Daughter doesn’t want me to take job offer

This is a totally different situation.

She is being incredibly manipulative. You need to stick to your guns

If she was annoyed I’d have sympathy for her, I can see her point to a degree. But sobbing and screaming? Absolutely not, take the job and tell her to pack it in or you won’t be funding her gymnastics any more. No excuse for that behaviour.

Some of these replies are very harsh. I don’t disagree that the OP should take the job, she should, but calling her dd bratty and spoilt is not going to help. And nor is it realistic for her to show empathy and compassion towards her mother, teens are naturally selfish, it’s part of their development, she won’t be like that for ever.

To her, having a parent at a place that she loves probably does feel like the end of the world. A bit of understanding and validation is called for.

In the past, there have been people applying for jobs in schools/activities/etc specifically to ensure that their children have no hiding place. My own parent did this to try to convince the school that she was a lovely, adorable, child loving woman instead of a child abusing nightmare. She even said after she appeared at the school for a trial day was that she'd get to know everything I'd ever said about her and set them straight about me. It made me very wary in jobs I had later (schools, the NHS, social services, etc) where a parent or partner would apply for a role and, unfortunately, sometimes there was reason to be.

I can understand why a teenager could feel like their safe place away from home has been invaded by a parent, even without the abuse angle.

What on earth?!!!

Take the job. She goes not get to limit your career.

Tell her you are taking the job but will not be coaching her group, and if the kicking off does not stop she till not be going any more.

Sadly you have brought up a spoilt brat.

take the job.

she can quit if she wants.

Your daughter is being ridiculous and is showing no empathy or care towards your feelings at all. Your career is important.

Tell her you've decided not to take the job but she will need to fund her hobbies and extras herself by getting a job.

You’re the adult, this is a good job offer in the field that you love, and you need the money.

You make the decision, not her. In the coming years, she’ll presumably age out of her classes and not be there anyway, whereas you can rebuild your career with this opportunity.

Why are you allowing her to have so much of a say? Her behaviour is bratty and childish and she needs to grow up.

You are the adult and you will make the decision and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to go. And if you pay tell her you will no longer be funding it if she continues.
Safe space my arse - kids nowadays using all this terminology for their own benefit. Your safe space should be your household but it's not with her screaming!

Do you honestly think that other coaches, who are presumably adults would be telling your teenage daughter, that you shouldn't be taking a job at her club????!!! I very much doubt any of the coaches have said a word to your daughter about the subject or have just listened to her complain. It would be unethical for them to pass comment to her. Your daughter is trying to get her own way, by any means possible, and if that means lying to you or exaggerating the truth, then that's what she'll do. You are her Mum, the adult of the family, and her tantrum doesn't trump you or the job. Take the job, she'll get over it, because she won't have any other bloody choice.

Why is your relationship already strained? Is there a back story that’s relevant here?

I presume you are paying for her gymnastics?? The money to fund her hobby, doesn't magically appear each month, you have to earn it. Therefore, if the weekend job at the club your daughter attends, helps family finances, then you take the job. I certainly wouldn't have my teenager dictating to me what job I take. You're the adult, not your daughter, and you are making decisions based on what you think is best for both of you long-term. As the saying goes 'suck it up buttercup'!

Tell her if you don’t accept the job, you can’t afford to pay for her to go there anymore x

Well she will have to decide which is worse having you as a coach at the club ( but not her coach) or giving up gymnastics

Bless her. Tell her tough luck

Take the job and let her know that the more fuss she makes the more you'll talk to her while you're there. She accepts you're taking the job graciously and you'll ignore her completely.

Go for the job. It will be good for your own benefit as it is what you have experience in.

it’s not like it’s full time and you’ll be in charge of her there. The extra income will benefit her too!

Given you won’t even be coaching her I think it’s fine and your daughter needs to get over it tbh. I’d understand if you were actually coaching your daughter and friends but it sounds like you’re not. Take the job OP

It seems like a rather extreme reaction - I think you need to explore the reasons why. With that being said, I hated doing any performance in front my mum as she can be quite critical. I felt less able to be myself around her.

Take the job.

You just can't let a teen dictate your job. If you do, you're giving her the ok to behave horribly to get you to do what she wants.

This is a big break for you, you need the money, you have the qualifications, and you won't be working with her, so she can take several seats. She's being bratty and unreasonable.

My mum joined the admin team at my high school. I dreaded it. It turned out fine, we kept out of each other's way and my friends liked her. Your daughter like me will get over it