Sad about wedding

I’m glad to read this! Buy a wonderful dress, maybe rings? It is a celebration of your family and the future. Have a wonderful day!

Your 6 year old absolutely needs to see this as a celebration. As far as she’s concerned you’re her mum. You don’t want to make her think it’s not a happy event. You’re making her memories.

You can still get a nice dress and have a lovely day.

my wedding was very simple. My dress was under £100, my wedding ring was paid for with Tesco vouchers, my DH’s was under a fiver from Argos (he was never going to wear it again as he doesn’t wear jewellery). We had a simple cake from a local bakery. We had a buffet reception at a local pub but could easily have just had some food at home. Then we came back to our house and had a few drinks in the garden. We just had parents and siblings. It was a lovely day and I wouldn’t have done it any differently.

Some beautiful blue and white sun dresses on John Lewis website for under £80. Very pretty and wedding appropriate

excited for you!!

Good op!! If you want us to post dress ideas do say!!

you will need lovely shoes too.

buy yourself a pretty bunch of flowers for the day too x

You've had some lovely replies here OP. I'm glad you're going to make an occasion of it as you should.

Can I just add - when people die young, they're instantly revered/given Saintly status and all their character flaws/bad behaviours are forgotten and brushed under the rug. Yes it's terribly sad his first wife died, but they may not have made the long haul and stayed together. Their future was cut short but that doesn't mean that you are a second in any way shape or form. You are his future, and you should stand tall and proud. You aren't a consolation prize for him and his daughter. A lot of women would run a mile from that situation, not walk headlong into it.

You sound so lovely! You go and treat yourself to a nice dress and perhaps think about booking a table or something.
The most important thing is that you’re marrying the right person, which it sounds like you are.
Many congratulations! I hope your marriage is happy and healthy x

Agh it won't let me edit my post. Ive asked for it to be deleted as I didn't mean any offence. My sentiment was just that they all deserve joy in their lives after what they've been through and so she should try and make it a special day.

Apologies yes I shouldn't have written that of course she wasn't an ex. I wasn't thinking. I'll edit my post if I can

I had a small registry office (my choice but COVID times also meant that was necessary). I have never been into traditional weddings but wore a lovely dress which was about £60 I think and some shoes I already had. We had a nice meal after at home (we had a chef make it) and arranged a florist to make some bunches of flowers.

I'd do something small to make it a little bit special - get yourself a nice outfit, something you feel good in, and some lovely flowers (even if just for the house and not to carry at the ceremony). And book a nice meal somewhere afterwards with parents. All of this could be arranged within the next week or so.

We didn't bother with rings except for an existing one I had from my grandmother that I decided to have as my wedding ring. I liked it and it worked with my engagement ring.

To be honest the whole thing was cheaply done and arranged in about 2 weeks from start to finish. We actually booked what became our honeymoon beforehand. Don't forget that if budget permits! Even just 2-3 days away somewhere in the UK would be nice.

@vickylou78 I don't want to derail, but please don't call his first wife is ex, it makes it sound like they are divorced.
He'll have gone through a horrendous time dealing with a newborn and no wife. And the grandparents etc would have been really needed.

@Anonymous2029 are your stepdaughters grandparents coming to the wedding?
They are probably delighted their SIL is moving on, but maybe a wee bit worried they'll be cut out.
Invite them and show they are still part of DDs life.

So pleased and excited for you OP!

Just wanted to echo PPs saying that a registry office wedding is not just blah. I dressed like a fairy princess for mine (£27 dress on eBay!) and it was very romantic. Ten years on, we are even happier than the day we took our vows. (It was my second marriage, his first, but it felt like the first "real" marriage to me.)

I do hope you will come back and update us 💗

Glad you have changed your mind

I'm glad you fessed up to that and I not the only soppy sod that had tears in my eyes.

Op please have a great day.

Oh my goodness. You have made me cry this morning. You sound so lovely. I hope you enjoy your day picking out a dress.

Please do go for a lovely shop. Nice hair and make-up. You will feel so much better about the whole thing. Your girls will love to look at the pictures one day, too.

Ask him to wear a nice suit.

Pick a lovely song, or a piece of classical music.

Get a florist to do a small bunch of flowers and a button hole for your husband. It does elevate things hugely. Your step daughter would LOVE the bouquet, too! It will make her feel really special.

None of it needs to be expensive!

I work in this industry - everything from big, fancy weddings in castles with 400 guests to the simplest of ceremonies in a register office with just two witnesses - and honestly my favourite weddings are the small ones.

It isn't about the frippery. It's about the commitment in the hearts of the two people who love one another and you can often feel that much more at a small wedding.

My advice would be to look into each other's eyes when you say your vows, hold hands and really mean every word. Also bring tissues just in case!

Have a really wonderful day.

Op it absolutely should be a special occasion. Celebrate your love!

Happy shopping! You sound fab xx

Yippee! Have a fab day!

Morning ..
Oh that’s very exciting 🤗..
Hope you find something lovely …
Let us know how you get on .
Have a lovely day ☺️

We are all behind you and hope you have a lovely day to remember. Now get shopping! ❤️

I’m so glad you are feeling positive @Anonymous2029
I hope you get a gorgeous dress and have a wonderful wedding day.
You deserve it 💐