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Flight booked to new zealand - going to be 30 weeks pregnant!!

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tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 11:39

Hi, just looking for some advice. A few months ago we booked flights to new zealand for January for 2 weeks, with BA. I recently found out i’m pregnant which means i’m going to be 28/30 weeks pregnant at the time. Having done some advice i’ve decided it probably isn’t going to be sensible to go, especially as i’m at high risk of premature birth due to uterus didelphis (double uterus).

What would our grounds be for cancellation? would we loose all the money? Or have we got a chance of getting some money back/ flight credit?

My thoughts are a) tell the airline we have been advised not to travel by the doctor. or b) say i’ll be 36 weeks, therefore the airline wont ’let’ me fly, maybe more chance of a refund. Although i know it’s not ideal to lie, and not sure if they will check!!

Just exploring options and thought i’d see if anyone has any knowledge/ experience.

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Nearly50omg · 26/07/2025 20:14

To be frank at the moment you basically have a late period at this stage I’d wait and check that you actually stay pregnant as a lot of pregnancies don’t stick and until you know for definite - past 20 weeks or so - then you might cancel your flights and lose a load of money for nothing

RantzNotBantz · 26/07/2025 19:54

allthesmallthingsarehere · 26/07/2025 18:06

You've got to be mad with uterus didelphys. Don't even think about it.

That said though, without being negative (I have the condition too), I'm sure you know that your risk of miscarriage is higher anyway.

I would wait til 12 weeks then attempt cancellation, medical certification to cancel, and then delaying the flight, in that order.

This, OP.

Congratulations and fingers crossed for a straightforward pregnancy.

Though it might be good to get a view on the medical view of a flight at that stage of pregnancy at your 12 week scan, including the stage of pregnancy on your return date. Are you going for two weeks?

RubyDreamer · 26/07/2025 19:43

Purpleturtle45 · 26/07/2025 19:35

I am highly doubtful travel insurance would pay out for pregnancy anyway as it's something you have control over.

Absolutely this.

We Were scheduled to go to Melbourne 6 years ago, 3 weeks before we were due to fly I gave birth - a cryptic pregnancy, I had no idea I was going to have a baby.

I was told by my insurance company that nothing pregnancy related would be covered, despite the unusual situation. Etihad also couldn’t/werent able to help. Fought for weeks as I believed (as did my doctor) that my situation fit into one of their categories of things that were covered, but that company didn’t agree.

A very expensive problem, £2000 we really could have done with.

Purpleturtle45 · 26/07/2025 19:35

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 13:16

this is what i was thinking, although i know it’s dishonest and will probably be frowned upon by a few people!

I am highly doubtful travel insurance would pay out for pregnancy anyway as it's something you have control over.

Llindsey85 · 26/07/2025 19:05

Can you sell your flight for a slight loss to one of the other wedding guests? Change of name will probably be relatively inexpensive compared to losing the whole amount

BrendaSmall · 26/07/2025 19:00

As soon as you book a holiday book travel insurance at the same time!
Anything can happen as soon as the holiday is booked!

YesHonestly · 26/07/2025 18:57

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 13:16

this is what i was thinking, although i know it’s dishonest and will probably be frowned upon by a few people!

It’s not “dishonest” it’s insurance fraud.

If you have already been seen at a clinic it will be on file.

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 18:52

allthesmallthingsarehere · 26/07/2025 18:06

You've got to be mad with uterus didelphys. Don't even think about it.

That said though, without being negative (I have the condition too), I'm sure you know that your risk of miscarriage is higher anyway.

I would wait til 12 weeks then attempt cancellation, medical certification to cancel, and then delaying the flight, in that order.

personal question but have you had successful pregnancies? completely understand if you don’t want to answer but i have really wanted to speak to someone with the condition for a while, i’ve been in a state of panic and this has made me more worried tbh! i knew the risk was higher but didn’t realise it was that bad!

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Destiny123 · 26/07/2025 18:48

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 12:35

sorry i’m just trying to understand! just thought it would be worth taking it out now and trying to claim closer to the time! i’ve not been in this situation before so exploring all options that’s all!

Travel insurance rarely covers pregnancy as its something that you got yourself into. Def won't cover if taken out after pregnant. Lying will get you a fraud conviction if you get caught. Pled with rhe airline is your main hope

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 18:44

allthesmallthingsarehere · 26/07/2025 18:06

You've got to be mad with uterus didelphys. Don't even think about it.

That said though, without being negative (I have the condition too), I'm sure you know that your risk of miscarriage is higher anyway.

I would wait til 12 weeks then attempt cancellation, medical certification to cancel, and then delaying the flight, in that order.

I do know this, but trying to stay positive! Have been very reassured by positive stories, trying not to spiral with worry

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ThatCoolGoose · 26/07/2025 18:11

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 12:32

would it be worth taking out travel insurance now?

No as you will not be covered for pre-existing conditions which pregnancy obviously is

allthesmallthingsarehere · 26/07/2025 18:06

You've got to be mad with uterus didelphys. Don't even think about it.

That said though, without being negative (I have the condition too), I'm sure you know that your risk of miscarriage is higher anyway.

I would wait til 12 weeks then attempt cancellation, medical certification to cancel, and then delaying the flight, in that order.

readingmytealeaves · 26/07/2025 18:01

If you paid for flights on a credit card you might already have insurance through that? We have pretty good travel insurance through our credit card.

Insurance companies often try very hard to get out of medical claims - your pregnancy is on your medical records and they will want your consent to access your medical records as standard procedure for looking into any claim. They will find out easily that you knew you were pregnant before taking out insurance.

As for "fitness to fly certificates" you have said this is a complicated pregnancy so I would be surprised if your GP would be comfortable providing one even if they do provide them in some cases, which as others said many GPs don't. So that would be something you might have to source privately - maybe from an obstetrician or an aviation medicine specialist, not sure. Even if a provider does these certificates they won't do it if they don't think you're genuinely fit to fly, it's not just a matter of paying for one and automatically getting it. The fee would be for the assessment not just the certificate and you can't dictate the outcome of the assessment if that makes sense.

DOI - I do work in health care though not currently in the UK. I do have some experience of people trying to make insurance claims or wanting me to declare them fit to fly when their medical condition is not in my area of expertise.

Soontobe60 · 26/07/2025 17:51

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 12:32

would it be worth taking out travel insurance now?

No as you’d have to declare all pre-existing conditions.

Hols23 · 26/07/2025 17:44

Parker231 · 26/07/2025 17:33

Travel insurance is effective from when the policy was taken out so you wouldn’t be covered for a flight booked prior to that date. The clauses in the policy would cover what constitutes a cancellation payout.

Not true in my experience - travel insurance will usually cover you for flights already booked, unless they feel there has been an unreasonable delay in buying insurance.

However travel insurance isn't the answer in this case - and fraud is a serious crime. You need to explain your situation to the airline and hope they'll agree to give you a credit.

Parker231 · 26/07/2025 17:33

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 13:16

this is what i was thinking, although i know it’s dishonest and will probably be frowned upon by a few people!

Travel insurance is effective from when the policy was taken out so you wouldn’t be covered for a flight booked prior to that date. The clauses in the policy would cover what constitutes a cancellation payout.

Hols23 · 26/07/2025 17:29

JealousyIsADisease · 26/07/2025 16:35

It would likely have to be a private dr because you can’t use your regular GP service for this. OP losing money on flights is not their issue and someone who needs a much needed medical appointment for I’ll health should not lose the opportunity of an appointment because they didn’t book travel insurance when they booked your travel.

Our GPs will absolutely not do fit to fly (or not fit!) certificates.

all that aside, I flew to NZ in my early 20’s when not pregnant. I absolutely wouldn’t want to do it heavily pregnant at all!

Edited

My NHS GP charges £20 for a Fit to Fly certificate but it's true not all NHS practices provide them.

JealousyIsADisease · 26/07/2025 16:35

nutbrownhare15 · 26/07/2025 12:35

The BA website states you need a fit to travel form from a doctor to travel after 28 weeks. Book a doctor's appointment and explain that this is not an uncomplicated pregnancy (which they are required to certify) and see if you can get a letter to that effect. And then phone them and explain that your doctor won't certify you as fit to travel. https://www.britishairways.com/content/information/travel-assistance/medical-conditions-and-pregnancy

It would likely have to be a private dr because you can’t use your regular GP service for this. OP losing money on flights is not their issue and someone who needs a much needed medical appointment for I’ll health should not lose the opportunity of an appointment because they didn’t book travel insurance when they booked your travel.

Our GPs will absolutely not do fit to fly (or not fit!) certificates.

all that aside, I flew to NZ in my early 20’s when not pregnant. I absolutely wouldn’t want to do it heavily pregnant at all!

EyeLevelStick · 26/07/2025 16:25

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 13:54

i did know this! i just wasn’t sure what my chances of actually getting any money back were, even with a drs note.

The Dr’s note is irrelevant. You have no travel insurance (unless, as a pp said, you do actually have insurance that’s part of your bank account that you’ve forgotten about) so you don’t need to prove anything.

BA have pretty good terms (in comparison to the budget airlines) for changing your tickets to some time in the future, and to a different destination if you wish, depending on your booking class. You can find this out by going into your booking or contacting them by phone. You’re unlikely to get a refund.

You may or may not get away with taking out insurance now and then fraudulently claiming on it. I don’t think it’s worth the risk of being unable to get insurance in the future, or worse.

Spanador · 26/07/2025 15:43

Jaws2025 · 26/07/2025 13:55

Do you mean a third post? OP doesn't specifically talk about insurance until a later post.
The idea of booking an expensive flight without immediately also booking travel insurance is hard to comprehend, I would admit.

They asked which airline OP is flying with, when it literally says it in the 3rd line of the opening post

BoredZelda · 26/07/2025 14:40

Don’t beat yourself up about it, we’ve all done things we’d do differently a second time. At least you’ve learned this lesson early on in life and will know next time to insure your trips immediately, including flights.

The advice to check if anyone in the party flying has a paid for bank account is good as often these come with travel insurance.

If not, your best advice is to call British Airways and explain the situation. You may not get a refund, they aren’t obliged to do it, but they may offer to give you credit to rebook with them another time.

The other option is to speak to the bride and see if anyone else is looking for a flight. You might be able, for a fee, to change the names on the booking and sell the flights directly to them.

BoredZelda · 26/07/2025 14:34

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 13:19

also on the other hand, has anyone done a long haul trip like this at this stage of pregnancy? nothing is cancelled yet and would obviously still love to go but just thinking it might not be wise!

Having had a premature birth, I wouldn’t recommend it. I flew at 26 weeks, back from hospital in London, I had no choice. It was only an hour but it was stressful knowing I could spontaneously bleed then go into labour at any point.

DaisyChain505 · 26/07/2025 14:32

Travel insurance should be purchased to moment you book flights etc.

If you get insurance now and then try and cancel and claim they will ask to see your medical history and see that you knew it was high risk pregnancy before taking out their insurance.

BerryTwister · 26/07/2025 14:30

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 14:06

only 5 weeks, but did attend an early pregnancy clinic last week as had spotting, so think it would be on file :(

Yes, there’s no point in trying to claim retrospective insurance if it’s medically documented that you already knew you were pregnant when you took out the policy.

I think all you can do is beg the airline to take pity on you. Maybe they’ll compromise on vouchers for future flights, or changing the date (presumably if your friends are getting married in NZ, then they live there, and you may want to visit them in the future, especially if you can’t go to their wedding). And next time - as I’m sure you’ve gathered - take out insurance the second you commit any money to a holiday.

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 14:06

BerryTwister · 26/07/2025 14:04

OP how many weeks pregnant are you? Have you booked a midwife appt and informed GP/medical services etc? If yes, then it’s too late to take out insurance.

But if you’ve only just missed a period and done a positive test, and not told anyone other than your husband, then you could probably get away with taking out insurance now. Plenty of people have irregular periods , and find out on their first scan that they’re further along than they thought. If you cancelled the flights in a week, the insurers would have no way of proving that you already knew you were pregnant when you took out the policy.

only 5 weeks, but did attend an early pregnancy clinic last week as had spotting, so think it would be on file :(

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