissAvainthesun · 30/07/2025 16:57

One of DC had a sleepover with two of their friends last night at our house. Everything went fine and this afternoon I said they could watch a film before the others were picked up. We came back from going for a walk and I said they could start to look at kids films whilst I prepare lunch. I turned on the TV which automatically goes to the freebies channel set up before I press the button for SKY. On the main screen was ‘Adventures of a taxi driver’ with a cartoon woman bent over leaning into a taxi showing her bottom and underwear.

AIBU to be a bit surprised to see that in the middle of the day this is what’s being advertised? Didn’t say anything to the children but when the parents came to pick their children up they were surprised to see that being advertised too. I’d never heard of it but looked it up and it’s a raunchy 70s film.

AIBU to be surprised this was advertised at 12pm today?
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MissAvainthesun · 31/07/2025 15:12

@UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld I’m really not understanding what your problem is? I simply don’t want my daughter or son dressing inappropriately. We all judge unfortunately in every situation consciously or subconsciously. I want my children to be aware of what is and isn’t appropriate and that feeds into what they wear at certain times, what they say, how they say etc. As they grow older they will hopefully make the right choices. It is mine and DH job to guide and protect them obviously I can’t protect them from everything as that would do more harm than good.

I was surprised that’s all as I’m not used to seeing raunchy stuff being advertised on daytime TV. Yes I am one of the people who thinks there’s a time and a place. I don’t like going to town on a weekend on an evening or the local after a certain time as people get rowdy, loud, swear etc but that’s just the way it is so we choose carefully where we go and if it can’t be helped then it can’t be helped.

All I want is for my children to remain innocent curious and young minded for that little bit longer which I don’t think is a bad thing.

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MissAvainthesun · 31/07/2025 14:57

MoonriseKingdom · 31/07/2025 08:13

In the 1980s if you looked up to the top shelf in your average newsagents you’d see a row of much racier pictures than that!

Very true…I remember my brother and male cousins getting a clip round the ear from my Uncle when they tried to sneak a peak at Sam Fox and Linda Lusardi then after a few years they started covering them over now when I go to a Newsagents you don’t tend see those magazines (well not in my local newsagents it’s usually gossip mags, recipe mags and daylight robbery kids magazines with some sort of monthly collectors item at extortionate prices) it’s usually with some scantily clad celebrity coming out of a club worse for wear 🤣

Again if not keen just tend to scroll on past to a magazine I like.

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UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 31/07/2025 09:20

MissAvainthesun · 31/07/2025 06:03

Yes but that’s ‘classic art’ in a gallery and have no issue with that or the children seeing it and when the children have asked why they don’t have clothes on we explain back then that’s how some people modelled for paintings etc.

This was 70s smut depicting women not very nicely.

Fair point on the postcard comment. Although I haven’t seen a postcard like that for a very long time…early 90s Blackpool I think was the last time.

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So nudity is ok when you judge is "classic" and can blame the long gone past?

But you can't say "Oh that was the 70s, we had a different attitude then" to a slightly sexy picture of a woman bending over?

It's really nothing too "not very nice". As someone said, you'll see just as much walking down the street

And you do get a few of those postcards still too

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 31/07/2025 09:16

zaxxon · 31/07/2025 07:17

Not reality shows, but lots of "saucy" sexist stuff a la Benny Hill and Hee Haw, buxom farmgirls, daytime sitcoms and cop shows regularly making jokes about prostitutes and gay people, cinemas showing soft porn films (from Sweden!) with posters outside, adverts for strip bars ... It was a funny time when a lot of smut got aired in the name of being liberal and open minded. Even in an ordinary comedy like The Life of Brian, a naked woman pops up for basically no reason. (Admittedly not a kids' film, but not an "adult film" either.)

Anyway, my point is that while it didn't do us kids any good, it didn't really harm us, either, and I think the OP's kids will be OK.

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There are naked men in Life of Brian too tbf

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 31/07/2025 09:13

Isitreallysohard · 30/07/2025 23:09

Wtf are you talking about??! NOW as in present day.

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The fact it's an advert for an old film but your acting like it's some moral indictment of today

MoonriseKingdom · 31/07/2025 08:13

In the 1980s if you looked up to the top shelf in your average newsagents you’d see a row of much racier pictures than that!

Boredlass · 31/07/2025 08:08

Ok Mary…

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MissAvainthesun · 31/07/2025 08:07

Theres lots of things on TV now that are edited out or just not shown because it’s not appropriate. DH and I watched an episode of only fools the other day on gold during the day and a lot of it had been edited out.

There’s stuff I watched when I was younger my parents thought were hilarious and if it was too raunchy we either we’re not allowed to watch it or my parents were sweet and say cover your eyes/ears if this was a show at teatime. Not a massive deal was just the way it was. TV has changed a lot we all know that…some for the better some for the worse. I simply don’t want my kids aging too fast…with that comes with how they speak to people, how they dress, what they watch etc it’s just basics.

When one of the male children at school was asking my daughter and a few other girls about their private area and using quite adult words, she came home and asked me what a pu**y was. I didn’t have a go I just gently said that’s a very adult word where did you hear that from? Once we established who from (the other child had been listening in to their older brother watching porn) we spoke about it and listed age appropriate words…no shame or guilt just her understanding what is appropriate for her age.

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zaxxon · 31/07/2025 08:01

Lol she did you a favour! 😃That was such a regressive show - poor Katey Segal tottering around in stilettos and cleavage, nagging her husband for sex, and the jailbait teen daughter stirring up trouble in her boob tube. Meanwhile the husband and son were just regular bros, lovable slobs just trying to live a quiet life.

Re the 9pm watershed, you're right, but I think our conception of what constitutes appropriate all-ages content has changed a LOT. There was a strain of body-positive and sex-positive ideology in the 70s, even for children, that seems unbelievable today.

Isitreallysohard · 31/07/2025 07:27

zaxxon · 31/07/2025 07:17

Not reality shows, but lots of "saucy" sexist stuff a la Benny Hill and Hee Haw, buxom farmgirls, daytime sitcoms and cop shows regularly making jokes about prostitutes and gay people, cinemas showing soft porn films (from Sweden!) with posters outside, adverts for strip bars ... It was a funny time when a lot of smut got aired in the name of being liberal and open minded. Even in an ordinary comedy like The Life of Brian, a naked woman pops up for basically no reason. (Admittedly not a kids' film, but not an "adult film" either.)

Anyway, my point is that while it didn't do us kids any good, it didn't really harm us, either, and I think the OP's kids will be OK.

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Hmmm maybe I've repressed all that stuff, I thought adults things only were shown after a certain time 😆 I do remember my mum wouldn't let me watch "Married with Children" 🤣

zaxxon · 31/07/2025 07:17

Isitreallysohard · 31/07/2025 06:55

I really don't remember, and I thought this sort of thing wouldn't be til after 9pm? And there was never shows like Love Island or Naked Attraction

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Not reality shows, but lots of "saucy" sexist stuff a la Benny Hill and Hee Haw, buxom farmgirls, daytime sitcoms and cop shows regularly making jokes about prostitutes and gay people, cinemas showing soft porn films (from Sweden!) with posters outside, adverts for strip bars ... It was a funny time when a lot of smut got aired in the name of being liberal and open minded. Even in an ordinary comedy like The Life of Brian, a naked woman pops up for basically no reason. (Admittedly not a kids' film, but not an "adult film" either.)

Anyway, my point is that while it didn't do us kids any good, it didn't really harm us, either, and I think the OP's kids will be OK.

Isitreallysohard · 31/07/2025 06:55

zaxxon · 31/07/2025 06:43

You're kidding right? What decade did you grow up in?

I watched / read / saw loads of stuff in the 70s and 80s that would make the OP's hair curl. It was just around, a normal part of life. But I emerged unscathed, just like everyone else

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I really don't remember, and I thought this sort of thing wouldn't be til after 9pm? And there was never shows like Love Island or Naked Attraction

BogRollBOGOF · 31/07/2025 06:55

That's a despressingly a normal view walking down the street with butt cheeks protrouding from hot pants being a fashion trend.
There's actually more coverage there than I saw from one woman walking down the road with wearing a peplum (at 50% coverage, it didn't justify the word skirt). I presume she was wearing a thong with it...

Thong bikinis are also in style so the buttocks are out to play at swimming pools and beaches.

I don't like it, and it fails the "should the opposite sex do that too" test, but it's not a particularly damaging sight.

zaxxon · 31/07/2025 06:43

Isitreallysohard · 30/07/2025 23:07

It's gross, but they'll see worse everywhere so sadly this is the low standard we now have

You're kidding right? What decade did you grow up in?

I watched / read / saw loads of stuff in the 70s and 80s that would make the OP's hair curl. It was just around, a normal part of life. But I emerged unscathed, just like everyone else

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MissAvainthesun · 31/07/2025 06:03

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 30/07/2025 23:06

Plenty of classic art depicts nudity

David himself is naked

This is nothing worse than you might see on a bit of a naughty postcard whilst away, and they wouldn't be age restricted or hidden away

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Yes but that’s ‘classic art’ in a gallery and have no issue with that or the children seeing it and when the children have asked why they don’t have clothes on we explain back then that’s how some people modelled for paintings etc.

This was 70s smut depicting women not very nicely.

Fair point on the postcard comment. Although I haven’t seen a postcard like that for a very long time…early 90s Blackpool I think was the last time.

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Isitreallysohard · 30/07/2025 23:09

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 30/07/2025 23:08

"Now"

It's for a film from the 70s

But sure... now

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Wtf are you talking about??! NOW as in present day.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 30/07/2025 23:08

Isitreallysohard · 30/07/2025 23:07

It's gross, but they'll see worse everywhere so sadly this is the low standard we now have

"Now"

It's for a film from the 70s

But sure... now

Isitreallysohard · 30/07/2025 23:07

It's gross, but they'll see worse everywhere so sadly this is the low standard we now have

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 30/07/2025 23:06

MissAvainthesun · 30/07/2025 22:45

When our children have been to Art galleries we have simply just walked on if we felt it was not appropriate. This has only happened once. Most galleries will warn if something is not age appropriate.

When we were on holiday a few months ago. There was a gallery showing a collection of works on a bondage theme and a little more extreme pictures. We were told the section it was in and they said no one under the age of 18 in that area. When we got up to that section we just simply walked on past with no fuss. When my daughter asked why we couldn’t go in that bit I just said remember the lady at the desk said no one under 18 as it wasn’t appropriate. It would be the same if we hadn’t been informed as they are only 6 and 8.

I love Art but there are times that there are things that are not appropriate for young eyes and this afternoon (and plenty of other times on TV) for me was one of them.

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Plenty of classic art depicts nudity

David himself is naked

This is nothing worse than you might see on a bit of a naughty postcard whilst away, and they wouldn't be age restricted or hidden away

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MissAvainthesun · 30/07/2025 22:45

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 30/07/2025 22:18

Better not take them to an art gallery if a vaguely suggestive drawing of a woman is a concern for the children

There's actual drawings and painting of nudity there

When our children have been to Art galleries we have simply just walked on if we felt it was not appropriate. This has only happened once. Most galleries will warn if something is not age appropriate.

When we were on holiday a few months ago. There was a gallery showing a collection of works on a bondage theme and a little more extreme pictures. We were told the section it was in and they said no one under the age of 18 in that area. When we got up to that section we just simply walked on past with no fuss. When my daughter asked why we couldn’t go in that bit I just said remember the lady at the desk said no one under 18 as it wasn’t appropriate. It would be the same if we hadn’t been informed as they are only 6 and 8.

I love Art but there are times that there are things that are not appropriate for young eyes and this afternoon (and plenty of other times on TV) for me was one of them.

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MissAvainthesun · 30/07/2025 22:31

ElaineParrish · 30/07/2025 21:27

I don't think the time of day has much bearing on what it'll show, it's likely based on suggestions from whats been watched on that account before.

Can't trust these platforms not to show inappropriate thumbnails, so you're better off selecting films you feel would be appropriate and give the kids that list.

Looks like a shite 70s raunchy comedy, like those dire 'carry on' films

As I’ve said a few times before it was just there when I turned the TV on. We try to monitor what our children watch as much as we can i.e we have profiles set up with pins on (SKY). Our computer is downstairs where we can see what they are on etc.

We communicate with parents what we are ok with and vice versa when our daughter stays over (which has only just started happening in the last few months) at their houses.

I just simply don’t like what it was depicting.

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UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 30/07/2025 22:18

Better not take them to an art gallery if a vaguely suggestive drawing of a woman is a concern for the children

There's actual drawings and painting of nudity there

GoneAlready · 30/07/2025 22:14

YANBU, OP, I agree with you.

Panterusblackish · 30/07/2025 22:13

anniegun · 30/07/2025 17:08

The films that you will see advertised are related to your viewing habits. Algorithms place the ads according to likely appeal

They're not very good though. We get recommended Love Island every time we watch the Tour de France

SharpLily · 30/07/2025 22:09

MissAvainthesun · 30/07/2025 21:20

So I am being unreasonable because I don’t agree with something that I feel isn’t appropriate for my child and young children in my care at the time?

Crikey Moses it’s just an opinion…if you think it’s appropriate for children of that age to see that type of thing then fair enough you do that. I don’t think it’s appropriate and a few others don’t on here either. So I do as much as I can whilst my child or other children are in my home not to let them see things like that at such a young age. I also wouldn’t be happy if an older child or their friends wanted to watch it whilst in my home.

It’s just the way I feel.

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I haven't suggested you are or aren't being unreasonable. However you posted in AIBU but have been clear you don't think you are. Maybe you should have gone for 'Chat' instead.