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Boss verbally attacked me

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Fruitbatdancer · 26/07/2025 23:25

so my boss, (a contractor not perm) in the city, post work drinks the other night, went for me after a few beers, by this I mean he ranted at me, in front of a supplier colleague, for about 5 solid minutes, it was relentless and unprofessional. Be was ranting and raving at volume and in my face at me for not agreeing to something he said earlier, but was mistaken as I did agree! He just wasn’t paying attention! He then ranted some more. Asked if I was telling him how to do his job (I wasn’t) I was crying throughout, but out of shock and frustration rather than scared nor because I’d actually done anything bloody wrong!! I haven’t told anyone at work. DH and Bestie think I should as this bloke has form. (Did this before to a supplier)
i was going to drop it, but i can’t get it out of my head how rude and drunk and agressive he was- especially as was about nothing!! And he now knows that.
he’s so senior and temp, I think work would throw book at him. But I don’t want to be ‘that woman’
what would you do?

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Fruitbatdancer · 26/07/2025 23:31

Thank you, I needed to hear this. And I wasn’t bawling, I was eyes streaming and trying to calm him down. I suspect given how he was after only 4/5 beers he has a drink issue or something. Not that that excuses it.

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Beamur · 26/07/2025 23:29

I'd write down exactly what you remember happening and being said right now while it's fresh in your mind.
Sleep on it.
Although I wouldn't hesitate to report this. Why shouldn't you be 'that woman '? He hasn't hesitated to be 'that man' has he? Why do you feel any reluctance about this?

Isittimeformynapyet · 26/07/2025 23:28

How did the supplier who witnessed this react? How did this end?

Enrichetta · 26/07/2025 23:27

Report to HR

But also learn to toughen up. Instead of crying you should have insisted on speaking up.

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