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DH is upset that Daughter want to take her wife's name in same same marriage.

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Netcurtainnelly · 27/07/2025 13:25

DD is planning on getting married to her wife later on the year.
DD has said she plans to take her wife's surname.

DH is upset that she hasn't kept her own name or gone double barrelled.

He hasn't said anything though just to me.

What do other people do who have same sex weddings re names.
Is DH being unreasonable for being upset and not understanding why daughters chosen to take her wife's name?

If it's any help our DD is fem and her partner is not, does this have anything to do with it?
What would you think?
What do other people do?
I don't really know anyone in this situation.
Yes we do get on with dd wife to be before anyone asks.

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TheOriginalEmu · 27/07/2025 13:27

Most same sex couples I know are double barrelled or just keep their own names. But it varies by couple. I do know a lesbian couple who took the name of one (who is fem) because she had a child. But it really is an individual choice.

Doggymummar · 27/07/2025 13:27

My gay friends haven't changed names, I think that's quite out dated these days even for opposite sex marriages.

Netcurtainnelly · 27/07/2025 13:26

Sorry, same sex marriage.

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