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Why’s my sofa in your lounge?

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BdayQ · 30/07/2025 01:17

We are in the process of moving house and are currently in a rental whilst we wait for the new house to be ready (expecting it to be about 6 months)
We have a fairly new 3 piece suite but only room for the chairs in the rental place, so ILs offered to store the sofa until the new house is ready. They have a big house and said it could go in a downstairs bedroom that never gets used. DH took it over in a van and took into the room it was supposed to stay in.
Anyway, we’ve come to stay with them today for a couple of days, went to see SIL this evening and there’s our sofa in her living room with a toddler and a dog sat on it! No covers or anything and just sat there like it’s supposed to be there.
DH didn’t know it was there either until we saw it but he wasn’t saying anything, so it was left for me to question why it was there… nobody could give a good reason why it’s at SILs house and were looking at me like I was mad for asking. DH then said we wanted it back in the spare room at ILs house rather than being used in SILs heavy footfall house and potentially getting damaged.
We did say if there was a problem storing it at ILs as per the agreed plan, it wasn’t a problem and we could arrange a storage unit instead. ILs just looked surprised/confused and said it was fine to move it back to theirs “if that’s what you want” in a bewildered sort of way. Apparently SIL scoffed like we were idiots for even bringing it up and said “FFS, what do you think it’s going to happen to your precious sofa?!” although that was when I was out of the room and DH only told me later that she said that.
AITA here? I pretty much know I’m not, but ILs and SILs reaction suggest they think there’s nothing wrong with moving it - but the audacity! And why the secrecy? Apparently they didn’t tell us because it wasn’t a big deal. But like I say, there’s also seemingly no good reason for it to have been moved, they’ve not even attempted to give a reason/excuse, just the offer to move it back to ILs “if that’s what you want.”

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HiRen · 30/07/2025 02:50

I think this is one of those situations where people see the same thing completely differently.

My SIL often asks to try on a ring I have. It’s my mum’s very dear to me, huge sentimental value. Nothing is going to happen to it if she tries it on. But I don’t like taking it off, I don’t want it on her finger. To her, it’s a random piece of jewelry. To me, it’s part of my mum.

To your PILs and SIL, it’s just a sofa. Literally meant for sitting on. To you, it’s your home furniture. Where you feel cosy and safe and it’s yours.

Alwaysyou · 30/07/2025 02:44

Wow the cheek! I'd be furious! If they wanted to use it for a while they could have at least asked.
I'd understand borrowing something small - but moving your sofa into their house is insane 😂

ohnotthisagain2025 · 30/07/2025 02:28

They're entitled pigs who are deliberately gaslighting you. Time to take a wide step back from them as this will show up in other ways.

Franjipanl8r · 30/07/2025 02:22

I would be furious about that and want it professionally cleaned! Remove it and put it into storage.

NeedZzzzzssss · 30/07/2025 01:47

Omg that's hilarious. Spoiler alert, your sofa is gonna get trashed! Yuk re the dog, let her have it 🤢

BruceAndNosh · 30/07/2025 01:44

That's bizarre!

TotHappy · 30/07/2025 01:40

Haha they obviously planned to steal it for 6 months! Are they a what's mine is yours family in general?

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