Girlfriend mum drinks 9/11 bottles a wine a week

We only have the OPs word that the post is true, don't we? It is only what she says.

I am trying to make the point that you have to see someone actually drinking 47 bottles a month to know the truth, rather than take someone's word for it.

I said not everyone who buys lots of bottles at once is drinking them all at once, and not everyone who cannot walk is an alcoholic.

My advice to the OP was that if she has evidence that the person is drinking up to 11 bottles a week, then she should report her to the police with the car registration number if she thinks she is driving under the influence.

But you have to have proof. If the police stopped her and she was perfectly sober, would they take any notice of the OP again?

Kindly, you need to start your own thread about wine auctions elsewhere. It has absolutely no relevance to the OP’s post, they don’t need handy wine buying tips!!

No boasting at all. We used to belong to a wine club who sent wine every three months. Started off with their choice, then after some time chose our own.

I was trying to make some points which were missed, so I cannot be very good at making them.

You can buy lovely wines at auction for far less than you would pay in a shop. You can bid online, and the wine lots are displayed for at lease a fortnight, so that you can google the years and vintages, apply to bet online at the Saleroom. If no one bids against you, you get the wine at the start price. You have to pay the auctioneers premium and VAT, and find someone to ship it to you (some auction houses arrange it for a price) if you cannot collect it yourself.

You get to learn about wine, best year vintages. They are good wines, to be savoured. The cheapest supermarket brands ruin your taste buds and are probably addictive. I don't know anyone who is addicted to alcohol. It was not in the house when the children were young(they were in bed if we had a party) and none of them touch it.

You don't have to be rich to buy good wines, and they are far more satisfying than the cheap ones.

I also tried to explain that not everyone who buys a lot of wine at once, drink it all in a week. Also, not everyone who cannot walk properly is an alcoholic. The members of facebook groups for my disease regularly post in tears because they have been accused of being drunk. I fell one day - years ago. The cover was missing from one of those small square drain chambers. It was on a grass verge so didn't know. There was no one about for a while and I don't have a mobile phone. Then a dog walker came along and stopped about 50 yards away and stared. I lifted my coat to show the splints on my leg and she immediately came to help, but I am sure she would not have done so had I not had the splints on.

I heard someone with a similar disease - MS was refused admission on a bus because she couldn't walk properly.

It is so common, some were debating whether to have a notice board saying so.

No boasting at all. We used to belong to a wine club who sent wine every three months. Started off with their choice, then after some time chose our own.

I was trying to make some points which were missed, so I cannot be very good at making them.

You can buy lovely wines at auction for far less than you would pay in a shop. You can bid online, and the wine lots are displayed for at lease a fortnight, so that you can google the years and vintages, apply to bet online at the Saleroom. If no one bids against you, you get the wine at the start price. You have to pay the auctioneers premium and VAT, and find someone to ship it to you (some auction houses arrange it for a price) if you cannot collect it yourself.

You get to learn about wine, best year vintages. They are good wines, to be savoured. The cheapest supermarket brands ruin your taste buds and are probably addictive. I don't know anyone who is addicted to alcohol. It was not in the house when the children were young(they were in bed if we had a party) and none of them touch it.

You don't have to be rich to buy good wines, and they are far more satisfying than the cheap ones.

I also tried to explain that not everyone who buys a lot of wine at once, drink it all in a week. Also, not everyone who cannot walk properly is an alcoholic. The members of facebook groups for my disease regularly post in tears because they have been accused of being drunk. I fell one day - years ago. The cover was missing from one of those small square drain chambers. It was on a grass verge so didn't know. There was no one about for a while and I don't have a mobile phone. Then a dog walker came along and stopped about 50 yards away and stared. I lifted my coat to show the splints on my leg and she immediately came to help, but I am sure she would not have done so had I not had the splints on.

I heard someone with a similar disease - MS was refused admission on a bus because she couldn't walk properly.

It is so common, some were debating whether to have a notice board saying so.

If you were an alcoholic, you'd find a way to get wine. You could have it delivered or buy in bulk or spend whole days in the pub... You don't seem to understand the point of this thread at all, nor how alcoholics behave. In fact, you just seem to be boasting about your fancy wine which isn't relevant or helpful at all.

It’s got nothing to do with either of you. 🤷‍♀️

My girlfriend mum will drink easily between 9/11 bottles of wine a week and despite my girlfriend talking to her, she don't feel it is a issue.

The dad also drinks heavily, around 6/8 cans nightly. Both work full time, she works as a nurse.

My girlfriend made a diary of how much she drank at home in June and it was 47 bottles.

Now am I wrong in thinking that this is a insane amount of wine to be drinking on a weekly basis? I don't drink at all myself but having 1/2 bottles bottles each night seems crazy to me.

She drives to work yes, some nights stops drinking 11pm and drives 6.30am

She also admitted back in May to drink driving at night with her 11 year daughter in the back.

Not the most responsible nurse at all

You sound very naïve.

Alcoholics who have wine as their poison are not buying fine wines and keeping them in racks, and making one bottle last a week. They are drinking to get pissed.
They will get the cheapest unit per £1... think the £4 bottles from Lidl. They wont have a house full of them. They will buy one or two at a time.. drink them, and go out to get more... usually from different shops. Thinking there is an element of control if you only have one bottle at a time at home... picked it up with a load of other shopping so no biggy... it does not look bad. Drink it, and end up going to the local corner shop in your PJs just before closing, and buying all sorts of random things so it looks like the sole purpose of going was not the wine. And rotating the shops you go to so the staff don't twig. But they know.

Alcoholics don't have houses full of booze.. they have houses full of empty bottles.

You sound very naïve.

Alcoholics who have wine as their poison are not buying fine wines and keeping them in racks, and making one bottle last a week. They are drinking to get pissed.
They will get the cheapest unit per £1... think the £4 bottles from Lidl. They wont have a house full of them. They will buy one or two at a time.. drink them, and go out to get more... usually from different shops. Thinking there is an element of control if you only have one bottle at a time at home... picked it up with a load of other shopping so no biggy... it does not look bad. Drink it, and end up going to the local corner shop in your PJs just before closing, and buying all sorts of random things so it looks like the sole purpose of going was not the wine. And rotating the shops you go to so the staff don't twig. But they know.

Alcoholics don't have houses full of booze.. they have houses full of empty bottles.

She’s drinking over ten times the recommended maximum units - possibly more, depending on the strength of the wine. Telling her how much she’s drinking won’t help much really - at this level she needs professional help to cut down, or ideally, stop.

My SiL was drinking 1-2 bottles of wine per night for around 20 years. It started when she lost her husband. We tried to intervene but she wouldn’t listen to anyone - said she enjoyed her wine and didn’t consider it excessive.

Her health started to deteriorate mildly in her early sixties but there were few outward signs to those who didn’t know what was going on. Eventually she started to have falls and was hospitalised several times after significant injury. Each time she had to be treated for withdrawal symptoms because her body had got used to the alcohol and she would have seizures without it.

Eventually she had a major convulsion and on admission to ITU was sedated and put on life support in ITU while they investigated. She was found to have suffered brain damage and the alcohol had caused irreparable damage to internal organs, including end stage cirrhosis. Each time they tried to remove sedation she would have another seizure. Eventually she was taken off life support and passed away because there was nothing else they could do. She was 67.

The problem is that the body can take quite a bashing from alcohol for a while and there are few outward signs of resulting damage until it becomes severe - by which time in many cases it’s too late to do anything about it.

Please don’t try to intervene by yourself. She’s a functioning alcoholic and she needs professional help. Maybe start with the GP and go from there. It sounds awful but if she’s driving to work in the mornings the best thing that could happen is that she gets stopped and breathalysed. Maybe a drink driving conviction could be what she needs to pull her up short and get help.

You know perfectly well this is a dangerous level of drinking. What is your purpose in posting on here?

Would they do anything directly? Most prefer the person to apply for help themselves. They really have to want to stop.