We are supposed to be departing today for a campervan holiday. I really lost it at OH yesterday as things were not getting ready as I was trying to wrap up work (WFH yesterday was supposed to help). I'm not just talking about clothes and washbag, I mean the makeshift kitchen is still not attached, let alone loaded with things like plates, condiments, glasses. The only reason the van is half way clean is because I forced my 2 teen DD to help me clear it out last weekend.
When I am being rational and mindful, I know the stress I feel at preparing the holiday is my own doing, and I can breath out and choose to have a peaceful departure. But I am not always able to be that kind of person.
The thing is, I work 100% and am the only income to the household. OH is a martial arts teacher but mainly volunteering, it reimburses expenses and covers him doing more trainings, but doesn't bring money to pay the mortgage. He is busy 4 evenings a week, as well as ~20 weekends a year and I feel left alone to do things. Since the kids broke up from school, he has been "busy" preparing a marketing campaign for the club with hours on the computer every day. Even my DDs have complained he's there but not there, and they are teens who want nothing from Dad apart from taxi service.
AIBU to expect him to prepare the campervan ahead of departure, so that it is ready for just final bags to be added the morning of departure?