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Get frigging childcare

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JuniperJuly · 25/07/2025 12:30

Yes another one of these posts.

Emergencies dont count obviously but otherwise, no you cant do your job and look after your young child at the same time.

This morning I had a 2hr teams meeting with an external person trying to organise an event for September. It was almost impossible. Every 2 minutes it was no darling, dont stick the pencil up your bum (true story. I dont care if she is on here), or telling me to hang on a second while she dealt with her child or her child shouting down the headset and being told he is sooooo cute.

I said that its awful when you get let down by childcare and she said that she was always planning on working with him at home. But she obviously isnt working! If shes like that on a teams call what is she like normally?

Last week I was on a group call and could hear someone's baby crying. Maybe she has a nanny or something, whatever, but then it became very obvious that the person wasnt actually on the call but had dialled in and buggered off, presumably to look after the crying child.

Ive now got to send an email to the person from this morning to discuss all the things we couldnt do this morning. Im not even going to bother putting in another meeting with her.

I've half a mind to send an email along the lines of
lovely to meet your child this morning. You had your hands full with him so we couldnt discuss everything so here is what I need. Its probably easier to do via email to limit distractions"
and cc her manager in.

Would that make me a bitch? Im so annoyed at the delay and the extra work it will give me.

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JuniperJuly · 25/07/2025 12:43

Tagyoureit · 25/07/2025 12:36

BCC her manager in then she wont know you've done it. I would have cut the meeting short as it sounded a complete waste of time

I dont do BCC unless its a mail shot.
I think its sneaky. If you are going to copy people in, own it.

Someone on my team was caught out by it. They'd emailed me and had BCC'd our manager in. No idea why they'd included him in the first place and definately no idea why BCC him. My manager mentioned the email to me because he hadn't realised he was BCC'd. It all got very awkward.

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Tagyoureit · 25/07/2025 12:36

BCC her manager in then she wont know you've done it. I would have cut the meeting short as it sounded a complete waste of time

ninjahamster · 25/07/2025 12:35

It would have been a sackable offence in my last job.

Miley23 · 25/07/2025 12:32

I once had an interview by teams where a kid kept sticking his head in front of the screen. Really off putting in an interview. It was during covid but the child was old enough to know not to do that !

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