To think that DD(8) and DD(1) will always have to share a room when older?

I'm sure there are outliers, but surely as part of responsible family planning this would be an important consideration. It's important for people, especially teens to have their own space. A home should be a sanctuary, not a chaotic space.

My son was in a slightly larger than toddler bed not a single bed from ikea until he was 9, and we are a tall family.

does that house have a garage you could convert or space outside enough to extend if funds allow in the future? If they need to share then they need to share, but you never know what you might be able to work.

Please could you point me to the source of shared rooms as a poverty indicator? All my searching is bringing up is how there are thousands of children who don't even have a bed or share a bed with parents/ siblings.

Ok so everyone with 3 children has a minimum of a 4 bed house? If you say so.

I suppose my parents were neglectful have my brothers after me then as we only bad3 bedrooms

Is the lounge maybe large enough to divide some off as a ‘ room ‘ .

I'm laughing at you thinking anyone who shares a room is some sort of over breeding scumbag.

Plenty of kids share rooms. It's fine. Look on rightmove at the number of houses with bunk beds. Most of my kids friends share a room.

It's really not ok is it. Same as it wasn't ok for their previous landlord to kick them out with 2 babies under 6 months old. And the " emergency" housing they were given they've now been in for years. Can't afford a 3 bed private rental ( or a 2 for that matter) and if they were to give up their current place they'd not get anywhere secure.

Shit happens you know. It's not as though they had more kids while being overcrowded

It honestly is, look it up. Not sure why you think it's something to laugh at 😒

Honestly OP I don't think this is a huge deal.

I have four kids, the youngest was a bit of a surprise and is six years younger than the next youngest. We've never had enough rooms for all to have their own, and they've all shared at various points.

In the end what worked best was for youngest to share with her eldest sister, who is 12 years older. This seemed to work just fine, it really is a small thing in life. Eldest is out in her own place and working now, but when she comes home on holidays she uses her old bed and youngest is just massively thrilled to have her there, in fact often she'll go sleep in her bed with her.

Exactly.

A poverty indicator 😂😂

Shit I'm second generation povvo.

At least you do recognise that it's 'half' and not the 1% or whatever other nonsense people were saying earlier. As I said before, I don't know anyone whose children share a room and I didn't know all that many growing up, either.

If they have to share then that’s what will happen… it can’t be helped. Currently my two children (DS6 and DD4) have to share with step/half siblings (SD12 and SS8). The girls in one room and boys in another. Luckily we also have a home office on the ground floor that SD12 has taken to hanging out in. I’m working on making this less work like and with some comfy arm chairs/craft storage for her. I can’t change it to her bedroom as atm work into the evenings on Teams and need the private space to do that. My bedroom wouldn’t work as DD4 still falls asleep in there.

what I’m trying to say is sacrifices are sometimes made, they will be fine.

Is the master bedroom big enough that you could split it? And you and DH take the 2nd largest room? Failing that, the office to be given to oldest for studying?

I don't think sharing is a big deal until oldest in secondary, has lots of homework and friends round. Mine are 3 years apart have own rooms but for past couple years wanted to share and were camping out in each other's rooms several nights a week so we put bunk beds in youngests room and now oldest hasn't slept in her own room for several months and both are sleeping better and closer. Sharing can be a positive thing

It's really not normal. It was normal in my parents generation, when they had 5 or more kids. It's not normal now, it's actually a poverty indicator. HTH.

Reported the troll.

Fwiw she can house them.

Unfair for children to share a bedroom? Are you for real? Of course it's fair and absolutely fine and perfectly normal. How the other half live 🤣.

These Four Yorkshiremen replies are bizarre. The world has moved on a lot since the 80s.

I had to share a bedroom with two younger sisters and I hated the lack of privacy. My two younger brothers also shared a room. I stayed out of the house as much as possible and left home at the earliest opportunity.

Of course it's unfair! These responses are insane.

And what about people living in social housing? A friends daughter is in a one bedroom flat with 2 kids age 9 ( b/g twins)

They have the living room with a sofa bed and kids share bedroom.

But as far as the council are concerned they are not priority to me moved.

Must be loads and loads of people with kids sharing. There's a housing crisis don't you know?

Hugely privileged. So privileged you don't even realise.

OP it'll be fine. I shared a room til I moved out. Absolutely no issue. Did homework on the shared dining room table.

What that I lived in a 3 bed house parents in one room, me in one and brothers shared one. How is that not normal?

I think it's unfair for children, let alone teens to be sharing a room, let alone a 1 and 8 year old. It shouldn't be acceptable.