Child’s friend insulted house

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I can not phantom the amount of people who shrugs it off with a 'she is a kid'. She is 8!!

Do you not raise your children to be kind and considerate of others? I think it is absolutely insane 🤯.

I would be absolutely mortified if one of mine ever had behaved in such an entitled and inconsiderate manner.

Kindness and respect is not optional. As I said this happened to my son last week, he is 6. It was the first playdate he had in our home and he was so excited and proud about it. That comment really hurt his feelings and the rude, entitled little shit will not be coming back to our house until they has learned some manners.

So you know he's masking his situation and you still wouldn't invite the kid?

My niece called me Fat many times at 8 years old. Like wow you're sooo big! I should have called the police as my mental health is affected 🙄

My friends has this happen to them a lot, they lived in a flat and their daughter always made friends with wealthy children with big houses. Often had comments like “why don’t you have an upstairs” and “how can your house not have a garden” - think it’s normal!

Dropped dds posh friend home literally covered in mud after a down and dirty festival and she muttered how she had better get washed up quickly as she was having tea with a king that afternoon 😀. Of a small Asian state but still cracked us up!

Walking home from school aged about 9 with schoolfriend, talking about weekend. Me "I'm going swimming with Jane and Emma. Do you want to come?" 'I'd like to but we've got to go to the Queen's garden party. We go every year. Do you ever go?" she asked hopefully. 'Er no. Never done that'. Point being that she wasn't bragging, she was quite miffed at being dragged along with her parents to a boring event. We attended a perfectly ordinary state primary with no noticeable signs of privilege going on. I was poor, she was not. Neither of us at that age had noticed any inequality between us. Don't worry about the size of your house.

My kids would absolutely know not to say this at 8 (and probably from around age 6).

Jesus, that's just nasty, not "saying what you see" like the big/snall house thing. Nasty kid.

She’s just a kid.

My DD had a friend like this; he was a rude little shit! Got in my car once and was going "errrrrr your cars so old and rubbish", I told him "if you don't like it, i can walk you back home dear 🙃" He actually snarled and told me to shut up! My DD was shocked and said "you cant talk to my mum like that". I was very proud of her reaction! Needless to say, despite continuing friendship from reception to year 6, he's never been invited back.

However, he was a complete bullshitter. He would tell my DD all her toys were rubbish; but i knew for a fact from being friends with his mum, that they were on the breadline and he wasn't flush with half the things DD had. I think it was his mask to criticise others so openly.

Well said....

This thread is ridiculousis.
I'm reading it and thinking wow, some posters actually think that a kid's factual remarks mean something?

Just wow!

Over a factual remark said by a child?

Please tell me you're joking?

I know, it's ridiculous!

Some posters (and OP) think it actually means something??

🤣 🤣

Give over….she’s 8

Your child's friend is a rude little piece of work.

I'd be throwing a wet blanket over the friendship unless she has a lot of redeeming qualities and her parents are nice, down to earth people.

I'd expect that the parents of that little angel had taught them some manners at the very least

I remember being around this age and telling our landlady that her dogs must have thought she was a big steak, that’s why they followed her around so much. I’m nearly 40 and still embarrassed! She found it hilarious luckily. She went off to tell the adults who all laughed.

It happens. I think as a parent you’d explain why it can be an insult, but on the receiving end and without some backstory about how the child is poorly behaved/snobby, it’s just an observation. With my own I emphasise how all families are different, plus John is so lucky he lives near the park, Mary has an amazing Pokemon room etc.

I remember going to a friends house as a child and commenting how messy it was 😬
The main reason I remember was because the mum then told my mum what I said and I got told off for being rude when we got home. I don’t think it came from a bad place as I was generally a polite and quiet/shy kid. I think it was just a childish observation. Why the mum took any notice or reported it back to my mum goodness knows! I wouldn’t take any notice unless it become a sticking point or your child starts getting picked on for having a small house.

It's not at all rude coming from an 8 year old!

Mine have started noticing we're the biggest family in the smallest house 😂🙈 I don't know if anything has been said to them though.

It’s normal and it only gets worse.

If you think that’s bad, my 8yr old’s friend asked him why his house was so messy

Not unreasonable to be upset by that. If they were age 5/6, it would be innocent questioning where they don’t understand that it could potentially be upsetting or considered rude. At age 8, they really should know better.

I think an 8 year old should probably know better than to say that. We are fortunate to live in a spacious detached house, DD1 who is 9 has friends who live in smaller houses and flats, and wouldn't comment.

A 5 or even 6 year old could get away with it just being an observation. I remember my daughter at 5 telling her friends mum she wished she lived in a 'little flat like her rather than a big house like us as when she is tired she wouldn't then have to go up stairs to bed'. This could even be seen as a 'stealth boast' but luckily her friends mum took it fine (as far as I could see).

I would never judge any of her friends by where they live, and neither would she. I judge them on how kind they are to her, if they are polite to me and respectful of our home.