To be terrified that I have rendered myself infertile?

My friend had PID and she was in agony. But she did manage to have a baby. She has had numerous miscarriages though. Only ever had one baby. Don’t know if they’re related

They've already tried for 2 years...

@Roundofapplauses it can take up to a year to conceive naturally so don't worry if you haven't yet got pregnant, the NHS won't even consider investigating until you have tried for at least that long.

You didn’t know. Why are you beating yourself up about this? Not your fault at all.

No need to answer but why did you get tested? Did you get symptoms that prompted the tests?
if so, and it’s recent and I would definitely be suspicious of your boyfriend. Most people would be:

Yes it does, the diagnosis is based on symptoms: discharge, lower abdominal pain and pain during sex plus a bimanual examination (and taking a comprehensive history)

No, 1 in 3 people do not have genital herpes. You’re getting mixed up with the herpes that causes cold sores.

So true

Just came on to say I have HPV1 (herpes) and I have 2 children. It only flares up now and again when stressed or run down (it's like cold sores, same virus different place) but I remember how horrified I was when I found out.
Have you any symptoms? It can lay dormant, so doesn't necessarily mean infidelity - however I found the first time I had symptoms were the worst and over the years it's got way less frequent and nowhere near as bad. It will only show up on a test during a flare up though.

Sorry I have no advice re Chlamydia - I'd just make sure you get referred on to fertility services by your GP / a specialist for any treatment.

So sorry this has happened to you - but I promise it's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about and hopefully you'll go on to have a baby. It can take time even without any other complications so please don't panic - but do get checked out with your GP xxx

OP, only time will tell and no one can promise you which future you will have.

Follow medical advice and hope for the best. Worry solves nothing. x

Because in the real world I think 99% of people who got this kind of diagnosis years into their relationship would at least consider, however briefly, that the infection just might possibly have come from the person they’ve been having sex with.

It seems to have triggered people though, so I’m sorry for that and I hope OP has no lasting harm or damage ❤️

I grew up in the 80s, as did my DH. Not sure why that means we’d automatically query why she trusted her partner. I’m really bloody jaded as well 😂. There’s just no need for that kind of incredulous ‘you sweet summer child’-type snark though.

It doesnt really make much difference which strain you have HSV-1 typically causes cold sores and HSV-2 typically causes genital herpes, either virus can cause sores in either location. someone with HSV-1 from a cold sore could potentially transmit it to a partner's genitals during oral sex, causing genital herpes in the partner...

Why would someone make up a post like this? Bizarre comment.

@Roundofapplauses I had it 5 years and I never had symptoms. Long story short, found out ex partner had cheated on me and I went to get a routine test. I knew it was him who I had contracted it from as I was all clear before I got into a relationship with him and had never been with anyone else at the point I was tested. I too had the same worries as you, I have had a child though since. I think you have to have had it for many years for it to affect fertility. Sorry to hear you what has happened, I still remember the shame I felt at the time even though I wasn't at fault.

Not genital herpes. That’s 10-13% of people.
more have the cold side variety of herpes.

Yes, pain, pain when peeing and heavy painful periods

I have infertility from PID and it was very painful for me (but undiagnosed due to GPs not taking female pain seriously unfortunately). But I had no idea I had had chlamydia. My tubes were badly blocked and I had IVF to have my DD.

guessing if you have an active chlamydia infection it can be treated and won’t have a chance to cause PID.

Why does every single post on here lately have someone claiming it mustn’t be real? Why even bother being on here if you think every post is fake ffs.

No I’m very sure she doesn’t. But a) no one here can tell OP if her fertility is fine and b) if I was ttc and got this diagnosis it would give me pause, as I’m sure it would lots of us. How many threads do we see where women have kids with a guy and are then fucked over? The source of infection is important!

Of course it’s very likely OP’s fella is entirely innocent but I am old and nothing surprises me any more. I am posting with the best of intentions 😘

The herpes wouldn’t have shown up even if they were tested, it’s not included in routine screening.

I have HSV2, OP, no judgement here and no effect on fertility.

hopefully they’ll clear that chlamydia up for you both and take it from there x

Are you genuinely that surprised? You can’t believe that every couple get tested at the start of every new relationship, even if it is good practice?

I don’t think I was judgy or nasty, just incredulous. I guess it’s because I grew up in the 80s 🤷‍♀️

PID doesn’t always have symptoms :(

Oh seriously shut it! The op is asking for advice re her fertility. She doesn’t need you stirring shit re whether her partner has been unfaithful or not ffs!