Wrong Underwear - I am Ungrateful

Go to M&S (or wherever you would chose for yourself ) and buy a couple of things you need. Comfortable stuff that fits well, not fancy cheese wire knickers.

Then tell DH you don't need undies this year as you've sorted through your old stuff and replaced it with new.

Do it soon, so he's still in the "window" for returns if pos

Good luck, @FurlaMetropolis my DH wouldn't have a clue what to buy, thankfully - even though I still buy his boxers.

This is clueless snd inconsiderate. The underwear is a gift for him.and not you.

Hmm are you sure he isn’t sending Mil out to buy them and that’s why they are wrong and out of returns window?

Tell him that you’ve decided to quit wearing underwear so you’ve no need for any new items of it. Tell MIL that you’ve decided to free-flap and free the nipple from now on so you don’t want new underwear. Enjoy the shocked looks on their faces.

Seriously though I’d tell them both to stop buying it and let DH have his man-trum.

@FurlaMetropolis why is he buying you any underwear at all??? is he the kind of man that actually buys from ann summers just because he likes it?? as for mil buying it too???? that is very personal!

Nothing anyone can say really if you won't tell him not to buy them anymore, and tell him to stop being a sulky jerk.
Personally, I'd take them and exchange them from something I wanted and shove them right back where they were. You don't usually need a receipt for exchanges.

Oh and tell you mil to stop buying you pants thanks as you prefer to choose them yourself. It's weird.

What a horrible, horrible present.

Hide it so he rips the house apart.

Tell him if he or his mother buy you any more underwear then you're sacking off gifts completely.

Did you like them when you were younger?

I totally get you OP. FWIW my underwear looks very unsexy as it is mostly M & S shapewear but it holds my tummy in and makes my clothes look good.

If dh wanted to treat me to lovely underwear I would ask him for a visit to somewhere like Rigby and Peller where the bras are £££ but goodness do they get the ft right as well as them being beautiful. Could you suggest something like that.

Out of interest, what kind of things do you buy him for bday/xmas?

If he won’t listen to specific requirements (which is pathetic), would he listen if you made it really simple for him and told him that he can only buy from M&S? At least that way, you could exchange, assuming they still have a good returns policy.

You shouldn’t have to plan a journey to the shops to exchange your own presents, but it’s less inconvenient than divorce.

If he wears boxers, buy him briefs or slips in the wrong size

And tell him that the wrong size bra can damage your breasts

My dh wouldn't have a clue if I say i could do with some new underwear he will ask if I want them as a gift and will pay. Not that I ever want underwear as a gift.
He did once see some provocative pants in a shop and had this weird/creepy look on his face and said "ooh they look nice" I just told him i would try not to laugh when he wore them.
I think you will have to tell him and his mum to stop wasting their money, if they get upset tough shit. No one seems to mind upsetting you.

This. Buy the wrong type the wrong size either far too big or far too small. That is his birthday present, don't be tempted to top up with other stuff if he only gets you underwear for your birthday
Then when he complains, say maybe we should stick to buying our own underwear in future, we seem to be unable to get the right ones for one another

I'm another one who would find that a selfish non-present, however I wouldn't say anything more than you have done already. He's an adult, if he doesn't understand what you've already said then you don't need to spend ages trying to teach him. The items can go to charity or Vinted or the bin. I most certainly would not be putting them in with my actual clothes. Get them out of the wardrobe and put them in a bag by the door to take with you when you next pass a charity. He'll get pissed off, but you need to shrug that off, don't let his tantrum shape how you manage this. He can tantrum over to one side while you get on with adulting. If you haven't let MIL know that you don't want her to buy you pants, then sure, say that, but I would do the same with this from her. I would also massively lower my expectations of future gifts from him, and just be prepared to put them in a bag to sell or give away.

I’d be gutted if I bought somebody something unsuitable and they were unable to return it. I’d certainly not make the exact same mistake again so he’s either thoughtless or selfish. I’d also feel aggrieved getting the same gift for every birthday and Christmas but that’s maybe just me. Sounds like he might get huffy if you tell him you’ve found them and don’t want them but if it’s either that or see money going to waste I’d fess up.

He can’t even be bothered to choose the correct size for you so why are you bothered about him being offended by you not having any use for his shit gifts? Tell him that you’ve found the shit presents and he might as well return them now as he has once again wasted his money on stuff that won’t fit/isn't suitable. And suggest he get you something else that isn’t fucking underwear. Same goes for his mum. Why is she buying you underwear anyway? So weird.

I would never let anyone else buy me a bra! What a minefield.
Put on your (correctly sized) big girl pants and tell them to stop buying you underwear!

Buy him a mankini and a jock strap .

Buy him some tiny thongs... Appear miffed if he won't wear them.

Never mind his feelings, what about yours? It is supposed to be a birthday present for YOU, something thoughtful and caring that YOU would like. Not just so he can see you trussed up like a chicken in undies that don’t fit or are uncomfortable.

Time to put him straight. If he kicks off, read him the fucking riot act. Lazy sod should be able to put some thought into a present for you.

He gets annoyed and doesn't listen! He sounds very inconsiderate of your feelings. Why?

Is there much of a market in vinted for it if they’re nice sets with labels still on?

I think that you need to be absolutely clear with him that you don’t want underwear at all for any kind of a present, and certainly not from your MIL. If he sulks or is unpleasant then I’d tell him he’s being unreasonable and unfair.

If he gives you the current things he’s bought and you can’t return them, then I’d sell them on Vinted for whatever you can get for them.