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Mum guilt!

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HH93 · 29/07/2025 15:52

I can’t drive, and nor will I unfortunately.

I have tried before a few times and had extreme anxieties which crippled me and made me very very poorly.

however now my children are getting older I’m beginning to feel guilt for not being able to take them places that don’t require walking or a bus when it comes to the holidays .

They certainly don’t go without!, we go on plenty of holidays and weekend trips when their dads not working, but I can’t help feeling so so shit about myself and really getting myself down about it.

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Ademasstudio · 29/07/2025 16:29

HH93 · 29/07/2025 16:26

Only about 6 miles.

2 child, 9 and 5.
I’ve never heard of a family bus pass, I’ll have to ask next time

I mentioned on another comment just now, I’ve noticed a huge price hike this year. We have many roads closed or with restricted access atm, so I don’t know if they’re being craft and that’s why?

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Loads of family bus passes in holidays

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HH93 · 29/07/2025 16:26

Ademasstudio · 29/07/2025 16:20

how far from town?!

and there’s no family bus passes? How many children and how old??

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Only about 6 miles.

2 child, 9 and 5.
I’ve never heard of a family bus pass, I’ll have to ask next time

I mentioned on another comment just now, I’ve noticed a huge price hike this year. We have many roads closed or with restricted access atm, so I don’t know if they’re being craft and that’s why?

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Ademasstudio · 29/07/2025 16:25

HH93 · 29/07/2025 16:24

It is, I’ve got no idea why!

it seems really craft as well that currently there are many roads closed or restricted access and that’s when noticed the prices change dramatically

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I am guessing then that you live very rurally

how many and how old are the children?

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HH93 · 29/07/2025 16:24

butterdish93 · 29/07/2025 16:20

Oh right that’s expensive! Transport must be much higher where you are

It is, I’ve got no idea why!

it seems really craft as well that currently there are many roads closed or restricted access and that’s when noticed the prices change dramatically

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Ademasstudio · 29/07/2025 16:20

HH93 · 29/07/2025 16:18

Yeah! £18 for return tickets to town and back!! (I know, £6 each but there’s meant to be a cap. Which there isn’t here unfortunately!!).

Local to schools yes, their close friends - no.

how far from town?!

and there’s no family bus passes? How many children and how old??

butterdish93 · 29/07/2025 16:20

Oh right that’s expensive! Transport must be much higher where you are

butterdish93 · 29/07/2025 16:19

I get it! I don’t drive either. But I’ve got to know the bus routes really well and we go all over the place. With the view of learning to drive later this year. Just have to be a bit more inventive. It’s good for the kids to get used to being patient and stuff I think.

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HH93 · 29/07/2025 16:18

Yeah! £18 for return tickets to town and back!! (I know, £6 each but there’s meant to be a cap. Which there isn’t here unfortunately!!).

Local to schools yes, their close friends - no.

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Ademasstudio · 29/07/2025 16:17

HH93 · 29/07/2025 16:15

only the cost is the real issue with it

Public transport? But so cheap to travel with kids!!!

What kind of place do you live in?
local to their schools and friends?

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HH93 · 29/07/2025 16:15

only the cost is the real issue with it

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Ademasstudio · 29/07/2025 15:55

As long as you don’t live very rurally (which so many non drivers on mumsnet seem to!), then being able to walk to use public transport is no biggie during the holidays surely?