My child is 7 and staying with dad for first time ever. Has been a rocky road. Courts have ordered it.
Child is going for 5 days. Part of me thinks he should be buying clothes, toothbrush, hairbrush etc. He also has another child so should have some basic things already.
Honestly feel like sending with just their fav cuddly toy and in clothes I don't care if I don't get back, and let dad do the rest. He is spiteful so I'm fairly certain I wouldn't get most of it back, and he certainly wouldn't wash any of it.
On the other hand, I don't want to piss him off, which sadly asking him to be a decent parent does.
I think my parents set high standards. When I went to my dad's my mum would pack clothes (I was older, 11/12 so wanted specific things) and my dad would wash, iron and fold it to send it back. My parents are still very amicable, maybe they set my standards too high!
Wwyd?