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Do you make your bed?

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Flora73 · 26/07/2025 22:43

I do, every day. It looks so untidy and I love getting into a made bed.

But I was talking to a friend earlier and she never does. So just wondered what the general consensus was.

Make your bed (at least 5 days out of 7) = You are not being unreasonable

Don’t make your bed = You are being unreasonable

OP posts:
OutandAboutMum1821 · 27/07/2025 13:14

Negroany · 27/07/2025 13:04

There is no "later in the day" though, I get up, work, don't go in the bedroom again until bed time. Seems pointless to make it just as you're about to get in it.

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So ‘later in the day’ can be easily adapted. I’m a home maker, so flip it back straight after the school run or after lunch with my youngest or after school depending on where else I am. When I worked FT I would flip it back before leaving for work. Even 1-2 hours of airing is beneficial. Or just do it at the weekend if time if really tight. I’d actually prefer to leave it neatly folded back all day until bedtime to benefit from the airing (unless I was expecting guests of course, then all duvets are properly back up!)

UpDo · 27/07/2025 13:08

No. I want it to air, so throw back the duvet. I also don't particularly like a 'made' bed anyway and will tend to burrow until comfortable.

Negroany · 27/07/2025 13:06

MellowPinkDeer · 27/07/2025 09:08

I honestly can’t believe how many people don’t make their bed! It’s literally a life basic! Why wouldn’t tYou?!

Why would you?

I also don't open my bedroom curtains. I know, right? Faints while clutching pearls

Negroany · 27/07/2025 13:04

OutandAboutMum1821 · 27/07/2025 07:03

Yes, we all do.

Top tip- initially straighten pillows, line up duvet but fold it back at least halfway to properly air your bed first thing, then fold back later in the day.

There is no "later in the day" though, I get up, work, don't go in the bedroom again until bed time. Seems pointless to make it just as you're about to get in it.

EveryDayisFriday · 27/07/2025 10:58

I pull the sheets over, not neatly just to cover the bed. Although every other week, DH is sleeping in it after working nights so quite pointless.

LizzyEm · 27/07/2025 10:45

I make sure the bottom sheet is on properly if it's coming off and then fling the bedcover to straighten it, but I fold it down to the bottom so the bed can air. It stays like that til we get in it.

DuesToTheDirt · 27/07/2025 10:39

It's a duvet, so there's not really anything to make. Plus, I like it to air.

I once worked in Japan, where it is the custom to hang your bedding on a balcony or similar, then put it away in a cupboard and make it up in the evening. A colleague explained this, and I said, "Well, I can't do that, I'm at work." He said, "My wife does it," so of course I replied, "OK, I'll get a wife to do it for me!"

UrbanOasis · 27/07/2025 10:37

Well we just have a fitted sheet and two single duvets. So do I straighten the duvets in the morning, is that making the bed? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Bumcake · 27/07/2025 10:23

Yes, always. I leave the duvet folded neatly in half though, not pulled up.

Denimrules · 27/07/2025 09:23

Only if DH is away or off to work early, otherwise he always does it.

WanderingWisteria · 27/07/2025 09:19

I’m generally a bit crap at finishing tasks and also at allowing the right amount of time for things (I suspect I have ADHD) and so this seems to be one of the —many— routine tasks in my life that I mean to do but just doesn’t seem to happen.
I used to do it all of the time pre-DC and then, once DD1 was born, there was always a distraction. Now they’re older, I should be able to get back in the habit but just don’t seem able to prioritise it. I drive myself mad as there’s a little bit of sadness every night when I go to bed and it’s not been made and I am so happy on a Tuesday (the day that I change the bedding) and it’s all nice & smooth.

Wynter25 · 27/07/2025 09:14

Sometimes. When I can be arsed

NorthernDancer · 27/07/2025 09:09

NoweverytimeIgoforthemailbox · 26/07/2025 22:44

I fold the duvet back so it airs but looks neat.

Exactly

MellowPinkDeer · 27/07/2025 09:08

I honestly can’t believe how many people don’t make their bed! It’s literally a life basic! Why wouldn’t tYou?!

Thricewomen · 27/07/2025 09:08

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/07/2025 09:06

I fold the duvet back halfway, to air the bed. I don’t see how actually making it properly first thing can let it air. Though that was what we were always taught to do as children - back in the days of top sheets, blankets, and an eiderdown in winter.

I loved an eiderdown! And blankets. I still put blankets on my bed. I love the weight.

Thricewomen · 27/07/2025 09:06

Wow. I feel like such a skank now. Surprised three quarters make their bed. I make mine just before I get in it again for the night!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/07/2025 09:06

I fold the duvet back halfway, to air the bed. I don’t see how actually making it properly first thing can let it air. Though that was what we were always taught to do as children - back in the days of top sheets, blankets, and an eiderdown in winter.

JadeSeahorse · 27/07/2025 09:04

Every day - absolutely!

However, I'm old. 😂

Ficklebricks · 27/07/2025 09:04

Ficklebricks · 27/07/2025 09:03

Years ago I read an article by a microbiologist saying you should make your bed, you should keep the duvet down to let it breathe. Something about lowering the bacteria count due to UV light exposure.

I followed the first half but now I never remember to open my bedroom curtains before I go out for the day so it probably does nothing anyway!

That should say Shouldn't make your own bed. I don't have the edit button!

Ficklebricks · 27/07/2025 09:03

Years ago I read an article by a microbiologist saying you should make your bed, you should keep the duvet down to let it breathe. Something about lowering the bacteria count due to UV light exposure.

I followed the first half but now I never remember to open my bedroom curtains before I go out for the day so it probably does nothing anyway!

Caroparo52 · 27/07/2025 09:01

Every day

Caroparo52 · 27/07/2025 09:01

Every day

Fuelledbylatte · 27/07/2025 09:00

Yes every day
Otherwise to me it just feels like you didn’t get up/start the day. Tiny ritual but helps with the passing of time and bedtime feels much nicer.

spanieleyes · 27/07/2025 08:05

Yes, every morning. I have a duvet and a decorative bedspread, so I just straighten the duvet and pull the bedspread over ( the bedspread is tucked in between the mattress and bedstead and just folds back over the bedspread at night- unless it is really cold,in which case I pull it up!)

Everydayimhuffling · 27/07/2025 07:56

I don't. What's the point? Just pull the duvet back into place when you get back in. I don't have decorative pillows, though, and the fitted sheet doesn't usually move so it's just arranging the duvet. Easy to do when you are in it.