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Do you make your bed?

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Flora73 · 26/07/2025 22:43

I do, every day. It looks so untidy and I love getting into a made bed.

But I was talking to a friend earlier and she never does. So just wondered what the general consensus was.

Make your bed (at least 5 days out of 7) = You are not being unreasonable

Don’t make your bed = You are being unreasonable

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aintnospringchicken · 28/07/2025 11:09

Yes,I make my bed every day.When I get out of bed I pull the duvet down to let the bed air for a couple of hours,then simply pull the duvet up and straighten it out and straighten the pillows. Takes no more than a couple of minutes.

findmeaunicorn · 28/07/2025 11:03

I can’t get into an unmade bed! Sometimes I don’t have time to make it before nursery drop off and work, or dp is on nights so sleeping in the day so I often come home to an unmade bed……. But I make it to get in it at bed time

Junaluma · 28/07/2025 10:52

Yes, everyday except when I’m on holiday. It’s nice for housekeeping to make up my bed for a change!

When I’m going into the office during the week, I make up my bed last before leaving the house so it has time to air out (around half an hour/45 minutes).

When I wfh, I don’t rush and maybe do it a few hours into the day, again so it can air out but definitely before lunch time!

OneTrackMindToday · 28/07/2025 00:00

Ah, I voted the wrong way, sorry! Your options are in the opposite order to the voting buttons.

Every single day without failed I straighten sheet, pillows and duvet, then fold back duvet to air. Curtains and windows open. Pull duvet up at bedtime.

That said, I can't stand extra cushions/ runners on beds, especially in hotels/Airbnb as I suspect they never get washed so gives me the ick. So my bed doesn't take much making anyway.

SecretNameforMN · 27/07/2025 23:56

I literally never make my bed. What's the point?

LoudPlumDog · 27/07/2025 23:26

Absolutely, I have my whole life since I was able to. All beds were made in our house growing up.
There is nothing nicer at the end of the day.
I also iron my sheets and pillowcases. The best.

Empress13 · 27/07/2025 23:08

Made every morning as soon as I get up. I even make it if I’m unwell and go downstairs for a bit can’t stand getting into an unmade bed

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 27/07/2025 22:57

Piknik · 27/07/2025 22:53

It wouldn't occur to me not to. My room is a lovely space where I go to relax sometimes - a beautifully made bed is part of the joy of the room.

I don't spend ages, but I pull the fitted sheet taught and re-tuck it anywhere that needs to be tightened up. I plump all the pillows in both directions so the feathers and all fluffy. I pull the duvet up so it's nice and smooth, shake and drop the runner across the bottom of the bed, stack our couple of cushions and I even sometimes drop a single drop of lavender oil in the pillows. Takes about five minutes and pays me back x100000 every time I get into bed at night.

Fully agree.. plus change bedding regularly. Jo Malone pillow mist is a treat too.

LillyPJ · 27/07/2025 22:57

I always make the bed - it looks better all day and feels better when you get in again. It's so easy now with duvets - not like when you had to struggle with tucking in sheets and straightening loads of blankets etc.

User294759439 · 27/07/2025 22:57

It’s the one thing I do religiously. I have ADHD and it did take my to late 20s/early 30s to manage to do it daily.

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 27/07/2025 22:54

I would be embarrassed if anyone was over and saw unmade beds.
Bedroom windows are open 99% of the time unless the weathers really stormy. Pull back the duvet when we wake, shower and do hair/make up then make the bed before getting dressed.

Mondaytuesdayhappydays · 27/07/2025 22:53

Yes without fail - DH was the save before we met too - bedroom needs to be a haven with half our motley crew still hanging in for dear life at home banging about making a mess!

interestingly its rule number 1 in Jordan Petersons 12 times/ steps to being better man ( or whatever the self -help book is called)
I guess the idea is similar to ‘look after the pennies and the pounds will take care of themselves’ - order, self discipline, creating good habits that follow on for the day etc

Piknik · 27/07/2025 22:53

It wouldn't occur to me not to. My room is a lovely space where I go to relax sometimes - a beautifully made bed is part of the joy of the room.

I don't spend ages, but I pull the fitted sheet taught and re-tuck it anywhere that needs to be tightened up. I plump all the pillows in both directions so the feathers and all fluffy. I pull the duvet up so it's nice and smooth, shake and drop the runner across the bottom of the bed, stack our couple of cushions and I even sometimes drop a single drop of lavender oil in the pillows. Takes about five minutes and pays me back x100000 every time I get into bed at night.

footiego · 27/07/2025 22:53

Does everyone else with a partner get up at exactly the same time as them?

footiego · 27/07/2025 22:51

moment!

footiego · 27/07/2025 22:51

only have a sheet at the money

footiego · 27/07/2025 22:51

Not really as I generally am the first one up and DH leaves the sheet/duvet pulled back. One of us will often flip it back when home from work though.

Wolfpinkola · 27/07/2025 22:49

I pull Duvet back & leave it to air, something about dust mites get killed by sunlight that shines directly on it

ShesTheAlbatross · 27/07/2025 22:47

North87 · 27/07/2025 20:30

I have never not made my bed, I could not think of anything worse than leaving the house with un made beds. My dc have bunk beds with about 5 million teddies, cushions and squishmallows on. I must easily spend about half an hour making the bunk bed every morning! I also like the duvets pulled very tightly with no creases at all, and all cushions have a correct place!

Half an hour??
I couldn’t spend anything like that amount of time if I tried!

BuddhaAtSea · 27/07/2025 22:07

Whatareyoutalkingaboutnow · 26/07/2025 22:46

It's healthier to leave it "open" to air.

My exH used to say that. But he also didn’t shower before bed and never changed the 50 years old bedding either. As if letting it all to dry made it less filthy.

SouthernNights59 · 27/07/2025 22:03

alligatorshmalligator · 27/07/2025 06:59

Genuinely horrified at the amount of people who don’t make their bed every day

Why? What do you think happens? I haven't made my bed, other than when the sheets are changed, since I was in my late teens but still manage to be a functioning member of society.

You seem to be easily horrified.

Ddakji · 27/07/2025 20:34

Bimblebombles · 27/07/2025 19:56

I used to rarely ever do it. Then I had a child and mental health went to shit a bit and I started to implement a load of habits to sort myself out, making my bed being one of them. Get those achievement / satisfaction chemicals working in the brain first thing in the morning and it sets the tone.

This is it. I think for years I felt “above” people who kept a tidy home - so boring and uncreative! What a load of bollocks. Light, tidy rooms are really uplifting and calming. Manna for the soul. And making a bed these days hardly takes 10 seconds.

North87 · 27/07/2025 20:30

I have never not made my bed, I could not think of anything worse than leaving the house with un made beds. My dc have bunk beds with about 5 million teddies, cushions and squishmallows on. I must easily spend about half an hour making the bunk bed every morning! I also like the duvets pulled very tightly with no creases at all, and all cushions have a correct place!

Bimblebombles · 27/07/2025 19:56

I used to rarely ever do it. Then I had a child and mental health went to shit a bit and I started to implement a load of habits to sort myself out, making my bed being one of them. Get those achievement / satisfaction chemicals working in the brain first thing in the morning and it sets the tone.

Oldraver · 27/07/2025 19:46

I dont make it formally, btu fold the sheet and duvet/bedspread down so it airs

Then just pull up at night

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