To be annoyed that my gym only has open mixed sex showers

No they didn't its only become a thing in the last decade or so.

Have they just changed the set up?

Can you not shower with your costume on and just reach under it to get soap on your torso? You’ve just been in a public space in your costume around dozens of other people of both sexes in their costumes, standing under the shower next to them whilst you rinse off and wash your hair can’t be so different. Pool showers have pretty much always been communal and mixed at many pools.

Pool near where we used to live had open showers but also male and female showers separately.

Clearly I’ve been going to different pools to everyone else. I’ve used the pools in a number of different towns and counties and none have had mixed sex changing or showers.

Yep. My council gym has a swimming pool and it’s mixed showers that are open to the side of the pool. Everyone just washes with swimwear still on, some people wash hair. I’ve never thought anything of it tbh!

Go in to the ladies and take a shower there

Do they have separate changing rooms for the gym? My council pool has mixed in the pool area but through in the gym it’s separate changing rooms with individual shower cubicles in each. Just a thought as if you didn’t use the gym and only the pool in my one you’d have no idea the big changing rooms existed

It’s absolutely standard. To be honest ( I am sixty ), I don’t remember it ever being different other than ladies only pools/sessions. There are sometimes single stalls in the health suite area.

I swim regularly, and manage a fairly good shower with my costume on, it should be possible.

All of the council run pools around me have communal showers. No-one is ever naked so it's just a rinse off with swimsuits on. People do wash their hair though.

If I let it bother me I'd never be able to swim

Is it your first time in a council leisure centre? This is what baffles me about the uproar over unisex toilets when council gyms/pools have always had mixed changing rooms and nobody bats an eyelid.

You can wash your hair, presumably? What do you need to wash that can’t be washed? Isn’t a rinse enough to go to work?

Strangely id be more worried about being unable to shower thoroughly before getting in the pool, than washing after.

I think this is pretty standard at public pools. YABU to be ‘fuming’.