To think there are very few nice people here on Mumsnet anymore?

I’ve been on here 18 years and I’m now too scared to comment in case my words are taken the wrong way and I get a vicious response…

Agree.

Yeah, and with a hefty dose of how terrible a parent the poster must be.

Some people here really do come over like they've never done anything wrong in their lives.

I think there are always nasty people especially on the internet but I do remember coming across posts from 5 plus years ago and noticing the difference in how people responded. They were nicer. Could be coincidence.

I agree with you OP. It's like all other SM, people taking delight in starting arguments. Sometimes the OP is obviously worried and upset and posters are just sticking the knife in.
Also, the number of people who can't seem to understand a simple sentence makes me think a lot of deliberate misunderstanding goes on too.

Yanbu x

It very much depends where you are.

Nowadays my MN home is the Litter Tray, which is lovely.

FWR are warrior women because they’ve pretty much had to be.

AIBU has always been a viper pit.

I don’t click on the ‘What’s everyone up to’ threads because while I’m sure they’re very nice for the posters, I find them annoying so it’s the most sensible thing to do.

@3rdtimeinflorida - isn’t the OP also criticising and being negative, though?

I find it mad that a poster might for example post about her son or daughter doing something not great and people will call them a little b*tch, spoiled brat, c word etc- over something not all that huge and definitely forgetting it’s only a kid/ teen etc and they’ve probably done much worse. Definitely definitely definitely a harsher angry crowd but still an amazing place for tips help and solidarity

Op! I completely agree with you. It’s like some people just want to look out for anything that they can criticise or belittle. See it far too often.

Starting a thread about how MNers are mean in AIBU? I wonder why you don’t meet lovely people on there 😀

Go and look at the Woolly Hugs threads - the amount of love that is shown to bereaved mumsnetters and their families by the crafters of Mumsnet.

Look at the support threads in education, SEN, disability, etc.

It's mixed, I think. There are many people who seem nice, reasonable and willing to help. There are a few who seem to latch on to any opportunity to put people down, tell them they're idiots etc, and generally set out to make them feel bad. I don't really get this mentality 🤷‍♀️

Personally, I’m delightful. But I think the key is not to take other posters too seriously. I don’t actually give a toss if you are all mean to me online. You don’t know who I am.

The weekly thread 😆 of how mean people are on here.

I don't tend to post on the more general chat, AIBU threads now and just stick to the ones like telly or music threads as it's the general ones that are quite nasty

I've been here 19 years and there's definitely a very different feel to a lot of the threads now. There are still some lovely supportive corners, but there are also people who seem to be looking for ways to pick a fight.

I’m nice!
Try to be supportive and keep an objective point of view. I’m also in the older group (17? years on MN) so can speak from experience.
At this point I think I can tell a wind-up when I see one and zone out when two posters take over and start getting at each other, usually due to poor reading skills.

Starting an AIBU thread is bound to attract criticism from somewhere, and remember quite a lot of wine gets drunk at the weekend!

I'm nice! I've been on here under various names for about 15 years. I do try to be helpful and I'm always polite, even on the threads where some "Man here.." poster tries to tell us all how we are "womenning" wrong. But I do agree but some people just want to pick a fight, some will zero on an aspect of the post that isn't the most relevant and make it all about that, or accuse the OP of TLDR or drip feeding, or both!

I agree. There are ways to disagree with people without being a twat. Lots of people on her appear to like to be twats.

are there actually still genuinely nice people around here or has it become more of a space for venting and putting others down?

How would you describe yourself OP?

It was always like this. What I have noticed, though, over the years, is there are certain times of year/days of the week when the harsher posters come online and certain times/days when you get an easier time of it because those people aren't online. Fridays/Saturdays tend to be much worse than midweek, for example.

YANBU op.

its really changed and is certainly attracting a different demographic. Posters are using vocabulary such as my kid rather than dc or even the word child.

A lot of posters seem to have more dc than they can cope with or afford accompanied with a feckless absent dp.

People are also posting about the most ridiculous stupid things too.

MN has really gone downhill and is now akin to Jeremy Kyle judging from how posters interact with each other and lack of critical thinking.