Girlfriend mum drinks 9/11 bottles a wine a week

If you were an alcoholic, you'd find a way to get wine. You could have it delivered or buy in bulk or spend whole days in the pub... You don't seem to understand the point of this thread at all, nor how alcoholics behave. In fact, you just seem to be boasting about your fancy wine which isn't relevant or helpful at all.

🤣I imagine you dying surrounded by large fridges. I quite like my fridge (not large nor full of fancy bottles) but I won't be bothered if I die and leave it behind. Possessions aren't that important anyway.

It's got nothing to do with this young man or his girlfriend they should mind their own business.

Well read my last post.

Perhaps we have both missed each other's points.

I tried - and obviously failed - to say that because people buy a lot of wine, they may not necessarily be an alcoholic, because I buy cases at auction, and I am not. I couldn't afford to guzzle Chablis at that rate.

My point was that some people who come into the house see the bottles of wine racked up in the fridge and cupboard and assume I must be, until I point out that if I was, the wine would not be there, would it?

Let me enlighten a bit, though didn't think it needed to be@

I was disabled suddenly, overnight. I went to bed well, but when I woke up in the morning, got up to go to work and my legs gave way. I hadn't had an accident, and some people who saw me fit and well one day and unable to walk the next couldn't understand it. Neither did I for a long time, not even now. I tried going back to work, but I found myself clinging to lamposts when the wind blew, so gave it up. I had something called GBS which became the chronic form, CIDP. Some recover. I wasn't strong enough.

There have been times when I suppose I could have been thought to be inebriated: never happen.

I don't know why you keep bringing the fact you are disabled into this. It is totally irrelevant.

Someone who is sinking 2-3 bottles of wine a day will have been doing that for a long time. You don't go from zero to heavy drinking. The amounts sneak up on you.

It is possible for someone to regularly drink that much and seem perfectly fine to everyone around them... hence the term "functioning alcoholic".

Well I don't, does that make me naive, or just don't mix with the people who do?. Worse, if there is such a lot of people who do that, does that make me a social outcast? Good thing I'm disabled then. I never considered there was a good side to disability.

I just cannot imagine anyone being able to stand upright for long, or working with people and not be noticed by anyone at work.

That is what I meant.

Are there any similarities at all between you and the woman this thread is about?

You have totally missed the point I was making. Oh well.

Enjoy your one bottle of posh wine per week. This thread is not about people like you.

I am a wheelchair user. There are no corner shops and I have lived here for decades.

I suppose there are people who get desperate enough to leave the house in pjs to buy whatever they imbibe. I am not one of them. I would probably get run over anyway because I don't have lights on my wheelchair.

Where I live, I wouldn't get far either.

Naïve as in you said you don't believe someone could be drinking 9-11 bottles per week... because you can make one last a week.
Your drinking habits are the opposite to the one OP describes.

There is a documentary about alcoholics called 'Rain in my Heart'. I would recommend everyone watch it. I watch it every so often to keep myself in check.

There is a doctor on there that has seen many patients die from alcohol. He said it does not matter if it is beer or vodka. The effects are the same. There is no "safe" alcohol.

It is a large fridge, I might add. If I were to go, I shall go surrounded by the things I love.

You are absolutely right. That is why I don't drink a lot. I like fine wines and savour them.

Why naive? How many drinkers of vintage wine do you know? I have had some delicious wines from the 1970s and 80s. Ai is very useful for looking up the vintages offered for auction, which are generally offered weeks before the auction.

My point was that people coming into my home and seeing all my 'wine cellar' albeit not underground, assume that I drink large quantities of wine. I don't know why, because if I was an alcoholic the wine wouldn't be in the fridge for long, would it?

How long would it stay in the fridge of the OPs friend? Mine stays in my fridge and cupboard for months. I have macular degeneration. At least I know if someone opens a bottle for me I shall not need to look at the label to see if it is a good one!

Perhaps I would be better understood if I told you I have a fridge ONLY for wine. Food is in another one.

Imagine you were saying the same thing about gin or vodka.
It’s still doing the same damage whether it’s the expensive or the cheap version. They don’t cut open a millionaire and say ‘at least he only drank the expensive champagne, you can really tell the difference between this high quality liver and that of the wino in the corridor’

I’m glad I hate wine.

You sound very naïve.

Alcoholics who have wine as their poison are not buying fine wines and keeping them in racks, and making one bottle last a week. They are drinking to get pissed.
They will get the cheapest unit per £1... think the £4 bottles from Lidl. They wont have a house full of them. They will buy one or two at a time.. drink them, and go out to get more... usually from different shops. Thinking there is an element of control if you only have one bottle at a time at home... picked it up with a load of other shopping so no biggy... it does not look bad. Drink it, and end up going to the local corner shop in your PJs just before closing, and buying all sorts of random things so it looks like the sole purpose of going was not the wine. And rotating the shops you go to so the staff don't twig. But they know.

Alcoholics don't have houses full of booze.. they have houses full of empty bottles.

Thank you.

That’s AA. NACOA is for people affected by the problem drinker.

Would they do anything directly? Most prefer the person to apply for help themselves. They really have to want to stop.

I am disabled. If I thought a carer was under the influence, I would dismiss them.

I would also take photos of the wines in my fridge. I recommend Chablis and Meursault as the better wines for a week open in the fridge. I don't know it for fact, but someone on TV a while back said the cheap wines were laced with alcohol. The best wines are bottled at the Chateau.

Wine in moderation is beneficial. When my late husband and I were reading the daily lesson, it was in the letter wrote by St.Paul to Timothy, who obviously had a stomach problem. He advised Timothy to ''take a little wine with your meal to aid digestion'', So we joined a wine club and it worked. Washed the food down royally. Now I buy at auction online, because there are so many good vintages you never see in the supermarket.

Anything taken in excess is bad for you. Trying taking too many spoonfuls of honey!

No in my experience also, everything is ok for ages and then suddenly not ok. It’s not gradual, it’s a bang.

I am sorry to hear about your SIL

What I describe is much the same. Did I suggest it was instant? I said at the rate they are drinking their health would be starting to break down. From what the OP said it seems as though a number of years has already passed.

If people understood the consequences of heavy drinking, it is to be hoped they will not start in the first place. Is there anything wrong with what I said, apart from your point that it won't show for many years, which, of course, differs from one person to another.

And going to work as a nurse on the back of that level of consumption. It can’t not be affecting her.

Yes I know I work for them hence why I don’t agree with the wait and see logic. If someone wants to drink themselves into oblivion that’s their call but I couldn’t sit back and watch innocent people put at risk. I’d be reporting anonymously through Crimestoppers and do it immediately