Men have differing standards of hygiene

Nor would an unwashed bum. It’s just gross.

I have put YA I as I am female and would happily go a few weeks in same sheets. I hoover maybe weekly, sometimes less. I do tidy kitchen every evening and hob top is always cleaned but DH shoots and cooks so that is only fair. I agree men notice and care less generally about housework but I am probably more' male' in my approach.

No, my husband is really clean both personal hygiene and around the house. He takes charge of all the domestics, which is fine by me

Wow I break the mold then! I don't shower everyday as I've got dry skin. But thoroughly wash every day. I am the one who cleans loos, keeps track of floor washing, sheet changing, mattress flipping as I'm retired.

My first job was as a bank cashier back in the 80s, small airless cubicle with bullet proof glass. One of the ladies in her 50s came to work every day after mucking out her horses, changed into clothes she kept in a cupboard for weeks and worked next to me....so it's not just men

These threads always amaze me. I shower twice a day and it bothers me my DH only wants to shower once a day. Sometimes I just tell him ….you need to shower. I change the sheets weekly and my son showers twice a day sometimes 3 if he is working out. We all have what I call “professionally physical jobs. Not slinging bags of cement but not just sitting at a desk either. Honestly I can smell people who think they are clean and don’t smell. They do they are just used to it. And absolutely teeth brushing several times a day

On a side note - I would never date let alone marry a man with poor personal hygiene.

My DS are better than that at 18 and 21 shower daily was bedding and keep clean, that’s just shitty parenting.

I'm pretty clean and I don't date dirty, slovenly men who can't or won't take care of their environment. The men in my family were clean, wore clean clothes, and kept things tidy around the house. They cooked too. People would make remarks if someone went around unwashed or in dirty clothes and a dirty house drew bugs.

Are you me? 🤣 My DH does way more cleaning than me and he has a bath everyday. I'll shower every other day, mostly 🤭

#Notallmen.

Most men I know shower daily.

I’ve had two husbands, both deceased now, and a partner now.

All of them bathed/showered at least once a day, if not more.

Some people (both sexes) have low hygiene standards, some don’t.

I don't think a lot of men would bother at all if a) their partner didn't demand it or b) they had a date coming round so they had to make an effort

You do get men who are clean freaks but most really don't care.

Ooof! , I couldn't be with someone who doesn't take care of themselves.My husband is ex military and good personal hygiene and keeping your living space clean and organized has been drummed into him.

I change sheets weekly and often pillowcases twice a week but I am a dribbler!

Remember when they used to put bowls of crisps or peanuts on the bar in pubs. It was generally stopped because they were covered in man piss. Men don't wash their hands after the loo very often and, in my experience, have lesser standards of hygiene.

I know lots of hygienic men. Some of what you describe is gross, but your standards for changing sheets ATLEAST weekly are higher than mine. Fortnightly is fine for me.

@ellie09 Well yes all men have differing standards of hygiene and so do all women.

So im struggling to see any point to your post, I know a lot of girl friends I have had that are far worse and messy than many of the guys I have dated and my DH is always the one to do the washing and cleaning.

It’s a “get what you settle for” thing.

No man who didn’t wash everyday or wear clean clothes would get the opportunity for a 3rd date let alone live with me.

All the men in my life regardless of generation have the same standards of hygiene as the women.

Do you not respect yourself enough to NOT put up living with and presumably be intimate with a man that has poor hygiene and questionable clothing standards and laundry habits?

Stop settling for creatures like this please, it does no one any good and promotes rewarding substandard males.

The alternative view of course would be that men aren't generating unnecessary amounts of work for themselves/ the household. Bedding really doesn't need washing weekly, a person who is doesn't smell on their current schedule clearly doesn't need to shower daily.

As a bloke I totally agree.
I do draw the line at wearing food-stained clothing tho'
(or any other stains, come to that)

I do not smell - usually. But I tend not to take a shower more than every other day, it feels unnecessary. I will have one if I am going somewhere in particular (I wfh).
Bedsheets - 2 weeks.
Laundry. I do when it needs doing, but if something isn't dirty I of course wear it again.
General cleaning. I wipe down and that's about it. We do have a cleaner.

I think being overly 'clean' is a complete waste of time. Good enough is good enough.

Every single man I have ever dated or been in a relationship with has been like this (or worse!). Even my brother,who is so fastidious in himself (showering daily, washing hands before eating etc) goes weeks without cleaning the toilet or doing a bit of vacuuming.

My DH has better personal hygiene than me - he will shower at least once a day, he sometimes has to remind me I should hose myself down
Neither of us is changing bedsheets weekly.

Yuck. No my DH is not like that. He showers everyday, sometimes twice and his house was clean and tidy when we met. He continues to keep our house clean and tidy now.