To think you don't just walk in

Entirely normal in our family to knock then walk in. Especially with young kids in the house, it saves mum/dad getting up and coming to the door

Not wot I like but hubby’s ex in laws use to do this to us all the time, we got a locked gated as started using the front door so they couldn’t they soon got bored and left us alone, hubby didn’t want to upset them by telling them.

With small children the door would be locked. Adults, door may be unlocked. We are a knock and wait family.
One of DS' issues with his ex, were her family walking in. His ex gave her immediate family keys too and they would let themselves in day or night!

My husbands cousin just opened the door and walked in, we didn't know she had our address and I’d only met her once. She was most annoyed that our dog bit her 🤷‍♀️

Normal for our family, I lock the door when I'm home alone or I don't want to be interrupted but we are a close family, in and out of each others houses and we all have keys for pet letting out/emergencies too. I can't be bothered to keep answering the door to family and close friends.

Just tell your aunt you aren't comfortable with it and lock the door.

The door was unlocked, she knocked first, she's your Aunt. Unclench. YABVU

Exactly, surely most people do these days, especially with young kids.

Well my front door is always locked, especially with a 3 year old?

Keep your doors locked?

Generally speaking, I just walk in. My job involves letting myself into other people's houses and I guess I just got used to it.

If I don't know the person very well then I'll knock and wait but I do get antsy because really, what is the point? They know I'm coming so why are we performing a mini welcome ceremony?

I wish more people would let themselves into my house too. I have a small child. I cannot always drop everything and run to open the door. Just open the door, call hello, and walk in. If you catch me in a state that you disapprove of then maybe you should have let me know you were coming?

Really rude thing to do.
You should have said something.
Its a really uncouth presumptuous thing to do.

This is completely normal for my side of the family, husbands parents would do this but not his extended family.
I couldn’t face the awkward conversation so would just make a point of locking door

It depends on who it is. I definitely have friends who walk into my house without knocking. I regularly wake up to one or other of my sons friends sleeping in the spare room and none of us, including my son, know they're there until the get up 😄 I never lock my front door so we may even be out and come home to someone being there. It's really not a big deal. Those who do this know they're welcome, those who don't, know not to.

Pretty normal in my family to just walk in, they're family so always welcome

What's done is done, whether or not uabu is irrelevant now isn't it? There's more to worry about in life than this I'm sure.

Lock your door then 🤦🏼‍♀️
my best friend usually has her door unlocked when sat on the sofa at home with her dog and partner, we have confirmed that if the door is unlocked I can walk in. If you don’t want people walking in then lock your door. I live in a much better area than I used to but still consistently lock my door unless I yell to my partner I’m not locking it as I leave. Besides, isn’t it a safety issue with young children? I don’t know how old your little one is but I would lock the door.

I remember my aunt being burgaled on the seventies. She was watching telly in the front room, thought her husband was making a lot of noise. Burglars had taken out the kitchen window and climbed in. Both front and back door were unlocked

Omg lock your front door!! Literally anyone can walk in!!

Completely normal in my family and close friends. I’m one of 8 and growing up our front door was always opening and closing with people coming in and out, siblings, friends, aunties and uncles, elderly neighbours. I don’t use my front door much but if it’s open and someone comes round they’ll always come straight in, or I’ll shout come round the back. From my experience over the years it’s more a working class thing - my ‘posher’ friends would be much less likely to do it.

Grew up in this kind of situation and absolutely hated it. Once met a male neighbour wandering in the hallway and I was in my pyjamas, only just up. Luckily where i live now everyone locks their doors and texts before they visit.

We had this.

Too many times we were having private conversations and someone would cheerfully come bounding in and frighten the life out of us and we’d have to switch to visitor mode in a split second.

We had to just spell it out, we don’t like it, we’re not doing that anymore.

Depending on how close we were. I have aunties I see not so often and think I would be bothered if they 1 turned up unannounced and 2 just waltzed in!

My mum and dad are probably the only ones that do this. Even then my dad still hesitates.

My husband's family do this it was how they were brought up and personally I am not for it at my home. I prefer to know in advance if someone plans to drop round and for them to knock and wait, my door is always locked anyway.

My MIL gets annoyed if you knock and wait and just wants you time come in so when I am with my husband we just come in, but if I am on my own I usually knock. I will come in to my parents house if we visit but we live at a distance and they always expect us and often are waving at us as we walk up the path from the kitchen.

I think just make it clear it isn't what you want and that you like a bit of notice so you can get the kettle on for them.

She did nothing wrong, it was likely how it was when she grew up. Some things aren’t worth turning into an issue. You weren’t sitting in your lounge naked I presume 🤣 otherwise lock the door

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