Child’s friend insulted house

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Social graces at 8 years of age!

Who is she, a princess ?

Indeed! But seeing as it was never likely to happen it seemed like such an odd little outburst that it stuck in my mind!!!

I suppose possible she might have a bigger, knocked-through, open-plan space or something?

I held a rehearsal at my house once for a play that I was in as our usual rehearsal space was booked. One member of the cast announced at the end that if we needed to do any more rehearsals in somebody’s home we should use her house as it is a lot bigger than mine. I thought that was a bit rude and unnecessary coming from a woman in her 40s who appeared to be showing off a bit. I would not find it rude or upsetting coming from an 8-year-old.
As I am extremely petty, I looked her house up on Google Maps and it was no bigger than mine so I have no idea what she was going on about!!!!!

Urgh some adults are oversensitive, insecure, and as immature as an 8 year old.

Urgh some kids have no social graces and complete lack of filter.

Surely this is a joke? 😭 I can't believe a grown woman would actually be so effected by an 8 year olds comment they'd post to Mumsnet. I can't even believe I'm even commenting on it FML.

On the flip side, my child says our house is small compared with her best friend (which is true!). Kids just say what they see, I wouldn’t consider it insulting.

My niece (husbands side) came round for the first time to meet our baby, think she was 6 said our house was SO small. It's a 2 double bed terrace, baring in mind they'd literally just moved from a similar house to something bigger 😂 take it with a pinch of salt, at least they didn't comment on your looks or weight 🫣

Please don’t be embarrassed and please invite those parents around for coffee or wine. They’d likely not care.

People always tell me that I look young for my age. Not children! A child in the street asked her mother if I was "an old woman" What a bladdy cheek!

You gotta love kids! I think in the moment OP you do feel like ‘ouch’ but unless you know for a fact either having heard someone criticise your home, it is best to put this sort of thing down to kids being kids. I am sure the mum would be mortified!

Yes - like you! 😂

lots of projection from you.

Children definitely don’t have filters! When my son was small he sat on my Mum’s lap and asked her why she had lots of lines around her mouth!

Why would you think that? Once a child came to a play date at our home years ago and it was the first time she or the parent had seen the home. The parent had never seen my home before then and didn’t have the opportunity to express an opinion on it. Children tend to speak their minds. I had one tell me I was fat about a month ago which didn’t feel great, but it was honest!

My childs friends have asked why we don't have stairs in our house, they wonder where the rest of the house is 😂 it's just cos they're used to having an upstairs downstairs, they're just curious

I've never seen anyone call a young girl a "right little bitch" before.

Where does this venom against a child come from?

And this:
my home is smaller than DBs but worth about 4x his because we live in different areas.

It's* *like na na na na nah, my cat's blacker than yours.
I'm so glad I don't know people like this...

Yeah, "seemed unbothered".
I suppose I thought if the other child started saying this at school and others picked up on it, then it could be a source of some sort of upset. But having read more comments, maybe I was over-reacting.

My dc had a friend over - they were 5 - friend opened living room door and said “I can see why that door was closed, it’s so messy.” It wasn’t although I am untidy, and sensitive. I was upset, but realised it says more about the child’s family than me, and let it go. It’s not nice though.

She is just saying what the rest of her friends and their parents are thinking.

OP’s already said her daughter was unbothered.

This. It’s inconsequential.

At that age I'd just take it as normal. I was the same, we had a 2-bed terrace when their friends had bigger houses, saying "why don't you have your own room?" and it would make me feel bad (I grew up in a 4-bed detached house but just can't afford the same as my parents). It then became how DDs friend has a few holidays a year and loads of activities. As my DC grew older they realised it was ok, which made me feel better - they said they eventually realised that their friends might have a lot, but that they have what they need.

This is really hard to teach too at a young age because again, kids say what they see so you run the risk of off the cuff comments such as ‘I know your house is smaller than mine because you have less money’ which is considerably worse. It doesn’t really matter how hard you try to tell them they also shouldn’t talk about money….they will largely at some point regurgitate things they’re told.

My brother is divorced and co-parenting with his XW. My nephew was only 18 months when they split up. He came home from his friend's house aged about 6 and said that Cameron's mum and dad must be really poor as they only have one house and everyone has to live in it