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KillingMeWithSilence · 2025-07-28T12:02:30+00:00

AiBU to think that i am no longer peri? no symptoms to speak of, or do they come later?

CloudywMeatballs · 28/07/2025 16:20

CharlotteBakewell · 28/07/2025 16:14

Tbh I’ve not seen a GP for around 5 years, so I’m unsure if ours would offer this. I should really go to see about the coil being removed but I’m slightly worried about it. I’ve gone over the time when it should have been removed.

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I'm not in the UK. I see a gynecologist annually for a check up, as is recommended where I live, so it would have been part of this visit (if it wasn't obvious that I wasn't menopausal yet!).
You definitely should be engaging with your health care providers more regularly than that! What is it that you are worried about exactly?
(Also curious why you are calling it a "coil"? It's an IUD.)

Cantbebotheredwithausername · 28/07/2025 16:17

The definition of menopause is having no period for 12 months. Som you've made it past menopause by a few years (and definitely not perimenopausal any longer) without any symptoms other than missing your period. Congratulations. Menopause is not necessarily awful for all women, some barely feel it at all. You just got lucky.

KPPlumbing · 28/07/2025 16:17

gamerchick · 28/07/2025 16:02

No but those who do sail through it should have bone density checks done.

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Oh my mum's bone density would be shocking. She's never so much as walked to the corner shop. And now she's in her 70s, she's got no physical resilience.

I've always been very active, unlike her, but started doing serious strength training at 40 to make sure I go into the menopause and old age strong.

CharlotteBakewell · 28/07/2025 16:15

I do have huge brain fog though so would be interested to know.

CharlotteBakewell · 28/07/2025 16:14

CloudywMeatballs · 28/07/2025 15:59

When I had my last Mirena IUD fitted, in my early 50s, my doctor told me that if it caused me to stop bleeding entirely they would test my blood every year to see the hormone levels to know if I'd gone through menopause. Does yours not do that? As it happens, I do still spot regularly so no blood tests required!

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Tbh I’ve not seen a GP for around 5 years, so I’m unsure if ours would offer this. I should really go to see about the coil being removed but I’m slightly worried about it. I’ve gone over the time when it should have been removed.

gamerchick · 28/07/2025 16:02

KPPlumbing · 28/07/2025 13:37

How did you not realise before now?!

My mum said she breezed through the menopause with no symptoms, and didn't even notice it was happening, so it's not always the doom and gloom we see in the media these days.

No but those who do sail through it should have bone density checks done.

CoastalCalm · 28/07/2025 16:02

You might still get symptoms , my last one was about same time as yours but a recent hysterectomy and fact I can’t take HRT has sent me into symptom hell

CloudywMeatballs · 28/07/2025 15:59

CharlotteBakewell · 28/07/2025 15:53

I’m 55 and still have the Mirena coil fitted, haven’t had a period since I first had it when I was around 37, so no idea if I’ve gone through it or not.

Sounds like you’re through the other side, OP, finger’s crossed.

When I had my last Mirena IUD fitted, in my early 50s, my doctor told me that if it caused me to stop bleeding entirely they would test my blood every year to see the hormone levels to know if I'd gone through menopause. Does yours not do that? As it happens, I do still spot regularly so no blood tests required!

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KillingMeWithSilence · 28/07/2025 15:58

My mum had the full works of symptoms, so I was thinking i would be the same. I feel for my sister now

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mamagogo1 · 28/07/2025 15:55

@KPPlumbing

my mum said she had no symptoms and doesn’t understand all the obsession today, I’m 6 months since last period currently (had a 4 month break last year so not calling it yet) and like her no symptoms to speak of except poor sleep but I’ve been like that since having dc 20 years ago! No everyone has a bad experience at menopause but our stories aren’t very interesting to hear

Yes my step mum also said the same. They're both very tough, no nonsense - a bit too far in the other direction at times - but both think "You're noone if you're not suffering", and the increased awareness through people like Davina is making some women look for symptoms that they might otherwise not spot.

DancingLions · 28/07/2025 15:57

I'm counting down the months! I keep hitting 6 months, then another period arrives. It's driving me crazy. I'm at the 6 month mark again now and am very aware of how long it's been since my last one. I'm desperate to hit that 12 month point. I'm 56 this year so it's way past time imo.

CloudywMeatballs · 28/07/2025 15:57

Isn't the definition of menopause not having a period for at least 12 months? Then I think you're post menopausal.
Not everyone has symptoms during peri-menopause.

mamagogo1 · 28/07/2025 15:55

@KPPlumbing

my mum said she had no symptoms and doesn’t understand all the obsession today, I’m 6 months since last period currently (had a 4 month break last year so not calling it yet) and like her no symptoms to speak of except poor sleep but I’ve been like that since having dc 20 years ago! No everyone has a bad experience at menopause but our stories aren’t very interesting to hear

CharlotteBakewell · 28/07/2025 15:53

I’m 55 and still have the Mirena coil fitted, haven’t had a period since I first had it when I was around 37, so no idea if I’ve gone through it or not.

Sounds like you’re through the other side, OP, finger’s crossed.

CurlyCabbage · 28/07/2025 15:53

Amazing if youve had minimal to no symptoms. You are officially post-menopausal!

on a side note, If you actually get any vaginal bleeding from now on it would be deemed abnormal and you would be advised to go to the doctors asap. Whether or not it was like a period.

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KillingMeWithSilence · 28/07/2025 15:50

Yes, i just hadnt clocked how long it had been. No symptoms except no menstruation so it just passed me by, like the winter of 1999, but thats another story, to be told by someone else, because it passed me by

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LeftieRightsHoarder · 28/07/2025 15:50

I only knew I’d gone through menopause, at around OP’s age, when I noticed I hadn’t had a period for ages. I had no emotional/psychological symptoms, and only a few very mild flushes in the months after my periods stopped.

Notellinganyone · 28/07/2025 15:48

Medically it’s 12 months with no period and you are post menopausal. Before that it’s peri. There’s no actual menopause in that sense it’s a process.

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KillingMeWithSilence · 28/07/2025 15:43

cheezncrackers · 28/07/2025 15:41

Congratulations OP - it sounds like you've gone through the menopause without even noticing. Four years ago!

Well i noticed at the time cos i took like 5 pregnancy tests because i was so “late”

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KillingMeWithSilence · 28/07/2025 15:42

I thought i was peri because i was thinking “a year with no period and i am done” but time flies ….

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cheezncrackers · 28/07/2025 15:41

Congratulations OP - it sounds like you've gone through the menopause without even noticing. Four years ago!

DonnaBanana · 28/07/2025 15:40

Weird I wonder what on earth it could be

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KillingMeWithSilence · 28/07/2025 15:38

I used to track on an app, i stopped using the app, relauncjed it to start watching my food and there it was may 2021, thinking back i was yeah that makes sense.

i am 52

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Coffeeishot · 28/07/2025 14:58

Coffeeishot · 28/07/2025 13:05

If you have had no period for that lobf you are post menopausal, i dont know why you thought you were perimenipausal

God sake the typos in this 😳 i will blame the menopause brain 😀

KPPlumbing · 28/07/2025 13:37

How did you not realise before now?!

My mum said she breezed through the menopause with no symptoms, and didn't even notice it was happening, so it's not always the doom and gloom we see in the media these days.