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Furious at DH and his friend bringing someone back to our house

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TiredSaturdayy · 26/07/2025 07:54

My DH’s friend is staying for the weekend. He lives about 4 hours away and they only see each other once a year. This is perfectly fine with me as I usually get on well with him.

Last night, they both went out into town to catch up. DH got into bed about 1am, I sleep lightly so was woken but soon got to sleep. His friend is staying in our spare bedroom.

I am woken by noises shortly after. I wake DH and ask if he can hear them. He says there’s something he needs to tell me and that his friend met a women in the last bar they were in and INVITED HER HOME! So the noises were infact them ‘at it’ in my spare bedroom.

I go ballistic at DH and ask why he thought this was acceptable. Our DC is away this weekend which is beyond the point. Completely irresponsible to allow a stranger into our house in those circumstances.

I tell DH that if he doesn’t ask her to leave then I will. He says he’ll message his friend. No reply. He’s about to get up and knock on the door when we hear it open and his friend sees her out and she eventually leaves.

DH is asleep still now, I am downstairs absolutely aghast at their behaviour. If he thinks I am sorting out the fry up they kept on about before they went out then they’ve another thing coming.

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Jaws2025 · 26/07/2025 10:33

NeelyOHara · 26/07/2025 10:32

Oh my god, the ‘thing’ and ‘think’ argument is boring and ruining the thread. Maybe just agree to disagree? It’s every other post ffs.

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NeelyOHara · 26/07/2025 10:32

Oh my god, the ‘thing’ and ‘think’ argument is boring and ruining the thread. Maybe just agree to disagree? It’s every other post ffs.

soupyspoon · 26/07/2025 10:31

How are so many people so unaware of basic sayings.

Im going ballistic about that!!!

Waitingfordoggo · 26/07/2025 10:31

YANBU. I wouldn’t go ballistic but I would be seriously pissed off and unimpressed. I would go out for my own breakfast and expect them to sort the dirty sheets out.

And it is definitely THINK not THING.

Jaws2025 · 26/07/2025 10:31

No, it's literally the only way the phrase makes sense!

MumWifeOther · 26/07/2025 10:29

Jaws2025 · 26/07/2025 10:28

nonsense! It is think.
I'd be more annoyed with my dh if he described a woman as "mad for it" than I would be at a single bloke wanting to bring the woman back to his mate's house.

Never in my life have I heard “think” coming? Is it a regional variation?

Jaws2025 · 26/07/2025 10:28

MumWifeOther · 26/07/2025 10:26

It’s definitely thing.

nonsense! It is think.
I'd be more annoyed with my dh if he described a woman as "mad for it" than I would be at a single bloke wanting to bring the woman back to his mate's house.

MumWifeOther · 26/07/2025 10:26

CaptainMyCaptain · 26/07/2025 09:59

That makes no sense.

If you THINK [xxxx] then you've got another THINK coming. That makes sense.

If you THINK [xxxx] then you've got another THING coming. That makes no sense. What kind of Thing is coming?

It’s definitely thing.

LBFseBrom · 26/07/2025 10:26

TiredSaturdayy · 26/07/2025 08:13

Early 40’s so old enough to know better. DH described the woman as recently divorced and mad for it!

In which case it was down to her to provide the accommodation, not to go back to her pick-up's friend's home. That is quite disrespectful.

I hope you tell the friend he was out of order, I am surprised your husband went along with it.

Crikeyisthatthetime · 26/07/2025 10:25

Sorry OP for the derail.
If I had been woken up by the sound of someone having sex in the room next door, I'd be bloody fuming.

Elsvieta · 26/07/2025 10:24

XiCi · 26/07/2025 09:27

🤣🤣 the phrase is 'another thing coming'

It really isn't. That wouldn't even make sense, if you thing about it. (See what I mean?)

BlueandPinkSwan · 26/07/2025 10:24

TiredSaturdayy · 26/07/2025 08:13

Early 40’s so old enough to know better. DH described the woman as recently divorced and mad for it!

Your dh has turned my stomach for saying that. Bleugh,

effie19 · 26/07/2025 10:23

Hmm the woman went home with 2 men, safe in the knowledge from her football mum friend that the man she wasn't intending to have sex with was a family man with a wife at home. Rather than go with just one stranger to a hotel. Sounds like she chose the safest option and you could consider that OP facilitated a night of pleasure for her that could never have happened otherwise 😃 and to those saying why not her house - her kids might have been at home with a babysitter. Maybe you did someone a massive favour, inadvertently.

PuppyMonkey · 26/07/2025 10:22

TheBewleySisters · 26/07/2025 10:18

@PuppyMonkeyat the risk of derailing the thread, you are quite wrong, it is “think”.

Grin

Oh dear. If you think I’m wrong, you’ve got another think coming, my friend.

Have another little think about it and you’ll realise thing makes no sense and misses the amusing play on words of this idiom completely.

Sorry for derailing the thread OP.

maudelovesharold · 26/07/2025 10:19

The phrase is ‘If you think X, then you’ve got another think coming’. ‘
It’s the same as saying ‘If you think X, then think again’.
‘Thing’ is the mis-hearing.

Crikeyisthatthetime · 26/07/2025 10:19

Pennyforyourthoughtsplease · 26/07/2025 09:38

It's really not. So whatever you looked up is wrong. I only learned this recently btw

https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/usage-another-think-coming-or-another-thing-coming#:~:text=It%20probably%20originated%20in%20speech,suspiciously%20like%20%22thing%20coming.%22
Webster's dictionary
It's the exact opposite of what that poster thinks. Originated as think. Travelled to USA where it it got misheard as thing. That's the eggcorn. So it's used differently on each side of the Atlantic.
Being on the originating side , Think is what I've always heard said.

Having a Think About 'Another Think/Thing Coming'

'Thing' wins the popularity contest.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/usage-another-think-coming-or-another-thing-coming#:~:text=It%20probably%20originated%20in%20speech,suspiciously%20like%20%22thing%20coming.%22

TheBewleySisters · 26/07/2025 10:18

@PuppyMonkeyat the risk of derailing the thread, you are quite wrong, it is “think”.

Elsvieta · 26/07/2025 10:18

RiverGod · 26/07/2025 07:56

My partner’s lodger got asked to leave for doing exactly this. My 8 year old was in the room next door.

Completely unacceptable.

So the lodger wasn't allowed a personal life? I mean, it's different when the person lives there, surely?

ThatsCute · 26/07/2025 10:13

grumpygrape · 26/07/2025 10:11

Agree with all points.
How am I supposed to get the housework done with this thread needing checking ?

I’m supposed to be doing Joe Wicks right now! 😂 (Well…not “doing him” in the same way OP’s guest did…doing his fitness video.)

grumpygrape · 26/07/2025 10:11

ThatsCute · 26/07/2025 10:01

  1. I love how this has turned into a grammar thread.
  2. As a guest, it is wholly inappropriate to invite others into the home.
  3. They should have gone to her house/a hotel to shag.
  4. He’d better be putting those sheets into the wash and not leaving you to do it, OP!

Agree with all points.
How am I supposed to get the housework done with this thread needing checking ?

carmak · 26/07/2025 10:09

I can hear my mother's voice shouting at my brother,

'If you think you can treat this house like a knocking shop, you've got another think coming', after him bringing a young lady back.

Happy days. Grin

soupyspoon · 26/07/2025 10:08

XiCi · 26/07/2025 09:49

AI told me the exact opposite 🤣🤣. I think we can safely say both terms are in regular use!

AI !!!

As if people get accurate information from AI and if they think that, theyve got another think coming!

Ruby0707 · 26/07/2025 10:07

I would be annoyed by this.

Just the fact of bringing a stranger into your house when you are kindly letting him stay. Unacceptable.

RightOnTheEdge · 26/07/2025 10:04

I'd hate this too OP!
It's so disrespectful and gross.
Make sure the friend or your husband is the one changing and washing the sheets!

soupyspoon · 26/07/2025 10:04

XiCi · 26/07/2025 09:27

🤣🤣 the phrase is 'another thing coming'

No it really isnt.