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‘Built not bought’

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danglingcarrots · 28/07/2025 14:23

I keep seeing posts on social media (TikTok, Instagram etc) with someone celebrating graduating uni with lots of pictures and captions about the fact they are the first generation to do so, that they managed to get good GCSEs and A levels despite going to a bad state school and being on pupil premium, some also with difficult family dynamics.

These posts about their achievements are often accompanied by the title and hashtag ‘built not bought’ with others commenting messages along the lines of ‘same here, just graduated with a first, state school, FSM, single mum, first in the family to go to uni #builtnotbought’

I understand celebrating achievements, especially if there has been extra hardship, but is this a bit diminishing towards others who have gained degrees etc whilst not coming from a disadvantaged background? The ‘not bought’ bit just makes it sound like others are handed everything.

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FlipSnip · 28/07/2025 15:07

Sundaymorningcalla · 28/07/2025 14:50

Most of these folk get a degree and end up stacking shelves at Asda.

Thick as fuck. Passing an exam doesn't mean you are intelligent.

Which "folk" are you referring to?

Agix · 28/07/2025 15:07

Most people from wealthy backgrounds can just buy everything, including qualifications. They can afford additional tutoring at the very least, and often are in more stable environments due to the money so don't have to work half as hard to learn and pass. They can afford to attend uni rather than leave school to go straight into the first job that will have them, to survive.

Then you of course have the ones who are entirely useless but managed to come out shining anyway due to family connections and money.

It is harder if you're from a poor background and disadvantaged.

fruitbrewhaha · 28/07/2025 15:07

Well they’ve paid a fortune for their degree, haven’t they? Mine was free.

It does make them look a bit thick.

SylvanianFamiliesBalcony · 28/07/2025 15:06

Wiennetta · 28/07/2025 15:02

I don’t think anyone is saying that people who had lots of privilege (like a private education) didn’t also have to work hard. But people who did well having not had all that privilege have every right to celebrate that they did it despite not having all the extra help.

If a private education, tutoring etc didn’t make things much easier, nobody would pay for them, would they?

Sure, but claiming someone in that position BOUGHT their education is pretty offensive imo. Surely there are other ways of saying you're proud of your own hard work against the odds?

(I say that as someone that definitely would be classed as 'built' to these people, council estate, addicted dead parent, bankrupt young, criminal siblings, nobody else had been to uni in my family, and so forth, never would have thought to try and put someone else down to elevate myself. That's one thing about a degree that's so cool, it's an equaliser, you all walk across the stage just the same)

Wiennetta · 28/07/2025 15:02

I don’t think anyone is saying that people who had lots of privilege (like a private education) didn’t also have to work hard. But people who did well having not had all that privilege have every right to celebrate that they did it despite not having all the extra help.

If a private education, tutoring etc didn’t make things much easier, nobody would pay for them, would they?

Jellycatspyjamas · 28/07/2025 15:00

It’s well recognised that it’s much easier to do well academically if you have more resources - it’s much harder if you’re financially strapped and things like a hot meal, appropriate clothes, a warm home are a struggle or even out of reach. It’s ok to acknowledge you’ve done well despite the odds. As an adult I can see that many kids have to overcome a lot to achieve what’s taken for granted by many others.

TheCurious0range · 28/07/2025 14:56

I took it to mean they hadn't had a private (paid for) education so got to university on their own. Yes public school students work hard but let's not pretend it's the same as going to a comp on a sink hole estate

Everanewbie · 28/07/2025 14:53

#builtnotbought right next to #free palestine or whatever. Fashionable stuff for peer approval. Young people post stuff that they'll cringe about down the line.

Scroll on.

upandleftthenright · 28/07/2025 14:53

Sundaymorningcalla · 28/07/2025 14:50

Most of these folk get a degree and end up stacking shelves at Asda.

Thick as fuck. Passing an exam doesn't mean you are intelligent.

What? How in the hell do you come to that conclusion? That’s some snobbery.

Sundaymorningcalla · 28/07/2025 14:50

Most of these folk get a degree and end up stacking shelves at Asda.

Thick as fuck. Passing an exam doesn't mean you are intelligent.

SylvanianFamiliesBalcony · 28/07/2025 14:30

That's a bit silly tbh, they're showing their lack of knowledge in assuming that people who aren't from a disadvantaged background 'bought' their education. Nope. You have to submit the exact same assignments, sit the same essays, as everyone else. Even if someone has the resources to pay for private tuition or has family in the industry they're studying, they still have to do the work.

Ironically it just makes them look a bit stupid.

Rizzz · 28/07/2025 14:29

I'm sure no-one gives a shit really once they've got the degree they've studied hard for.

Besides there'll be a different hashtag and phrase soon enough.