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AIBU about childminder

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mammajulie · 25/07/2025 16:33

AIBU about childminder?

last week for a message saying a few children in the setting had Hand Foot and Mouth and said if children were displaying symptoms then to keep them off until spots had scabbed over and they were feeling well enough to join in normal activities. Anyway a few days later she sent me some pictures of my son with a few spots, anyway I picked him up and he had a few. Has been absolutely fine in himself all week but has had 3 days off. Due back Monday all things well. Is this standard? I’m sure nhs says you don’t have to stay away from childcare etc.

Also I’ve since seen via social media she took 3 children to the zoo yesterday, saying they were unexpected quiet and took some children for a treat. Is this not a slap in the face for me when I’ve had to take 3 days off work and he’s not even ill?

it’s not exactly treating all children equally is it?

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ConfusedSloth · 25/07/2025 16:37

YANBU

If your child was well enough then she cannot refuse to provide childcare on the basis that she thinks he has an illness. That's not her decision to make and, even if in the contract, isn't enforceable. If your child is too unwell then that's different but she cannot just decide she's not taking children.

And, yes, very inconsiderate to post about the zoo. The skeptical side of me would question if she had the zoo planned all along but was limited on numbers (car space? voucher code? limit on adult to child ratios?).

I would be very, very unimpressed. I absolutely would not be paying her and would consider removing my child over this kind of behaviour. Has she been this way before?