Wedding situation

I agree, I didn’t mean it was, just that the bride may have agreed to a deposit.

Why would you pay for their storage and children and guests?

Just be honest, you booked the hotel you could afford.

Its worth asking the hotel if that is the case. Because I think the Bride is trying it on so that she does'nt lose use of your room and strong arm you into taking it, because in her head its become a set arrangement and she doesn't want to have to find an alternative that might cost her.

In all the weddings we've been to which involved a hotel, you have to be really quick to get a room and there are always people who have left it to the last minute who can't get a nearby room and miss out.

Last year my relative left it until a month before a wedding to book a room and ALL the rooms in a 10 mile radius (except for one extortionate one) were taken. They didn't have a car and ended up booking a campsite near the venue. Admittedly, that was summer in the Cotswolds and the hotel said it was "Wedding Season."

So I think if she's getting married in wedding season at what sounds like a reasonably nice hotel, they won't have much trouble filling the room.

And would 1 room dropping out of a block booking really justify the bride having to pay up a few hundred pounds, when she's already spending thousands on the reception and rooms? Surely if the hotel's policy is free cancellation up to Noon on the day, in general - the bride has a very good case that it should also apply to the one room out of her booking that's being dropped.? Added to which she could always ask the hotel if they have a spare room they could use just for a few hours for storage etc.

I really do think the Bride is just saying this. It's not just the storage. Its watching the kids too I think.

No, it’s the Bride’s problem, which explains why she might be upset!

Still not the OP's problem though.

The hotel may have given them special room rates based on a block booking, so the deposit terms would be different.

You’re joking!?! What are they after then!?

All this room stuff aside, how did you end up being part of this woman’s bridal party? You don’t seem particularly fond of her at all!

I’d ring and cancel the room if it’s in your name. And then message her and tell her it’s sorted.

Then screenshot it and tell her cancel it.
Decide if you really want to go to the wedding of such a cherky fxxker.

Have you spoken to them about it again?

Stand your ground OP. In fact, I’d pull out altogether as it sounds like your “friend” is going to use this as a reason to fall out with you anyway.

if you do still want to attend, tell her the room you have booked is non-refundable and you booked the alternative accommodation suggested early on.

Alternatively tell her that you can switch but she can’t use the room as you think it would be a safeguarding issue for the kids with all the sex toys you will have out.

They are absolutely CF expecting to be able to use your room - it’s not even as if they said they’ll pay for your room if you don’t mind others using it during the day. At least if they’d done that, you would have made an informed choice and not paid out a ridiculous amount.

Your mate is incredibly cheeky! She should have booked the room for her own purposes, not tried to lay costs on you. Please don’t allow her to railroad you into this, it’s absolutely awful of her.

Wowser £450 for 2 nights so they can use the room as a nursery. No dont do it.

id maybe think of something else then childcare, because it wouldn’t surprise me if they respond back saying you come alone so your husband can do childcare on his own.

unless he had a work emergency or conveniently slipped a disc in his back which made him immobile.

This is one of the few times I’m genuinely baffled why you’re even posting. It’s so obviously insanely cheeky what they’re asking of you. They want you to pay a premium price for a room at a hotel of their choosing so they can use YOUR room which you have paid for and have every fucking Tom dick and Harry traipsing in and out? All day??
how did you not just laugh and tell them to fuck off?

This is a great reply, send this.

Its ridiculous,basically getting your guests to sub your party!

Oh I like this, especially 'perhaps those people could split the cost with you.'

OP, they are cheeky fxxker users.
The cheek of them.
They are already married.

Only on MN does this bullshit fly.

Send the message your childcare has fallen through and wish them the best.

People who would use like that are not friends.

Low class behaviour IMO.

‘I’m sorry but you never mentioned a deposit, we have had to go with a cheaper option. We wouldn’t have been comfortable with other people using the room anyway, perhaps those people could split the cost with you.’

They want you to shell out £450 for 2 nights and assume they can use the room for their own purposes in the day time?!!

Fuck, THAT.

'booking a room on her behalf', sure, but did they make clear that there was a deposit? To be honest, though, I think the people whose wedding it is should cover these kinds of deposits, rather than expecting guests to do so.