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Flight booked to new zealand - going to be 30 weeks pregnant!!

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tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 11:39

Hi, just looking for some advice. A few months ago we booked flights to new zealand for January for 2 weeks, with BA. I recently found out i’m pregnant which means i’m going to be 28/30 weeks pregnant at the time. Having done some advice i’ve decided it probably isn’t going to be sensible to go, especially as i’m at high risk of premature birth due to uterus didelphis (double uterus).

What would our grounds be for cancellation? would we loose all the money? Or have we got a chance of getting some money back/ flight credit?

My thoughts are a) tell the airline we have been advised not to travel by the doctor. or b) say i’ll be 36 weeks, therefore the airline wont ’let’ me fly, maybe more chance of a refund. Although i know it’s not ideal to lie, and not sure if they will check!!

Just exploring options and thought i’d see if anyone has any knowledge/ experience.

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Zempy · 28/07/2025 08:17

Martin Lewis is crying…

You take out travel insurance WHEN YOU BOOK YOUR TRAVEL!!!

I hope you get it sorted OP and congratulations.

Absentmindedsmile · 28/07/2025 08:10

ps. We have annual travel insurance, renewed once per year. Means we don’t forget on individual trips, and we’re always covered. Not that much more expensive and probably works out cheaper than individual trips. Might be worth doing in future!

Morgenrot25 · 28/07/2025 08:02

RainSoakedNights · 28/07/2025 07:41

That won’t work - it’s fraud.

OP, you’re buggered. You can try to call and explain, but most airlines and hotels etc will be firm on their policies

Yep, and fraud might make it a tad harder to get future insurance.

Morgenrot25 · 28/07/2025 08:01

Contact BA. Be polite and plead your case. They might offer to help as a goodwill measure.

mamagogo1 · 28/07/2025 07:55

Phone BA, they may not be willing to refund but may be willing to give you credit that lasts 2 years typically

SweatyBettyAgain · 28/07/2025 07:50

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 12:32

would it be worth taking out travel insurance now?

No, because your pregnancy is a pre-existing condition.

Tiedbutchorestodo · 28/07/2025 07:47

You might get a credit if you speak to someone at the airline - Virgin gave us a 2 year credit when i found out i was pregnant and just didn’t want to fly due to previous issues in pregnancy (wouldn’t have got a doctors note as it was a choice) and it was a normal non-refundable ticket.

Absentmindedsmile · 28/07/2025 07:45

No harm in calling the airline, explaining your situation. They May let you re book another flight for after the child is born. Doubt you’d get a refund, it was a totally manageable situation over which you had control (as far as the airline is concerned).

Good luck - it might just depend on the individual you talk to at the airline!

RainSoakedNights · 28/07/2025 07:41

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 28/07/2025 02:32

How pregnant are you? You could take it out now and then say you only found out later if you haven't had any appointments yet.

I think BA should cash in for vouchers I'd hope

That won’t work - it’s fraud.

OP, you’re buggered. You can try to call and explain, but most airlines and hotels etc will be firm on their policies

PurpleThistle7 · 28/07/2025 07:37

Definitely don’t travel - you’re unlikely to get approved to do so anyway as you’re high risk, but just in case. It’s a total nightmare to give birth in another country.

Your best bet is to call and explain. I wouldn’t guess you’d get a refund but you certainly won’t get anything if you don’t ask. Might as well try.

ChompandaGrazia · 28/07/2025 07:36

Have you perhaps got travel insurance through your bank account, home insurance or something like that?

notimagain · 28/07/2025 07:30

Just a comment that AFAIK BA itself doesn't go to NZ at all, there must be at least two airlines on the OPs booking (BA plus ??).

They'll maybe need to be aware of the conditions of carriage of all the elevant operators, not just BA.

Soontobe60 · 28/07/2025 07:15

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 28/07/2025 01:08

I think I know what you're trying to say, but the way you've written it isn't correct.

You can buy travel insurance at any time up until the date of travel and you would be covered for the flights, accommodation etc already spent on that trip. It just won't cover you for events (such as death, illness etc) that happen before you bought the policy.

Almost everyone buys their tickets first, then the insurance.

Nor will it cover you for any illnesses / conditions that you already know about

Soontobe60 · 28/07/2025 07:14

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 28/07/2025 02:32

How pregnant are you? You could take it out now and then say you only found out later if you haven't had any appointments yet.

I think BA should cash in for vouchers I'd hope

The OP has already had a scan so it will be on her medical records. When anyone claims under their travel insurance the insurer requests copies of all their medical records, which will show the pregnancy preceded the start of the policy plus the condition the OP has that makes this a risky pregnancy.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 28/07/2025 02:32

How pregnant are you? You could take it out now and then say you only found out later if you haven't had any appointments yet.

I think BA should cash in for vouchers I'd hope

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 28/07/2025 01:08

Parker231 · 26/07/2025 17:33

Travel insurance is effective from when the policy was taken out so you wouldn’t be covered for a flight booked prior to that date. The clauses in the policy would cover what constitutes a cancellation payout.

I think I know what you're trying to say, but the way you've written it isn't correct.

You can buy travel insurance at any time up until the date of travel and you would be covered for the flights, accommodation etc already spent on that trip. It just won't cover you for events (such as death, illness etc) that happen before you bought the policy.

Almost everyone buys their tickets first, then the insurance.

RobinEllacotStrike · 26/07/2025 23:53

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 12:28

we were planning on taking our travel insurance closer to the time, feeling stupid now but was a surprise pregnancy so didn’t think to! Also can’t really bring it forward as it’s a wedding we’re meant to be going for!

This is why you take out travel insurance sooner not later. Ideally have it in place when you book your flights.

i don’t think the airlines will refund you but give it a go.

congrats on your pregnancy op.

FitAt50 · 26/07/2025 23:22

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 12:28

we were planning on taking our travel insurance closer to the time, feeling stupid now but was a surprise pregnancy so didn’t think to! Also can’t really bring it forward as it’s a wedding we’re meant to be going for!

MARTIN LEWIS "Always take out insurance as soon as you book".

Dearnurse · 26/07/2025 22:08

Get a Dr's note from your consultant there is no way they will let you fly at that gestation due to your complications & being high risk for pre term birth so the airline will have to refund you x

Welshmonster · 26/07/2025 22:02

You need to have taken out travel insurance at the time of booking. They check medical records so even if you took it out know they would know you visited doctors for spotting.

i had travel insurance and a flight booked when I found out I was pregnant. Even with insurance it was a nightmare to cancel with the airline and they didn’t refund it all.

I panicked and cancelled too early as my friend was pressurising me as she wanted her money back so she could book another summer holiday before price went up. I hadn’t even had my 12 week scan and I was 41.

sadly my scan showed problems after I cancelled with airline and travel insurance were difficult. They said no to my friend but then she asked them to read the file as I would have been high risk pregnancy and her travel insurance gave money back. My baby sadly didn’t make it earth side

I would just wait and see what happens with pregnancy as you don’t have travel insurance anyway so read airline T&C carefully.

next time you book anywhere, take out travel insurance at the same time. or just book an annual policy.

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 20:43

allthesmallthingsarehere · 26/07/2025 20:18

One successful but very prem, two miscarriages, currently 30 weeks. It is possible but your risk is very high to be even considering going anywhere abroad in a pregnancy full stop.

Thankyou ❤️ wishing you a healthy rest of your pregnancy x

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tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 20:41

Nearly50omg · 26/07/2025 20:14

To be frank at the moment you basically have a late period at this stage I’d wait and check that you actually stay pregnant as a lot of pregnancies don’t stick and until you know for definite - past 20 weeks or so - then you might cancel your flights and lose a load of money for nothing

sorry but this came across as very harsh and really anxiety provoking. Maybe think about how you word things in the future as things like ‘if you actually stay pregnant’ and ‘a lot of pregnancies don’t stick’ is pretty insensitive and un kind. I am pregnant, i’ve had an early scan… more than a late period i would say. Sorry had to be said, i get being realistic but it’s possible to be kind too!

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Gloschick · 26/07/2025 20:40

Congratulations! I wouldn't be making any changes until you've had a scan showing a heart beat. BA are usually pretty good re changing flights. Working on the assumption that you have friends in NZ, I would bring your trip forwards to second trimester, and have a lovely "babymoon" spending some quality time with your friends, maybe helping with the wedding prep and exploring the country.

Jaws2025 · 26/07/2025 20:28

Nearly50omg · 26/07/2025 20:14

To be frank at the moment you basically have a late period at this stage I’d wait and check that you actually stay pregnant as a lot of pregnancies don’t stick and until you know for definite - past 20 weeks or so - then you might cancel your flights and lose a load of money for nothing

She has a confirmed pregnancy, not a late period.

allthesmallthingsarehere · 26/07/2025 20:18

tigerlilt · 26/07/2025 18:52

personal question but have you had successful pregnancies? completely understand if you don’t want to answer but i have really wanted to speak to someone with the condition for a while, i’ve been in a state of panic and this has made me more worried tbh! i knew the risk was higher but didn’t realise it was that bad!

One successful but very prem, two miscarriages, currently 30 weeks. It is possible but your risk is very high to be even considering going anywhere abroad in a pregnancy full stop.

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