To be depressed about my financial situation compared to my neighbors

There is enormous generational inequality in the UK based on when you got on the housing market.

Best not to dwell on it OP and count your blessings.

I am depressed about my financial situation compared to JK Rowling.

In fact no, I’m not. Because I’m not 7.

I really think you should give yourself a metaphorical slap and snap out of it.

I look at friends with property portfolios who have comfortable lives and who are desperately trying to earn even more money to leave to their children and I just think "why?"
I'm just glad we've been able to help our DC with a small deposit towards a house whilst they saved the rest living rent free at home. After that, they know that they will inherit anything we haven't a) already spent enjoying our retirement or b) is spent on care.
I really don't get this obsession with trying to create vast amounts of wealth to give to the children. Whatever happened to them making their own way in the world. And besides, I don't intend going anywhere for quite some time yet so DC will have a long wait!
DMIL is in her late 90's and quite likely to make 100+ so lucky DH wasn't relying on an inheritance to set him up for life!

Yet you're still jealous, comparing lifestyles that are miles apart.
It's a bit cringe.

with you attitude you will never be happy. You will always want more.
it must be horrible in your head space.

A) You're 20 years behind them. You have time!

B) Just focus on YOUR life, don't compare with others, or you'll never be content.

Why not count your blessings instead of being jealous of others. You’re in an enviable position.

Money isn’t everything but your health is, grow up and give yourself a reality check.
We have income of about a quarter of yours, I can’t work as I’m being treated for cancer and I have 2 kids. I have been hobbling around all day with swollen joints due to side effects.
You have a completely non problem!
i would love to be well enough to get a part time job to take the financial pressure off my husband, but who knows if this will actually ever happen.

My father born in the 40s is financially very secure purely via being born when he was born. My younger neighbour is a millionaire through her own skill, tenacity, attitude to risk and hard work. Meanwhile, me and DH just keep going as best we can, and are grateful for what we do have. Comparison achieves absolutely nothing!

You've cyber stalked her as well. Ffs.

Then recognise that your neighbours DID take that responsibility on and worked for it! Honestly, I'm finding very hard to believe you earn what you do, I always imagined people with high salaries must be very capable at thinking things through and seeing the bigger picture!

Well then your comparison is a bit moot my love, as that’s clearly how your neighbours have built wealth.

also that’s what letting agents and landlords insurance is for ;)

You"re an idiot. Its not their fault. Jealousy is an ugly emotion. Concentrate on your own life and stop comparing. My parents couldn't afford to buy me a house. I don't hold it against them! Health and happiness is more important than money.

I am neighbour’s age and no one I know has a “property portfolio” !! I’ve got one house and I doubt if OP would be very jealous of that. Obviously the further back in time you go to a certain extent people had “better” property for their status, eg a clerk being able to afford a house in Clapham at the turn of the last century. But there you go.

My dad's 'top line' was never above £15000 and he brought up 4 children on that wage and we never missed out on anything whilst growing up. My dad retired when my youngest brother was 20 and my sister 22 and still staying at home and my sister was at Uni, this was in 2007.

I had this same conversation with my sil recently! It is going to be so hard for DH and I to help our children get onto the property ladder. Similar to you, we have a 6 figure salary. If you'd have asked me years ago what my life would be like on upwards of 100k I'd have said a huge detached house in a desirable are, 2 expensive cars, an all inclusive holiday abroad each year, plus a couple of other UK breaks.... We live in a modest 3 bed semi in a desirable village in the home counties and do have an expensive company car, but certainly not the lifestyle a similar salary would've equated to back in the 90s/00s. Inflation has something to do with that. Although I do also think that I am somewhat blinkered by the fact that we do live in a beautiful, desirable village. A lot of people have much bigger or 'better character' houses than us where we live, but tbh a lot of them are older so made better property gains when the market was cheaper. Even 6-10 years older makes a huge difference.

In summary, I know some have just bitten at your privileges, but I came here to say that I feel you op. You are privileged, as am I, but it's easy to not feel so privileged when everyone around you has more. And if it's on your doorstep it's easy to be reminded of what you don't have.

As for advice - I just try not to look at what others have, or be jealous. It's not easy, but it's helpful to not dwell on others.

Good grief grow up OP. I worked with a mum recently who hadn’t eaten in three days so her kids could have dinner. Bit of perspective needed perhaps?

Exactly what I was going to say.

@greenwithenvy2 this is madness, no one has control over when they were born.
And looking things up on Companies House and then getting bitter about it makes you sound slightly unhinged.
As the first poster said: comparison is the thief of joy.

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Honestly OP, really?

You seem a bit unhinged searching your neighbours online

They're already at an advantage, as you can provide them with a home while they get on their feet. You really have to look at things differently. Don't worry about what next door are doing. You sound like you have so much to be thankful for.