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Has Covid stopped young people from knowing how to dress for an occasion?

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BananaCaramel · 27/07/2025 18:29

I see it all the time - so many young people don’t make the effort to look nice anymore. Not for weddings, birthdays, other celebratory occasions, it seems to be a “thing” to look like you have made no effort at all.

Is it a Covid thing? They missed a formative period of going out and now they don’t know how to dress for an occasion? That’s all I can think of.

It’s not even about fashions changing eg., people don’t really wear heels anymore, it’s that they literally turn up to events in clothes I would clean my bathroom in.

I think it’s a real shame to be honest!

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hellywelly3 · 27/07/2025 21:05

I think a lot of people have chosen comfort since Covid. But it’s a few things I think. The cost of living means people aren’t buying so much these days. Also my kids are very conscious of the environmental impact in producing clothing. It’s quite freeing to just wear whatever you want

Rainydayinlondon · 27/07/2025 21:00

But they obviously do make an effort with hair and makeup and fillers etc. They must spend HOURS doing their face!

Disturbia81 · 27/07/2025 20:58

BellissimoGecko · 27/07/2025 18:34

Hmm, that’s not my experience. My dc and their friends love to dress up for special occasions.

Yes I see young people dress up for nights out, events, weddings etc. You only have to go to a city centre on a Friday and most women of all ages are wearing heels.
It’s the opposite, most people have stopped dressing up for every day life and jobs. But that’s a good thing to me

Pamspeople · 27/07/2025 20:56

Every generation has disapproved of how "young people these days" dress

TempsPerdu · 27/07/2025 20:54

It’s not just young people - I think as a society in general we are just scruffier and don’t care as much any more about looking respectable and ‘keeping up appearances’. It’s very rare now that I will pass someone on the street, even in ‘smart’ central London, and think they look elegant and well put together. And one of the local schools we pass on the school run is something else - wall to wall grubby grey tracksuits and quite often pyjamas and dressing gowns at morning drop off.

I think one segment of society has just completely given up on the clothing front, but I also very much agree with the previous post about no longer being able to browse in person or try stuff on; even many people who do still look like they’ve made a bit of an effort are wearing ill-fitting clothes and I think this is probably why. I always order multiple sizes, look closely at what clothes are made of and take time choosing items that I think will suit my style and shape (I’m mid-40s so have plenty of pre-online shopping years to work it all out) but it’s still incredibly hit and miss, especially with High Street clothing that seems to worsen in quality every season.

RosesAndHellebores · 27/07/2025 20:45

Mine look fine. DD often dons a pretty dress but with flats. Her bf is a chino and polo chap. Her brother is a bit more edgy - his wife is similar. None of their friends wear heels.

No brows, nails or fake tans here.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 27/07/2025 20:40

Imagine a world we hear people could wear what they like without being judged. It’s literally just clothes. Who cares. I personally love to do both depending on my mood but couldn’t give a toss what anyone else where’s

JLou08 · 27/07/2025 20:38

BananaCaramel · 27/07/2025 20:23

Once again - heels are a red herring here. I don’t wear heels either because they are not in fashion. I mentioned in my OP it wasn’t about that, it’s about the general scruffiness

I don't see a general scruffiness, the young people I see are very well groomed. When I was younger people were wearing smudged eye liner or glittery eye shadow, nails chewed to the quick, orange hair from at home bleaching kits and orange skin from cheap fake tan. Male grooming was wet look hair gel. Young men are now getting manicures and blow drying their hair. Young women are looking like they've just been done up for a professional photo shoot with perfect make up, hair and nails. They just seem to have a more casual style of clothing.

Comefromaway · 27/07/2025 20:37

ExploringDreams · 27/07/2025 20:25

This is so true. All the good shops have closed in most high streets so the choices are Primark and Sports Direct.
My friend ordered a few items online and they look awful. Just the wrong cut for her shape and she looks frumpy and messy in them. If we’d been able to go and try things on, it could’ve saved a lot of time and trouble.

I’ve just been to Holland on holiday & spent a lot of money on clothes. It was so nice to find nice stuff in a variety of fits and various prices after endlessly traipsing round dreary UK high streets.

GreyCarpet · 27/07/2025 20:31

Good grief. Is there anything that someone won't try attributing to covid??

Seriously, they closed pubs and restaurants for a few months. That doesn't mean people forgot how to dress themselves!

(And, yes, I know covid was more than that but not in the context of wearing clothes and being present at 'occasions')

CrispieCake · 27/07/2025 20:27

I think people often have different views on what's required. I quite like dressing up for nice events, but personally I'd never dress my DC in a suit for a wedding. And yet I know lots of people who do dress little ones in suits and they look lovely and cute, so clearly some people feel differently to me. But in my mind, a shirt and smart shorts and shoes is fine for u-10s. I'm sure there are some people who disagree. And I think people do value being comfortable much more nowadays and I definitely can't regret that heels are no longer so popular.

hmmimnotsurewhy · 27/07/2025 20:26

What a stretch 🤣 blaming Covid now? Get over it, it’s happened and long over.

ExploringDreams · 27/07/2025 20:25

CatKings · 27/07/2025 18:35

I think not being able to actually shop makes such a difference.
you can’t go see and feel the clothes, try them on. Your friends aren’t there to make suggestions. You get charged for sending things back. The quality of clothes is shit.

Theres also so few opportunities to dress up. People don’t dress up for work. There’s hardly any nightclubs.

I was maybe going to a wedding soon (I’ve bowed out) and I had zero idea where I would have gotten something to wear. I’ve also not worn heels in years.

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This is so true. All the good shops have closed in most high streets so the choices are Primark and Sports Direct.
My friend ordered a few items online and they look awful. Just the wrong cut for her shape and she looks frumpy and messy in them. If we’d been able to go and try things on, it could’ve saved a lot of time and trouble.

MsAnnFrope · 27/07/2025 20:25

BananaCaramel · 27/07/2025 20:05

Isuppose I care because it represents a collective lowering of standards. I don’t want to be part of a society where nobody cares about what they look like or how they come across.

Is it not just a change in culture? I imagine there was a point in Roman times where the old folks were moaning about young people in creased togas!
and I think if people feel they are judged on appearances not actions then that is a negative for society. I teach DD not to judge on appearances but on how people behave towards one another.

BananaCaramel · 27/07/2025 20:23

JLou08 · 27/07/2025 20:19

Heels had gone out of fashion before covid. I haven't been clubbing since covid and the younger people were wearing trainers to go clubbing for a couple of years before that. Fashion has just changed, an older person may think young people don't look 'nice' but their peers do. I think it's great actually that people don't have to fall about in high heels anymore to keep with fashion trends or freeze in little dresses in the winter.

Once again - heels are a red herring here. I don’t wear heels either because they are not in fashion. I mentioned in my OP it wasn’t about that, it’s about the general scruffiness

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Bellyblueboy · 27/07/2025 20:22

I have noticed this in work.

While workplaces have become more casual generally (which I really welcome) I have had younger staff turn up (late🫣) to quite formal meetings in jogging bottoms and hoodies.

They clearly feel uncomfortable in the moment - but don’t seem to learn from the mis-step. They don’t need to be suited and booted, but sometimes they look like they have just rolled out of bed. it does impact how they are perceived. Particularly the less confident ones who dress like Bart Simpson and then don’t speak! The only impression they give is their appearance, and it’s poor.

Highlights12 · 27/07/2025 20:21

Think it may differ in different areas, girls up north do make an effort when on a night out.

JLou08 · 27/07/2025 20:19

Heels had gone out of fashion before covid. I haven't been clubbing since covid and the younger people were wearing trainers to go clubbing for a couple of years before that. Fashion has just changed, an older person may think young people don't look 'nice' but their peers do. I think it's great actually that people don't have to fall about in high heels anymore to keep with fashion trends or freeze in little dresses in the winter.

RocknrollRhonda · 27/07/2025 20:17

I think it's a trend, a reaction to the perfect insta look - I call it homeless chic!

SpanThatWorld · 27/07/2025 20:11

My youngest adults tend towards sports wear for most occasions. But they are very clean and well-groomed. I am gobsmacked by the lotions and potions that litter my shower. Specialist beard conditioner! Scrupulous shaving. They care how they look. They just don't want to look like us.

ClaredeBear · 27/07/2025 20:11

arethereanyleftatall · 27/07/2025 18:36

i can talk for the other side. For years, I was uncomfortable. Underwired bras, heels, tight waists. At many a formal occasion I just wanted to go home and get in to my comfy clothes. And then covid/realisation of how ND so many people are. And I’m thrilled to bits we don’t have to be uncomfortable all the time any more.

I’m with you, sister!

Comefromaway · 27/07/2025 20:09

What’s wrong with a vest top? I often wear them to work on hot days.

SilverGlitterBaubles · 27/07/2025 20:07

I don’t think this is the case, if anything they are OTT insta perfect and put together in ways I could only dream of at their age. Make up, contouring, nails, hair, teeth etc they are like professional stylists. I was lucky to wash my hair, slap on some awful make up and make the most of my sisters cast offs.

n4mech4ng3r · 27/07/2025 20:07

Sidebeforeself · 27/07/2025 18:41

I went to a funeral not so long ago and I was really saddened to see how scruffy most of the younger people were. I know you don’t have to be head to toe black these days but it was t that. Scruffy T-shirts , ripped jeans, mini dresses. I thought it sad that they didn’t see the mark of respect that is dressing smartly at a funeral

I’m not particularly young but I don’t own a dress longer than mini! For funerals I have a 60’s style black mini that I usually wear with tights, boots and a coat.

The last few I’ve been too have had some crazy looks, including me completely missing the ‘wear bright colours’ memo and coming in all black and someone in a full grey tracksuit. I did see a heavily tattooed young person absolutely rock alternative formal wear though.

RichardGeresTie · 27/07/2025 20:07

YANBU we’ve recently had work experience people in school in vest tops with lots of cleavage on display.