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Things that most people can do and I can't

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billycat321 · 28/07/2025 11:38

I can't-
Send or receive texts (don't have a mobile phone)
Change a wheel
Do self service at checkouts
Do 'pay at pump' at petrol stations
But I can-
Grow potatoes
Darn a hole in the elbow of a jumper
Sing the tenor part of The Messiah
Make and repair clothes
Embroider

Anyone else not quite fit into the 21st century?

OP posts:
3luckystars · 29/07/2025 09:46

Regarding swallowing tablets: fill the glass up to the very brim and try then. It doesn’t matter how big the glass is. It must be up to the brim.

I can swallow anything, I can swallow cola bottles whole. The thread is really making me feel great! Thanks so much x

3luckystars · 29/07/2025 09:44

I have to say I feel enormously better after reading your post. I can all of those things!

But I can’t do loads of things. I can’t swim. I can’t clean a house very well.

But I could always learn.

Life is good!!😁

sashh · 29/07/2025 09:40

billycat321 · 28/07/2025 11:38

I can't-
Send or receive texts (don't have a mobile phone)
Change a wheel
Do self service at checkouts
Do 'pay at pump' at petrol stations
But I can-
Grow potatoes
Darn a hole in the elbow of a jumper
Sing the tenor part of The Messiah
Make and repair clothes
Embroider

Anyone else not quite fit into the 21st century?

I can send and receive texts without a phone.
I know how to change a wheel but I physically can't.
I have grown potatoes.
I know how to darn, make clothes and embroider (I can also crochet, knit, make lace and tapestry).

I can't click my fingers.
I can't whistle.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 29/07/2025 07:30

Another who can't poach an egg but is otherwise an excellent cook.
Cannot follow Google maps but give me an OS map and compass and we won't get lost.
Can't do a cartwheel or backwards roll.

DSDFury · 29/07/2025 06:36

purpleme12 · 29/07/2025 04:05

Me too!

I can't teach my child to swallow them because I can't. (At least I can only swallow the really small ones). And honestly if it came to her swallowing tablets it would make me really nervous. She's still on Calpol. But I realise most adults can swallow
Presumably they must learn as a teenager?

I don't remember it being something I had to learn. I mean pretty much everyone knows how to swallow. Just use plenty of liquid (doesn't necessarily have to be water) and make sure the tablet isn't too far forward in your mouth.

DSDFury · 29/07/2025 06:32

LittleBitofBread · 28/07/2025 15:04

Try reading the OP again. It's perfectly clear.

Yes, I think a few people need to add "Can't read and interpret simple information" to their lists.

I can't drive or turn myself upside down (i.e. do a handstand etc.). Or keep plants alive. Or sustain a romantic relationship.

autienotnaughty · 29/07/2025 06:30

Wordsmithery · 29/07/2025 02:54

I can't...
Drive a manual
Dive
Ski/skate/roller skate/be confident or safe on a bike
Recognise people until I've met them many times
Clap in time
Grow sweet peas
Visualise anything in my head
Hear a tune in my head
Mimic accents
Whistle
Crochet
Bell ring

But I can...
Guess the time accurately 95% of the time
Paint watercolours
Speak many languages
Solve cryptic crosswords
Cook
Untangle necklaces
Catch a ball
Put in contact lenses without a mirror.

I also can’t recognise people I’ve met many times before, (worse if I see them out of context) I can’t see pictures in my head either and I’ve only just realised this but I can’t hear a tune !!. I have a loud internal monologue though.

autienotnaughty · 29/07/2025 06:28

I can’t look at a parking meter/vending machine and know exactly what to do
i can’t fix anything mechanical or electrical
I can’t wall paper
i cant walk my dog (health reasons)
I can’t ride on coaches without being sick
I can’t go on any ride that spins

i can read a full novel in a couple hours
i can name all 197 counties on our planet and know where they are and what they boarder
i can stay calm when our son meltsdown
i can complete crosswords with little difficulty

SouthernNights59 · 29/07/2025 05:00

CherryYellowCouch · 28/07/2025 12:03

If you like rice Dandy buy a rice cooker - they are awesome.

Cooking rice is really, really, easy. Believe me, if I can do it anyone can. I've never understood why anyone would buy a rice cooker to do such a simple thing.

purpleme12 · 29/07/2025 04:05

insomniac1 · 28/07/2025 12:33

Swallow tablets

Me too!

I can't teach my child to swallow them because I can't. (At least I can only swallow the really small ones). And honestly if it came to her swallowing tablets it would make me really nervous. She's still on Calpol. But I realise most adults can swallow
Presumably they must learn as a teenager?

Wordsmithery · 29/07/2025 02:54

I can't...
Drive a manual
Dive
Ski/skate/roller skate/be confident or safe on a bike
Recognise people until I've met them many times
Clap in time
Grow sweet peas
Visualise anything in my head
Hear a tune in my head
Mimic accents
Whistle
Crochet
Bell ring

But I can...
Guess the time accurately 95% of the time
Paint watercolours
Speak many languages
Solve cryptic crosswords
Cook
Untangle necklaces
Catch a ball
Put in contact lenses without a mirror.

Smallsalt · 29/07/2025 00:58

Are you a man? Why are you singing the tenor part?

ThatAgileLimeCat · 28/07/2025 23:34

MageQueen · 28/07/2025 13:23

I agree, there's a big difference between can't and won't. And your examples strike me as won't examples.

I can see maps in my head and orient myself... except, weirdly, when I can't. It only happens very occassionally but when it does, it irritates me so much I will track down paper maps for that area until I understand why I can't figure it out. It's weird.

I read faster than anyone I know and when I read it's like movies unravelling in my head. I don't read word by word at all.

I cannot fold things well. And strangely, the "easier" a thing is to fold, the harder I find it. Towels and bedding are completely beyond me. It's ridiculous.

You are me

ThatAgileLimeCat · 28/07/2025 23:32

Can..
Guess the time to within about a minute
Tell when a timer is nearly up, without thinking about it or attempting to count, to within around 10 seconds
Predict song lyrics without having head the song before
Build flat pack furniture
Name.many random.sport.facts from the 80s and 90, including entire squad listings
Sing far.too many song lyrics including the entirety of Joe le taxi by Vanessa Paradise, despite not having heard them for 30 or 40 years.

Can't...
Use Google maps
Change a light bulb
Understand the rules of cricket.

carpool · 28/07/2025 23:22

I can't
swim
ride a bike
whistle
click my fingers
blow up a balloon (by mouth)
drive a manual gearbox

ThatAgileLimeCat · 28/07/2025 23:15

I can't ..
Manage to have all the rooms in my house clean and tidy at once
Tell the time without really thinking about it
Find my way out of a doctor's surgery, hospital, pretty much any building with multiple rooms,.once I've entered it. I lose all sense of direction
Use keys easily.

Swim a length
Apply false eyelashes
Visualise anything to do with redecoration or furniture or renovation
Remember film plots

I can.....
Navigate well when outdoors
Map read
Manage multi million complex projects at work
Deal with life threatening emergencies in a calm manner
Bore you with facts about everything I am vaguely interested in.
Read and digest complex documents very fast
Give birth quickly (limited number of uses for that skill but it has served me well)

Wolfpinkola · 28/07/2025 23:07

Tie knots. I have some sort of specific dyspraxia

OreoBoo · 28/07/2025 23:01

I can't sew
knit
crochet
Darn

Tie bows
read a map
Ice skate paint
take a decent selfie
Apply eyeliner these days
catch a ball (never could)
make decent Staffordshire oatcakes

hang a picture straight and I'm rubbish at any DIY

I can:

sing alto or soprano part of Messiah (mezzo here) probably could do tenor but never tried. Used to be able to sing the solo parts for both soprano and alto for Messiah also but not now.

i can paint and draw a bit

cut guinea pig nails

NamelessNancy · 28/07/2025 22:58

HormonalRollercoaster · 28/07/2025 22:32

A friend taught me a trick that has really helped - make a fist with your left hand and squeeze the thumb. It overrides the gag reflex or something. I can now manage small tablet, not the huge ones but it’s better than always needing double doses of kids medicine….

I can't swallow tablets with water. So much easier to have with food (if not a problem for drug absorption). Chew up a bit of bread or something then pill in and swallow the lot.

PeterPansFlight · 28/07/2025 22:47

I can't tread water, hold a pencil correctly or click my fingers.

I can however, fly a plane.

QueefQueen80s · 28/07/2025 22:46

I know someone who can do anything to do with construction, electrics, plumbing, mechanics, gas installations but can’t use a cash machine, card reader on tills. His brain just won’t do it.

HormonalRollercoaster · 28/07/2025 22:32

insomniac1 · 28/07/2025 12:33

Swallow tablets

A friend taught me a trick that has really helped - make a fist with your left hand and squeeze the thumb. It overrides the gag reflex or something. I can now manage small tablet, not the huge ones but it’s better than always needing double doses of kids medicine….

MomsGotInk · 28/07/2025 18:53

I can’t….
drive
do maths unless it’s super simple
build flat pack furniture 😳
I can….
draw
train a puppy
cook
sew
tame a grumpy bearded dragon 😆

Swanfeet · 28/07/2025 18:30

billycat321 · 28/07/2025 11:38

I can't-
Send or receive texts (don't have a mobile phone)
Change a wheel
Do self service at checkouts
Do 'pay at pump' at petrol stations
But I can-
Grow potatoes
Darn a hole in the elbow of a jumper
Sing the tenor part of The Messiah
Make and repair clothes
Embroider

Anyone else not quite fit into the 21st century?

Sorry but what is the point of this post? What are you wanting people to vote on? Just seems a bit negative and pointless to me!

Unorganisedchaos2 · 28/07/2025 15:56

LittleBitofBread · 28/07/2025 15:50

Yes, let's both do that and see how it goes! Someone's jaw actually dropped the other day when I told them I couldn't grow it Grin

I'll let you know how I get on, I've literally grown asparagus from seed & taken cuttings from random trees but mint defeats me 😆

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