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To think you don't just walk in

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Eerrnohun · 25/07/2025 09:19

Yesterday afternoon, sitting on the floor playing with my son. I hear the a knock at the front door and before I had time to get on to my feet, my aunt is bursting through the front door.
Didn't know she was planning on coming over so was very taken back at her just bounding in.

Even if I had known she was going to come over, I'd still expect her to wait until I'd answered the door. I don't enter her house, or anyone else's house without being invited in. We're not super close - see each other once every couple of months or so, so it's not like she's round all the time and just felt so welcome to let herself in.

AIBU to think it's rude as hell to just walk in?

And before anyone says it, yes I'm aware locking the door would stop people walking in but DH was in and out throughout the day.

OP posts:
TheChosenTwo · 25/07/2025 09:38

FightingTemeraire · 25/07/2025 09:20

For some people, this would be entirely normal. If you don’t like it, it’s up to you to say so.

Yeah this really. We used to have a door that people could walk in and out of - didn’t bother us and it was easy enough to lock if we didn’t want to be interrupted.

RockStrangeNight · 25/07/2025 09:38

In my 1920s house the living room has a door knocker - because front doors were either open or unlocked!

RockStrangeNight · 25/07/2025 09:36

One does not simply walk into Mordor.
Sorry, couldn’t resist 🤣

Well depends on the relationship - clearly her boundaries are different to yours.
Might be worth the extra hassle of locking the door to avoid a repeat?

Lambswools · 25/07/2025 09:33

When I was a child, at my GP's house, in the Midlands, this was completely normal.

Everyone, from family, to neighbours, to the "home help" to the postman, would knock loudly on the back door (always the back door) then shout "YooHoo" loudly as they walked in.

I've never known if it was just that house/street/area, or something else, but I've never experienced it anywhere else, albeit that for me, that would mostly be SE Engalnd.

Youdontseehow · 25/07/2025 09:21

I wouldn’t say rude - more a generational thing. Chapping the door then shouting “hello” whilst walking in was the way I was brought up.

FightingTemeraire · 25/07/2025 09:20

For some people, this would be entirely normal. If you don’t like it, it’s up to you to say so.