To think I never want another man?

I think that's a good place to start from - what you want him for.
Funny company?
Getting rid of spider?
Another child?
Snogging?

If you don't need him but want any of the above then just only date men who offer those and discard them (kindly) immediately if they don't suit

Every time I think it might be nice to meet someone I see a thread on here that reminds me I actually don’t want to. Also IRL, so many of my friends have miserable disfunctional relationships or put up with cheating, financial control, sexual abuse. No thanks. Never risking all of that again.

Been single 9 year and no plan to change it.
I love being me and doing what i want.

Has anyone ever watched The Good Wife? The main character lives alone with her children in her apartment and builds a nice life and when it comes to her husband moving back in it honestly annoys me. Him with his big galumphing presence and his socks everywhere, him hanging about the kitchen and all that stuff, just being in the way and changing the whole dynamic of her still little apartment. And I think of all the peace she had when it was just her and the kids. I just can't imagine ever living with a man again. Why do we start to feel this way, so many women just craving this peace. Even when they're happy in their marriages, knowing that they just wouldn't want another man around. Has it always been that way or is just that we're allowed to say it and feel it now?

We've been together for nearly 40 years and he's been an amazing husband and dad. If/when he passes I'd not bother but then I'm old. I never intended to marry it just sort of snuck up on us. We have two daughters both in what appear to be good marriages. Most of their friends are unmarried with no intention of marrying. One of the ladies was saying she intends to be a mum but no husband, she intends to ask one of the guy friends (who she knows would like to be a dad) to do the deed and share parenting. The others, simply nope, they'll stay as a friendship group.

On the more mundane side, I've been seriously ill on occasions and he's been there to take care of me (and the childen), change me, bedbaths, clean sheets, food all the mundane stuff

I love dp and met him online, but I think I’m bloody lucky that he really does make my life better, and even then, I’ve taken on a fair whack of stuff I might not have chosen directly. Especially with a ten year old in the mix, I’d give it a miss.

I love my partner. We have been together for over 25 years, and I am happy with him. We have made all our compromises and found a good life balance.

I never want to have to go through that process ever again with anyone else. If anything happens to him, I shall just get more cats.

After being widowed a few years ago, I felt absolutely at the end of my tether. He was the love of my life.

By sheer chance, a guy, of my age, posted, on here, that he’d also lost his wife of many years.

We became online friends/support, met up as mates, but life has gradually moved on. Our feelings evolved organically and gradually.

We are in a lovely relationship - not 24/7 - and we have nothing but joy, fun and laughter with each other. 👍

He’s a lovely man, thoughtful, considerate and loving - as was my late husband - I’ve been lucky.

Vibrators are fine, and serve a purpose, pets, kids, friends and grandchildren are lovely, but nothing beats being in a close, loving relationship for me.

However, I have never, and would never, go near OLD. 😳

Those craving a bit of bedroom action could go to a sex club, or find a one night stand.

I've not got an overly high sex drive at this phase in my life but if I did I'd go for one of those options over trying to date again.

I feel the same way.

I miss having a dog more than I miss having a man, my aloof cat isn't the same company wise. 🤣 She's less tying and needy though which is handy when I'm overwhelmed with kids, and life in general.

I just don't feel the desire to lumber myself with another man.

My ex was bragging the other day about how he's good at selling himself (he'd been for a job interview) and I thought, yep, he's not wrong! Some blokes should be done for false advertising. 🙄

I'm sticking to my kids, pets, friends, and the single life. I'll choose peace and freedom thanks.

I’m so happy being single. I’m just not suited to being in a romantic relationship, it sends my anxiety through the roof. I am twice divorced with two adult DC. What would I want another bloke for?

I go on holiday with friends/family/alone.

I occasionally regret being single, but it's usually only when my cat has left a decapitated rat for me to deal with. Or the bin has maggots in it. Other than that, I don't miss having a man.

My experience of online dating was awful and I would never try it again.

I am much happier on my own, enjoying life and my freedom. Friends bring companionship and my lovely pets give me all the love I need.

Apparently "a filled 10-gallon aquarium is equivalent to the blood, water, and lymph system of a man weighing around 180 pounds." Could you lay under an aquarium with a vibrator? Seems preferable to dating and the shit men often bring.

What about it? That only works if you actually fancy women. Presumably anyone here who fancied women would be giving that a whirl already. Plus, as a previous poster pointed out, plenty of lesbians are utterly bored of having partners too!

What about a woman?

Totally agree with you. I was abused terribly by my ex-husband. I have no interest in any of that nonsense again, and fortunately as a result of getting a ton of therapy I am far better equipped to realise when I'm being lied to/manipulated. I also have a far better understanding of how to be happy without the need for anyone else to make that happen. I have a lovely home, a lovely dog, lovely friends, and absolutely zero interest in any BS from anyone. Online dating seemed to be a good way to meet people when it first started, but these days not so much - I have no interest in it. If I happen to meet someone via my hobbies and day to day life so be it, but I completely understand your lack of interest in putting a load of effort into "dating" as such.
I would say that there is nothing unreasonable about your outlook on online dating. Though I think it's great to do hobbies and make pals the "old fashioned way" and remain open to meeting someone by accident as it were.

I’ve been single for eight years and no sex for that length of time either. I honestly don’t miss men or sex 99% of the time. Now and again I kind of crave human contact. I don’t think there will ever be another man for me and I’m ok with that. Genuinely ok.

Sorry to tell you this, but from bitter experriance women are just as fucked up as men. Not in the same way, but they're not the answer either. (Says a lesbian now 20 years single.)

In my 50’s, single 5 years and can’t imagine ever letting a man into my peaceful life.

I have great friends, a brilliant social life. 3-4 holidays a year plus weekends away. And I get to have my own home with no one else to disturb me. I can’t imagine getting home from work and having to talk to someone or sharing my lovely king bed with a snoring farting bloke!

J did go on dates until a couple of years ago but in my personal experience men my age just wanted instant sex or ta nurse with a purse to cook clean and wipe their arse in their dotage. And it made no difference whether I met them OLD or out and about they all fitted into one of those categories so k just decided it wasn’t worth the hassle. I’ll have drinks and dinner with my mates rather than a random man. And as for sex although it would be nice to have some bloody good sex now and again , the thought of some half arsed bloke pawing me just isnt that appealing.

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I honestly think beyond a certain age if you meet someone else who is great and adds to life without a load of issues/drama then lovely - but I wouldn’t go out my way to find it and I wouldn’t bank on it either ,

There are no positives to having to consider and entertain someone's son! Being single is the best.