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What do men say if their DW/DP thinks they fancy another woman?

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bjkhilg890 · 27/07/2025 21:12

There’s no AIBU really…. But what do men usually say if they’ve been caught checking out another woman, and/or being overly familiar with her. Wife will ask: ‘do you like her?’

Do husbands usually say ‘no, she’s not my type/don’t like blondes/bust too small/legs too short’ or something to that effect? Or something else?

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bjkhilg890 · 25/08/2025 15:51

@SaintNoMountainHighEnough Be interesting if you came back 😅

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bjkhilg890 · 06/08/2025 17:57

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 04/08/2025 10:03

Yes. I do Bring her attention when relevant, and no, I do not insult people based on them having physical traits that they objectively have no control over. Sorry this seems to have been a trigger for you, no offense has been intended.

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No it’s not a trigger, there are some men who are obsessed with big boobs and tbh I don’t particularly care for their opinions on me personally. I just tend to find that it seems to be those men who will make ´funny comments about small ones.

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Disturbia81 · 04/08/2025 19:07

bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 22:57

It just makes me despair tbh, as a small breasted woman. I don't want to be leered by a creep obviously, but I do want a desirable, nice figure. I'm having implants very soon, but I won't be showing them off. Unless I meet the right guy!

I think that when women (or some men) say, "oh you have small t!ts, look on the bright side, men won't stare at you", it's like a backhanded compliment, saying you aren't attractive and you aren't visible to men.

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I think there are so many ways to be attractive, and like I say I love having smaller boobs because it does cut down the letching from the ones who just drool at the sight of big ones. But it doesn’t stop me being looked at, asked out, found attractive.. just not by the dog types.
It sounds like you really want bigger ones though so I hope they make you feel better about yourself, and hope the op goes well ♥️

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 04/08/2025 10:03

bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 22:59

Could be interesting if you reply to my earlier quote about big breasts! Do you also point out attractive real life men to your wife/gf?

Do you also take the p!ss out of women with smaller breasts?

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Yes. I do Bring her attention when relevant, and no, I do not insult people based on them having physical traits that they objectively have no control over. Sorry this seems to have been a trigger for you, no offense has been intended.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 04/08/2025 07:12

bjkhilg890 · 04/08/2025 00:14

No, I don't know what that is.

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Okay, good. That individual was very disturbed and I hope she’s getting the help she needs.

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bjkhilg890 · 04/08/2025 00:14

ForZanyAquaViewer · 03/08/2025 23:16

Ah, I see.

OP, did you make a post not too long ago obsessing about your breasts and how no one would ever really find you attractive because you don’t look like a TikTok influencer, so you were going to get a bunch of surgery?

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No, I don't know what that is.

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bjkhilg890 · 04/08/2025 00:08

ForZanyAquaViewer · 03/08/2025 23:15

I cannot imagine my husband checking out another woman in front of me. What sort of cretin does that?!

I assume he does find lots of other women attractive, though. There are lots of attractive women about. And, if I asked if he found someone attractive (not that I would, as it’s not really any of my business), I’m pretty sure he’d answer honestly. Finding other people attractive isn’t a crime. 🤷🏽‍♀️

What sort of cretin? Oh believe me, they are out there! I've been stared at by men standing right next to their visibly annoyed wives, as have my friends and otehr women I know!

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SALaw · 03/08/2025 23:24

All men say word for word this: “yes I find that woman the most attractive woman I’ve ever seen and I wish I was with her”. I mean seriously- different men say different things in different situations?!

ForZanyAquaViewer · 03/08/2025 23:16

bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 22:59

Could be interesting if you reply to my earlier quote about big breasts! Do you also point out attractive real life men to your wife/gf?

Do you also take the p!ss out of women with smaller breasts?

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Ah, I see.

OP, did you make a post not too long ago obsessing about your breasts and how no one would ever really find you attractive because you don’t look like a TikTok influencer, so you were going to get a bunch of surgery?

ForZanyAquaViewer · 03/08/2025 23:15

I cannot imagine my husband checking out another woman in front of me. What sort of cretin does that?!

I assume he does find lots of other women attractive, though. There are lots of attractive women about. And, if I asked if he found someone attractive (not that I would, as it’s not really any of my business), I’m pretty sure he’d answer honestly. Finding other people attractive isn’t a crime. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 22:59

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 03/08/2025 20:05

Every time Jason Momoa appears I certainly point it out to her

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Could be interesting if you reply to my earlier quote about big breasts! Do you also point out attractive real life men to your wife/gf?

Do you also take the p!ss out of women with smaller breasts?

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bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 22:58

Disturbia81 · 03/08/2025 20:17

It does seem that way doesn’t it, look at all the women getting boob jobs, page 3 etc
I’ve had massive boobs to small ones and my favourite by far are the small ones! Men do just stare at them when they are big

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Sorry to quote you twice, but in the situation that prompted this question, I was the woman being stared at by an older man, but he was staring at my face/all of me. So I suppose that not having big breasts isn't a barrier to attention from creeps.

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bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 22:57

Disturbia81 · 03/08/2025 20:17

It does seem that way doesn’t it, look at all the women getting boob jobs, page 3 etc
I’ve had massive boobs to small ones and my favourite by far are the small ones! Men do just stare at them when they are big

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It just makes me despair tbh, as a small breasted woman. I don't want to be leered by a creep obviously, but I do want a desirable, nice figure. I'm having implants very soon, but I won't be showing them off. Unless I meet the right guy!

I think that when women (or some men) say, "oh you have small t!ts, look on the bright side, men won't stare at you", it's like a backhanded compliment, saying you aren't attractive and you aren't visible to men.

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Disturbia81 · 03/08/2025 20:18

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 03/08/2025 20:05

Every time Jason Momoa appears I certainly point it out to her

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That’s good but it should be men in real life if she points out women in real life.

Disturbia81 · 03/08/2025 20:17

bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 19:21

This… I love how big boobs is automatically equated with ‘attractive’ though 😂 Like what did the rest of those women he pointed out look like?

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It does seem that way doesn’t it, look at all the women getting boob jobs, page 3 etc
I’ve had massive boobs to small ones and my favourite by far are the small ones! Men do just stare at them when they are big

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 03/08/2025 20:05

Disturbia81 · 03/08/2025 19:12

And do you point out hunky men to her?
It should work both ways.

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Every time Jason Momoa appears I certainly point it out to her

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bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 19:21

Disturbia81 · 03/08/2025 19:12

And do you point out hunky men to her?
It should work both ways.

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This… I love how big boobs is automatically equated with ‘attractive’ though 😂 Like what did the rest of those women he pointed out look like?

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Disturbia81 · 03/08/2025 19:12

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 31/07/2025 18:51

Yeah, it's fair to say they were.

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And do you point out hunky men to her?
It should work both ways.

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bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 18:14

40YearOldDad · 31/07/2025 14:03

I think most people would be lying if they said they never found anyone else attractive once in a relationship. Is that not just human nature? It doesn't mean you're going to run off with them.

This is exactly what I think, but I think some people (women especially) get really really annoyed at their DH for it and give him ‘instructions’ about the woman if she’s someone in real life.

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bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 18:11

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 31/07/2025 18:51

Yeah, it's fair to say they were.

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Does your DW/gf have big ones? If she does then it’s probably not an issue for her because it’s just reinforcement that she’s “your type”.

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SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 31/07/2025 18:51

bjkhilg890 · 29/07/2025 12:45

I take it they were big boobs? I’d definitely be uncomfortable as a woman but if you guys are happy with it…

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Yeah, it's fair to say they were.

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bjkhilg890 · 31/07/2025 18:35

40YearOldDad · 31/07/2025 14:03

I think most people would be lying if they said they never found anyone else attractive once in a relationship. Is that not just human nature? It doesn't mean you're going to run off with them.

I agree with this, but there are some women who will tell off their husbands if he looks at another woman… I’ve seen women glaring at, or giving stern ´what do you think you’re doing?!’ looks to their men. Or draping their arm around him, as a way of ´marking in their territory’ 🤔😅

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40YearOldDad · 31/07/2025 14:03

I think most people would be lying if they said they never found anyone else attractive once in a relationship. Is that not just human nature? It doesn't mean you're going to run off with them.

cofffeeee · 31/07/2025 13:54

I fancy a lot of people men and women (im bi) but it dont mean im going to do anything.
Men and women are humans we can look.

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bjkhilg890 · 31/07/2025 13:22

LoopyLoo1991 · 31/07/2025 09:15

These days I think it's just as common for women to check out other women. If the woman & her partner have a good relationship and communicate well, I can fully see it not being an issue. I'm only a B-cup and have caught myself staring at some huge boobs on occasion. My BF thought it hilarious when he saw me doing so at a party: "Those are bigger than your head, you do realise?" he said. Lol.
It's 2025 so come on people, it shouldn't be a serious issue.

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I know it might not seem like a big deal, but if I had a bf/DH who kept looking at women with big breasts (which I don’t have) then to be honest I think I’d have to end things… I know that might sound dramatic but I need to be with a man who prefers my body and is happy with it.

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