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Should I have just kept on running

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JuliaSaysHi · 26/07/2025 12:00

running my usual route this morning - do this regularly. In the distance - zig zag path, I see a black figure. Bit strange as warm today. Definitely black hood but and think face was covered. I am never spooked on this run although it is a river path with forest on one side. I stop on the zig zag hill path thinking figure will walk past me and then I can run on deeper into the forest area. But figure does not come towards me - I assume waiting? At this point, I am frightened and turn and run back out of the forest area onto public path. I wait at the top of the public path and no one appears. Another lady is approaching forest with her dog and I warn her of what I saw - we both decide to stick to path. I now feel I may have just seen someone wearing black - but where did they go? Very strange and unnerving.

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Judiezones · 26/07/2025 12:46

ThinWomansBrain · 26/07/2025 12:34

Because he was tall, large generally or foreign?
that made him odd, or a threat?

Where does she say he was odd?

Maryberrysaga · 26/07/2025 12:45

You did exactly the right thing. It probably was harmless but there is no point risking it if you feel something isn’t right. As an aside, this is exactly why I share my location with my DH. There was a very sneary thread on here about doing that but I run alone as well and he keeps an eye on me to make sure I’m still moving along.

SriouslyWhutNow · 26/07/2025 12:45

ThinWomansBrain · 26/07/2025 12:34

Because he was tall, large generally or foreign?
that made him odd, or a threat?

Uh oh, someone mentioned "foreign", good thing someone arrived on the thread to pick it apart to make a barely-concealed political point even though the rest of the comment was bloody obvious that some bloke built like a brick shithouse is blatantly a threat to a lone woman. 🙄 Someone will be on next to ask how the PP knew it was a man because that silly political point hasn't been made yet either.

tinaabbot · 26/07/2025 12:39

Better to follow your gut, it was probably totally harmless, someone on the phone or something, so not moving. If you normally feel safe there I hope you will be able to run there again without fear.

Zapx · 26/07/2025 12:37

They can’t attack you if you’re not there. If you’re ever tempted to run - you run! I think you totally did the right thing OP, especially about warning the other person as well.

ThinWomansBrain · 26/07/2025 12:34

dottiedodah · 26/07/2025 12:17

I would not risk it OP. There are so many odd people about .A while ago I was walking my dog on the golf course nearby.No one around .A huge foreign guy appeared. must have been about 6ft 6 and very muscular .He walked towards me and I was so scared/shaking .He smiled and said "lovely dog!" Even so It spooked me that if he had been bad news, there would have been no one nearby .I would be careful OP there is just nowhere left that is 100% safe sadly

Because he was tall, large generally or foreign?
that made him odd, or a threat?

toomuchfaff · 26/07/2025 12:25

You have no obligation to the person in black - to not offend them by your turning back, they are a stranger. They are either a stranger up to no good, or a stranger not up to no good, either way you turning back was your benefit- don't over think it

toomuchfaff · 26/07/2025 12:25

You have no obligation to the person in black - to not offend them by your turning back, they are a stranger. They are either a stranger up to no good, or a stranger not up to no good, either way you turning back was your benefit- don't over think it

dottiedodah · 26/07/2025 12:17

I would not risk it OP. There are so many odd people about .A while ago I was walking my dog on the golf course nearby.No one around .A huge foreign guy appeared. must have been about 6ft 6 and very muscular .He walked towards me and I was so scared/shaking .He smiled and said "lovely dog!" Even so It spooked me that if he had been bad news, there would have been no one nearby .I would be careful OP there is just nowhere left that is 100% safe sadly

LazySunbedDays · 26/07/2025 12:04

I believe you should always trust your gut in these situations.

Dearg · 26/07/2025 12:03

It may have been innocent but your gut suggested otherwise, and told you to be on the safe side. Not a bad thing.

Laiste · 26/07/2025 12:02

Always follow your gut instincts.

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