To ask what you think to this? Is it selfish?

But she can feed her child. Just not with as nice of food as she'd like. On this one occassion. That would put other people at risk

As a chronically very unwell person, I’d say that this level of deliberate ignorance of other people’s needs is unacceptable.

Probably not.

However a friend of mine caught it as an adult when she was pregnant and unfortunately miscarried as a result.

I’m guessing you’ve already been out anyway?

Which is fine but what about things like work? If you can't work from home and don't get sick pay you are screwed, I care more about feeding my children and keeping a roof over their heads than some mystery vulnerable person. My husband feels the same and he has been very much 'crack on with life' about things. Our thinking being that he was vulnerable before covid but because there wasn't mass hysteria about illness he made the best decisions he could based on the risk of him getting ill. He certainly didn't begrudge his colleagues coming into work with a cold because he knew they would lose pay if they didn't.
I do think a lot (not all) of mumsnetters live in a very middle class bubble which includes being financially comfortable enough to be off sick (and probably get sick pay) and have no idea what it is like to fear being to ill to go to work.
If you are vulnerable then surely it is on you to protect yourself as much as possible rather than expect the vast majority of the population to tip toe around you.

This is untrue. I’m 30 and have never had it. I was tested when I went on immunosuppressants and had 0 antibodies for it. So no not everyone gets it.

Tbh I’d think you didn’t have much choice but I wouldn’t like it. As an adult I had to have the vaccine because I never had it as a kid, if I’d contracted it I’d be much more unwell than your child.

As a neighbour I’d also happily go for you if you asked.

No, not selfish. Everyone gets chicken pox at some stage.

Spin this around.

You take your perfectly healthy 5 year old into a shop only for someone else to have taken their sick contagious child into the store, would you be happy if your son got ill from that?

I remember when I was 5yrs old with chicken pox, off school and DM had to collect DSis from playgroup. She parked me in the playground next door and no one died.

You can't catch chicken pox by being in the same shop.

You might not be too worried about him getting ill but lots of other people do actually care about and want to protect the vulnerable people.

Garage OP.

It’s chickenpox not the plague. A quick run in and make sure he doesn’t touch anything is reasonable.

Oh, before anyone dives on me my husband was in the clinically vulnerable category during covid....

Exactly this!
There is always hysteria on here if anyone mentions leaving the house with so much as a sniffle.....
As long as you cover your child (long sleeves/trousers) and don't allow them to cough and splutter over the produce the chances of anyone catching anything are very remote.
Since Covid people seem to want to isolate with every single disease. Unfortunately if we all do that immunity will drop and we will end up sick/dying from things we would previously fought off easily.
If people are vulnerable to certain things would it not make sense for them to be getting regular home deliveries rather than expecting the population to grind to a hault and isolate every time a bug goes around?

Not everywhere has Amazon fresh or uber groceries. I don’t in my area. I can only get next day delivery

I don’t see it as an issue! As long as they don’t touch anyone and keep them from touching things I don’t see the issue.

If you drive, you could go to a corner shop where you can park outside and just get the bits you need whilst she waits in the car.

I used to live rurally and didn’t drive/had no support and so there’s no way I could have had shopping dropped off.

I’d not want to drag my child out unnecessarily and so I’d try not to take them out and leave it at least another day or 2.

But if you genuinely have no food in the house etc then you don’t have any other choice.

I live in a town yet NONE of those options are available here. You can’t presume that everyone lives in large towns/cities where all of these are readily available. If I were the OP, I’d be stuck too. If I were lucky, I’d be able to get a slot the next day.

Yes, selfish. They could do click and collect so drive somewhere and collect the food within the hour.

It's not the best for other people especially those vulnerable but it is best for this person's child to have food/medicine. That person will (I would hope) put their child's needs first and get them the food/supplies they need. Is it selfish? Yes but sometimes selfish is necessary

Very selfish. Theres pregnant women and immunocompromised people. They should ask a neighbour to go

I would think that was pretty bad behaviour, sorry, unless things are really desperate.

Unless your cash situation is really dire and your really don't have any food you can get by on for a day or two, then I would book a delivery for a day or two's time and manage until then. If necessary, as part of "managing until then" I would either park outside a small local shop and grab a few things quickly and/or ask someone local to get a few things for you (local FB group? parents' WA group). Only if you really, really couldn't do any of those things would I take child in a shop (keeping a distance from everyone else)