For getting married in the same month as my best friend?

Oh how silly of her. We got married around the same time as loads of our friends. It was just that kind of year. It was fun and exciting. The only thing we did was make sure we were back from honeymoon in time to go to the next wedding!

The more I read wedding threads on mumsnet the more bonkers I think brides are getting

It has become a focal point for some womens insane anxiety, a build up of extreme proportions that really impacts their sanity!

Your friend is being ludicrously unreasonable. It's just a day, a party, a lovely celebration for her relationship with people she loves. What happens any other day of the year has naff all to do with it or her.

I think you have to just kindly think she has lost her mind temporarily!

Friend is being ridiculous. People go a bit crazy and self absorbed when it comes to their big white weddings.

Your are having a small and intimate wedding. Your 'friend' can share the month with you.

You didn't ask her if that's OK. Who the hell put her in charge. As the old saying goes, with friends like her, who needs enemies.

I will never ever understand why people can’t just be happy for each other. My best friend got married the same month as my for no other reason than it made financial sense and it was last minute. Never did I even consider she needed to ask my permission. I was just delighted for her and delighted I had someone I could talk weddings to with who wouldn’t get bored.
Utter nonsense, three weeks after her wedding people will have mostly forgotten about it whether you were getting married or not.
Your right weddings come and go and friendships are meant to be forever but some people are stupidly self centred and short sighted. You actually sounds very understanding and nice though, your friend should know she’s lucky to have you.

No, because it hasn’t changed meaning at all.

It’s not apathy. The next day would be weird or even a week later. Three weeks is okay, it’s not a big wedding and she’s said it needed to fit with school holidays. Based on that, if she wants a summer wedding, you’re saying she should wait a whole extra year because the other bride needs to rest for several weeks! Most people are back to work three weeks post wedding.

It is Bridezilla to think that your friends need so much time to focus on you that another wedding a fortnight before has any impact on yours.

The year before we got married we had 3 weddings in 5 weekends with a weekend off between each. Large overlap of guests between all 3 and one involved travel abroad (to bride's home country where couple were already living).

Nobody thought it was unreasonable or exhausting or that any one wedding ws overshadowed because everyone was jist adult about it and perfectly capable of enjoying multiple celebrations.

It's not Bridezilla, it's normal. On here you'd be Bridezilla if you didn't want poo smeared on your face during the ceremony 🙄 (being facetious, but it does feel like that sometimes!!)

The year I got married we had 4 weddings within 4 months. 2 close friends and a sibling.

that’s just part and parcel of being at the age where people get married.

A couple in our friendship group booked their wedding 2 weeks before ours and everyone kept commenting about it to me and said it was really poor form of them so it definitely is a thing.

I’ll be honest I was a bit worried in the lead up as it did feel like there would be comparisons between the 2 weddings (they had a much bigger budget than ours) and I was also concerned that everyone would have a bit of wedding fatigue coming to ours 2 weeks after.

People can say that’s Bridezilla but when you’re spending a lot of money on something you want everyone to enjoy it.

This, it seems the friend, her mean girl possè and several MNetters seem to believe that this is a hierarchical friendship, where bridefriend is in charge, and @MumLife90 needs to ask her permission before making her own life decisions.
It's bloody bonkers people are actually suggesting she should plan her wedding to enable bridefriend chillax and 'bubble time' when clearly no consideration is being given to op. Just strops and bitchy gossiping.
I'd stop talking about your wedding and do it without her.

@RampantIvy
Well that seems much less stressful. The week after my wedding I had a week off to tidy up loose ends etc, then two more weeks in Maldives for a honeymoon. I think after that I was full recovered 😆

I'm one of those people who doesn't like to rely on other people (and probably a perfectionist) so did everything myself. I also have a very full on family with competing demands and expectations which added to the stress, and on top of that a tragic death. I'm also a Project Manager, so it's not like I'm not naturally good at planning and organising. It was a very stressful year! My advice to other people is to elope. It was a great day, probably the best day of my life but I'm not sure it was worth the stress and expense.

What on earth were you planning for a year? Why did you do so much if it was exhausting?

I didn't spend a year planning my wedding
I just had a straightforward church wedding with 40 guests, one bridesmaid and a buffet reception in a hotel just down the road from the church.
There wasn't much organising to do once the venue was booked other than sorting out the invitations, cake, flowers, photographer and my dress. My bridesmaid chose her own outfit.

It was not at all exhausting to organise and I didn't need weeks to recover afterwards. I think that is odd and I don't think I am the odd one out.

This was in the days when you could only get married in church or the register office, and years before mobile phones, let alone social media.

I did find my wedding exhausting hence the sympathy! After a year of planning all I wanted to do was chill out for a few weeks. There's also lots of things you need to do after a wedding too, it's not like after the event there's nothing left to do. Obviously depends on the type and size of the wedding etc. If you genuinely think planning a wedding the same month as your sister isn't weird, then sorry that you're the odd one out!

@Isitreallysohard It isn't really so hard you know.

It is three whole weeks after her wedding, not the next day. You must find life exhausting if you can't cope with two weddings three weeks apart, even if one of them is your own.

It's ok to have the world around us sometimes, like when you get married or have a baby. It's not something that happens often. What's with the competitiveness apathy

Her children are invited. Money in a card, outfit you’ve worn before, google maps. Not all of us think the world revolves around us.

“Wedding month” Christ almighty what a princess.

which is precisely why I put "starts with"......

Get an outfit, present, make childcare arrangements, travel arrangements etc. That's beside the point, after yoir own wedding you want to have some time to relax and unwind. Having your wedding a few weeks after your best friend, who is like a sister is weird!

What preparation has a guest got to do for an elopement? People can’t put their lives on hold for silly reasons.