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Unfair Grandparent Gifts

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PupPupPupAndAway · 29/07/2025 14:01

My PILs have given my nephew an expensive 18th birthday gift and I’m fuming.

DH is one of four DC, there are a total of 9 GC. 5 have already turned 18 and have been given lovely gifts. This weekend DN turned 18 and was given a gift worth 20x what the other GC had been given.

DH is upset, but to worried about fall out to say anything. I’m angry and want to tell them to fuck off. We won’t say anything but AIBU that such obvious favouritism in a family is really shitty.

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R0ckandHardPlace · 29/07/2025 14:11

My ex PILs always doted on my eldest DS, and were indifferent to his younger brother. One year they bought DS a very expensive desktop PC for his birthday. My younger son got a shorts and T-shirt set from Asda on his birthday a couple of months later.

There isn’t really anything you can do except talk to them about how the other grandchildren will feel about the lack of parity in their gifts.

RentalWoesNotFun · 29/07/2025 14:10

Could it be they worked out how much money per family? For example five grand to a sister for her five kids who get a grand each. And five grand to a brothers kid as he’s an only child so his “family” gets five grand too?

HerdMentality · 29/07/2025 14:08

What are the gifts. My child was given a less valuable 21st present by his DGM but it had greater sentimental value.

SleepyRedPanda · 29/07/2025 14:05

YANBU about blatant favouritism.

Is there any possibility that their finances have massively improved since the last niece or nephew turned 18 and, as a result, their gift reflects that?