Child coming over the fence to play at 7.35 am

We used to have a child turn up at our front door at the crack of dawn every morning. She also struggled when we had other children round. It stated ruining my daughter life. I felt like free childcare. It became clear the girl is not neurotypical and needed more support than I could give her. When I tried to raise my concerns with the parents as gently as I could they went ballistic, so I had to say she can no longer visit at all. Very sad really.

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For some reason last night message posted again when I was just trying to read the thread!

7.35 is to early to be trampolining let alone having a friend in the garden. You need 6 foot fences. :)

Its no different then when kids are out playing and knock on friends doors. We need to encourage children being outside playing with friends.

So you would assume that it was ok for your child to go over your fence to play without checking with the neighbours???? Great parenting 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

I don’t understand why you just let them play

Your DD should have been brought in and told off for going out without permission and the other little girl should have been sent straight back home.

You let your child play on a trampoline at 7.30... your poor neighbours!

Im sure the gm knows shes next door with her friend and if the fences are low will be able to see her. We have low fences and I can see my neighbours garden from my living room no issue

I was that kid when I was little!! I’d say sorry it’s too early come back at X time. Or not today we are going out.

I would have concerns that the GM was so nonchalant about the childs whereabouts and safety for a start - not saying the OP was a threat but surely adults should be having conversations with other adults and not taking a child’s word for it being ok to go over the fence to play. If this random child is climbing a fence to play, where else is she wandering of to early in the morning when GM is supposed to be caring for her?

Absolutely the first bit, but bear in mind if it does keep happening that you will need to go to the Gran’s house and say said child is not to do that again.

If it happens that early again take her back. Tell the grandparents sorry it’s too early, you were all asleep and she woke you.

At 7 years old id be fine with it id be happy someone was keeping her amused so that I didn't have to i dont think 7.30 is that early most people are up at that time getting ready for work. I honestly dont see the problem

I opened the kitchen door to the garden and Dd was already out there (have told her not to go in the garden unless one of us is out there)

Tell DD to stick to the rules.

When neighbours grandchild knocks on your (locked) door tell her DD isn't allowed to play before school

I’m with you: I think it’s sweet those two can’t wait to play together. And if they weren’t noisy, what’s the harm? It reminds me of my childhood when we used to climb fences or knock on a friend’s door to see if they were in. Parents and grandparents would often put baguette, butter and chocolate on the table (France) for us to help ourselves. Nothing was planned - we just went with the flow and rolled with it. I’m a bit sad DD didn’t grow up that way.

Explain to your daughter that it's not to happen again and if she takes it upon herself to go into the garden when she's told not to, consequences! She's 7, she's old enough to understand. If you don't put a stop to it, she could be emboldened and next thing you know, she's off somewhere she shouldn't be.

It is too early for two children to be trampolining and playing out, some people don't sleep well or work shifts. Gran next door is bang out of order, maybe the child's Mother should be made aware of what's going on.

@Wantmorenachosbutcant this is a Recipe for disaster that needs nipping in the bud without discussion.

We had intrusive kids next door. It was always dismissed with “kids will be kids” etc… Fucking drove me insane. I have enough kids of my own thanks. Not raising yours. Final straw was waking up to find one of them helping herself to our fridge. She had jumped her back fence, walked into our back door which I had left open while I was in the loo and gone right into our fridge looking for ice lollies. I returned her to her mother (still in bed) who pulled out her quote “kids are kids” and I said, no…. That’s HER kids. Nobody else’s kids run feral like hers do. That’s THEFT and NEGLECT. She needed to start parenting her own kids and teach them some fucking manners before I called the police. (It really was the straw that broke the camel’s back after a looooooot of boundary-stomping)

@Wantmorenachosbutcant I’m sorry but wtf is your SEVEN year old doing going outside unsupervised before you are up?

GET A SAFETY LOCK.

anything could happen ffs.

That is far more ridiculous than a kid coming to play (who you should’ve said ‘no goodbye’ to).

The safety of this baffles me.

Locking your back door until 8:30 is a good plan.
Explaining to Granny that you need to be contacted (after 8:30 am) is reasonable.

Your own daughter needs some boundaries about eating breakfast and dressing for the day ahead before playing too.

I think its great that kids can play together without everything being arranged by a parent, however, 7.35 is a bit too early for trampolining. Just tell the neighbour child to come back later and lock your back door so your child cant get out before you get up.

Meh, I still think it's better solved with a "Come back later" rather than reading two kids harmlessly playing the riot act.

I do find it weird that we've reached a stage where we're getting furious about kids climbing walls to play together. We moan when they're stuck to their screens, now we're mad that they're making friends over the fence and playing.

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I think a good drop kick back over the fence would suffice!

A taller fence is in order

Or, if the child is particularly athletic, perhaps an edible hedge. Preferably with dog rose in.