To think I never want another man?

I would prefer to slice my ears off than date. Being in a healthy, happy, supportive, committed partnership is a wonderful thing. But dating? Dating is awful. I don’t know how people do it.

Living alone is an ambition of mine! I adore my young adult children and will hopefully always be in their lives, but when they eventually leave home, I look forward to peace and quiet, and my own company. It would have to be a very unusual man indeed to convince me it was worth giving up the dream.

I can’t imagine letting a man in again , or having the effort to put into it.
but I’m living with dogs , a 13 year old and work tires me out , I’m happy at home too so I just don’t feel I have the energy for their dramas

Absolutely no chance I'll ever do online dating again and at the moment I'm pretty sure I never want to date at all again although who knows what will happen in future but I won't be going looking for it and right now the thought of ever having another relationship just fills me with dread really, I've had quite a few relationships including 3 engagements, I've got 2 children (8 year old and a 10 month old) with different fathers. Every time I get into a relationship I think this time it will be different but it always ends up the same issues over and over, lazy men with bad hygiene, I always end up feeling more like their mother than partner, they always lie, don't stick to their word, etc.. I really can't be bothered with it anymore, feel like I've wasted so much of my life with terrible relationships

YANBU, a lot of them bring nothing but stress. Many are tight and/or lazy now too so don't even give a decent financial contribution.

TBH I’d like some decent bedroom action (and maybe elsewhere) again before I’m in my dotage, but that’s about it.

I’m another who would never be bothered to do it again if I mislaid my current man. We are a good couple but if I lost him I’d be ok for money, I have my kids and I am enough.

Tbh at your age I would still be craving the personal touch, even if just physically.

Just enjoy what you want out of life but dont give up on experiences, there's a whole world out there to explore!

I don't mean just men, new opportunities, fun, whatever on your own, with friends, a new partner. Just go with the flow and never say never.

I actually like my DH, even after 20+ yrs. He is a decent man, good in the sack, kind, considerate, works hard and I enjoy spending time with him, probably more than I do anyone else. If anything happened to him? I wouldn’t ever entertain a man again. We fit together extremely well but I’m financially independent, have a decent support network and am perfectly happy in my own company. I couldn’t be arsed to train another man.

I tried the online dating thing some years after my divorce. My last date was several years ago now. At first, it was novel and exciting. But my God, the thought of it now! I simply cannot be arsed.

Stay exactly as you are!

I'm with you. Changed my online dating profile to women only and told my friends I'm only interested in a same sex relationship.

Yep the only thing I really miss is the weight of a kind man lying over me. That’s all.

Yep the only thing I really miss is the weight of a kind man lying over me.

😭😭 ofc! I just meant a man taking you abroad is a lovely experience, just going along without having to make plans

Solo trips are amazing too though, no-one else to worry about

Agree wholeheartedly.

The only pro I can think of is having a companion. It's the only part I miss. It's nice to hang out with girlfriends but they are usually too busy with their families to be regular companions. So you end up doing a lot of things alone and it can get lonely. Otoh, you are also free to do whatever you like whenever you like without consulting anyone first. So that evens it out.

OLD was traumatising when I was last on it over 10 years ago now. I vowed never to return as I knew if anything that was something likely to worsen over time and not get better. I met someone organically and I honestly thought I’d won the jackpot and used to constantly think to myself ‘can’t believe his wife left him, what kind of woman does that?!’ In less than a year, I learnt exactly why she’d left him 😑.

I don’t even really even look wistfully at couples anymore because personal experience as well as that of friends/colleagues, seems to be that much of it’s a facade and very few are living their best lives.

Given I have no real friends or family, I would love at least one human in my life but I won’t ever be proactively searching. If it happens, it happens and if not then the money I’ve saved will go towards a few furry companions instead 🙂.

I wouldn’t bother if something happens to DH, I wouldn’t go online. If I happened to meet someone organically then perhaps, I don’t know.

I totally agree. I decided ages ago that there would be no more men, and given how hard it is to meet women I would be interested in, I'm basically signing up to a life of being single. I feel less bothered about that than I do having a relationship with a man so it's fine. I cannot even contemplate online dating. No sir.

I've been single 8 years now. I have a job, a home and cats. My adult DC and I get on massively well. Not bringing a man into it, this is perfection.