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Child coming over the fence to play at 7.35 am

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Wantmorenachosbutcant · 25/07/2025 18:41

This morning as I was just coming into the kitchen to make coffee and breakfast for Dd, I opened the kitchen door to the garden and Dd was already out there (have told her not to go in the garden unless one of us is up and there in the morning) with her friend climbing over our fence to play (low fence, then climbs onto our garden bench-not dangerous)
Behind our house is her friends grandparents house, the mum had dropped her off at her mums, so she could presumably go early to work and her mum then takes her to a kids club later on, on her way to work (they leave around 9am)
and this friend had come to play
Aibu to think this is far too early?!
I like to sit quietly in the garden with my coffee in summer and just wake up..basically! They were on the trampoline, then I was having to tell her not to climb on the top step of the slide and jump off etc.
They weren’t particularly noisy, but I was aware that some people would still be in bed and so on
As I was washing up, I heard her shouting to her grandma about something and her shouting back that she could just stay for a bit until they had to go to the kids club place.
All the toys were everywhere and by 9 I felt really stressed, plus we were going out and I was trying to get Dd to get ready. I said to her afterwards it’s fine at weekends or a day after kids club/school, but not this early in the mornings again.

Aibu and a grumpy sod spoiling the fun or would this be as annoying to you as it was to me?

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legoplaybook · 25/07/2025 18:56

I'm always baffled by these threads where people can't bring themselves to talk to/say no to children. How does it happen???

In my house it would be a simple "DD, get back inside you're not allowed in the garden til 9" (and also a real bollocking about going outside when no one is up!)
"Neighbour kid, don't climb over the fence again. And don't call for DD before 10".

The end. Set some boundaries!

AuntyDepressant · 25/07/2025 18:53

Wantmorenachosbutcant · 25/07/2025 18:52

Oh god 🙈

I mean obviously don't really do that.

MrsLeonFarrell · 25/07/2025 18:52

Maybe contact the parent and say that whilst it's lovely that they can play together someone needs to contact you in advance to check before sending the child over.

Either that or send your daughter over at 6.30 am tomorrow. With a drum.

Wantmorenachosbutcant · 25/07/2025 18:52

AuntyDepressant · 25/07/2025 18:51

Attach this to the fence. It should do the trick.

Oh god 🙈

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AuntyDepressant · 25/07/2025 18:51

Attach this to the fence. It should do the trick.

Child coming over the fence to play at 7.35 am
Wantmorenachosbutcant · 25/07/2025 18:51

Francestein · 25/07/2025 18:47

i’d be popping in and making it very clear that it was NEVER to happen again. If you don’t it’s going to be your new normal

Yes, I’ve told Dd as have a feeling she encouraged it, which she would if her friend was asking to come and play. If it happens again i’ll have to tell the gran/mum, which i’m not massively keen on doing

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Wantmorenachosbutcant · 25/07/2025 18:49

NevergonnagiveHughup · 25/07/2025 18:46

If I were any of your other neighbours I’d be going spare at the noise at that hour.

They weren’t making noise really tbf, but mostly because I was shushing them, just really don’t want to start my day doing that!

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Wantmorenachosbutcant · 25/07/2025 18:47

pizzaHeart · 25/07/2025 18:45

I would be very annoyed and worried that it would become a habit so I would bring her back home straight away saying that her grandma was probably looking for her.
And I would enthusiastically invite her for later time 🙂

Yes, this is what I don’t want, I mean it’s summer holidays and sometimes i’m not even waking up until then (Dd watches tv downstairs normally)
I just find it odd of the mum/grandma to allow it at that time? I’d find it really strange thinking Dd could go to play there at 7.30

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Francestein · 25/07/2025 18:47

i’d be popping in and making it very clear that it was NEVER to happen again. If you don’t it’s going to be your new normal

NevergonnagiveHughup · 25/07/2025 18:46

If I were any of your other neighbours I’d be going spare at the noise at that hour.

pizzaHeart · 25/07/2025 18:45

I would be very annoyed and worried that it would become a habit so I would bring her back home straight away saying that her grandma was probably looking for her.
And I would enthusiastically invite her for later time 🙂

Wantmorenachosbutcant · 25/07/2025 18:44

DarkForces · 25/07/2025 18:43

You need to add spikes on the top!

😂😂

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DarkForces · 25/07/2025 18:43

You need to add spikes on the top!

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