To say MIL not sleeping on new sofa when it arrives?

Sofa beds aren’t as comfy as regular sofas as they sag quicker or the mechanism breaks. That’s why we don’t have one.

so I get your point there.

In that case you really have no case for objecting to MIL using the sofa to sleep on. If you wouldn't compromise on the sofa bed, you'll need to compromise somewhere else.

In any event, it's very difficult to work out how you claim you have enough room for a sofa and a pop-up bed, but no room for a sofa bed.

YABU for not buying a sofa bed!

If you put the right covering on under the person why would they make the sofa smell any more than people sitting on them?

I think it is unreasonable to not let her sleep on the sofa but not unreasonable to draw the line at the dog, unless you could cover the sofa first to avoid hair and scratches? As others have said your sofa will not look nice and new long with a toddler. We brought our sofas pre kids when we moved in 6 years ago and I am definitely not replacing them till my kids are a bit older and not likely to spill stuff on them etc. kids will evitable spills drinks on a sofa, drop food/snacks, dribble, snot, potty training accidents, or even better sick on it, should have saved you money for a few years down the line.

Frankly life's to short for all these handwriting. It's a sofa why didn't you get a sofa bed if your MIL stays with you? Blow up beds are sweaty and miserable. Get some protective covers and stop being so precious. Is MIL babysitting when she comes over? Is the dog a st Bernard or what? Storm in a teacup

I’ve slept on the sofa at my daughters house (with my medium sized dog) and it’s lovely - I can also watch tv from there! We now also have a very nice blow up double bed that has an electric pump. Much better for me and my dog in fact but I was initially worried as I had bad memories of sleeping on a leaky small blowup bed (worse than a lilo!) at a friends house. But the new blow up beds are much MUCH better esp with the automatic pump, and not expensive.

Someone else has suggested one of the temp covers for your new sofa and that also sounds like a good idea. I can’t imagine that your toddler won’t put sticky fingers on the new sofa as well!

Please don’t give up your bed, you need sleep when pregnant and your mum would probably not want you to move out of your room anyway.

Hope new sofa goes well 🌷

I think MIL knows it’s CF behaviour sleeping on a new couch with a dog by her reply “can’t wait to sleep on it.” That’s her subtle way of telling her son her and the dog will still be staying. I’m 100% with you on this one. DH is IBU

I thought this too. MIL is being antagonistic and a bit territorial here.

Why don’t you get a sofa bed for toddlers room. Or buy a bed for there as toddler will grow. Presume baby 2 will eventually move into second room so you’ll need to sort something.

Why?
It's OPs house, so her choice.

This, absolutely this.
I wouldn't be giving up my bed either.
Most guests are happy to sleep on whatever is offered.

Perhaps you should just have a conversation with mil and ask for her advice. Tell her that you don’t want to use the new sofa as a bed but that you want her to feel comfortable when she comes and are therefore looking into different options. Then give her a choice and get her to say which she would prefer (but sofa is not one of those options!).

I don’t think she says she has a sofa bed. The op just says sofa.

YANBU
sofas get smelly if they are slept on. No way would I have someone sleep on my new sofa and 💯 not reasonable to have your dog sleep on the furniture in someone else’s house .

@Starry4321 I can’t believe some of the ridiculous suggestions you are getting! I am 100% with you on this. I wouldn’t want a adult sleeping on my new sofa let alone a dog - that’s actually disgusting. If I moved my toddler out of their room for a few nights they would be so confused and upset - it would be a nightmare. I also wouldn’t let a dog sleep in my bed. Your suggestion of a camp style bed is perfect. I think MIL knows it’s CF behaviour sleeping on a new couch with a dog by her reply “can’t wait to sleep on it.” That’s her subtle way of telling her son her and the dog will still be staying. I’m 100% with you on this one. DH is IBU

Someone sleeping on a sofa for a few nights won't make it saggy or misshapen. But a smelly dog may permeate, so you'll just have to provide lots of covers to prevent that.
It might well be, as has been suggested upthread, that the new sofa isn't as comfortable to MIL, and next time she'll accept the offer of a blow-up bed.

Did you not consider ordering a sofa with an integrated pull out sofa bed?

Its not mil. Its toddler and dog. Put covers on for both

Sounds like you should have discussed this before you bought the sofa. You could have bought one with a bed.

YABU for not having replaced your old sofa with a dark coloured sofa bed.

I would let MIL and dog sleep on the new sofa, but make sure it is very well covered with throws/sheets first. You’ll need plenty of throws on it anyway for when your toddler and new baby get their mitts on it.

Can you say that you appreciate MIL's visits and want to honour them with getting her a proper fold out bed / air bed / futon / whatever she wants, so that she is comfortable and feels welcomed at your house? That way it's more like you're making space for her and investing in her visits..

I don't like the thought of someone sleeping on my sofa either, OP, and I can't believe it's more comfortable than a proper fold out bed!

DRFT so I may have missed this, sorry, but in what world did you get to the point of ordering a new sofa without having first agreed on what to do with MIL, seeing how her visits are seemingly frequent and an important part of your lives?

Sleeping on sofas is a no no - it will ruin the cushions and misshape them. I wouldn’t let a dog in my house, let alone on my new sofa. You’re not being unreasonable.