To be annoyed that my gym only has open mixed sex showers

YANBU

ysa it's standard but women shouldn't have to be showering in front of men.

men are the biggest danger to women and a basic shower in front of men is just a minimal right.

buts it's universally normal and I don't think it would change.

I’m 60 and have never encountered mixed showers where there’s a pool. If I did, I wouldn’t bother returning there. Sod that.

She wants to do "her bits" as well though
Which to wash would involve taking swimming costume off.
I've never known communal naked showers at swimming pools

I can honestly say I've never in all my years seen anyone do their "bits and pits" in a public swimming pool shower!
Surely you just have a wash in the showers with your swimming costume on and then you can have a more thorough one when you get home if you like?!

Maybe try looking up how many sex offences are carried out when mixed sex facilities are the only availability. Here’s a small sample…
https://www.edinburghnews.scotsman.com/news/crime/pervert-used-his-mobile-phone-to-photograph-girls-changing-at-edinburgh-pool-3104606
https://www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/men-filmed-people-swimming-pools-changing-rooms-bathrooms-police-b1154508.html
https://www.yahoo.com/news/gang-hid-pool-changing-rooms-160356310.html

Aren't you clean and showered (at home) before you even go to the pool? How dirty can you get having entered the water clean.

Obviously that poster wants to remove her swimming costume for a proper wash. Is that the norm where you swim?

You realise you’re in the swimming pool wearing a swimming costume in front of all the same people?!🤷‍♀️🤣🤣 no one gives a shit if you wash your armpits and hair in front of them in the shower! You are overthinking just how much people actually looking at you and care?

separate women’s changing room with showers.

The pool I go to now is like that, single sex changing rooms... I kind of don't like the nuddy women wandering around. I'm too used to mixed sex changing rooms & you only get nuddy if A) you're under 5yo or B) in your cubicle OR in the single cubicle showers (which every council pool I've been to also has).

The now-pool is competition standard and although they have family sessions, it is fairly bad set up for families so not many families go. It's Difficult When .... say a dad wants to take his 7yo daughter swimming. This was exactly our problem when DC were little. I recently tracked down "Mum!" when a lad about 8yo was standing outside the changing room shouting for her attention. Not ideal.

Just stick on a tobe or towel and flip flops and go to the ladies.

That is because you shower in your swimsuit.

The local pools in the places I have lived always had mixed showers and single sex toilets.

ETA: as well as single sex cubicles and single sex changing rooms.

The pool I use has a mixed sex changing area but it is open to the pool. Two lifeguards are sat right next to the changing area so I never feel it's a problem. There are open showers and some cubicles so you get a choice. It seems to work.

Was the same at the pool where I learned to swim over 60 years ago.

Just rinse off with you swimsuit on thats what i do.
Its been the same at my local leisure centre for years even before i moved here.
It the same at alot of places.
Its not unusual.

Rinsing off the chlorine and a quick hair wash for those that need to, is a reasonable level of amenity at a council-run pool where prices are kept more in check compared to private health clubs and pools. If you want to take a proper shower, join a private health club and pay for the privilege.

If water’s running through the cloth as you shower, then it’s washing/diluting the chorine. You change in the changing rooms as usual. It’s just that the shower bit can’t be naked.

I suggested OP try it on a non work day so she could assess her sensitivity to the chlorine, and whether it’s adequate for her to be comfortable. Everyone is different.

On holiday people hang out and dry out by the pool without showering thoroughly between swims.

Or local council pool changed to this a few years ago when they had a revamp. I went once and hated it. I want an actual proper shower. I’m not rubbing my “bits” with soap under my cozzie next to a man doing the same! Gross!
I just rejoined the private place I used to be a member of. I know a lot of people who also disliked the new set up and stopped going.

Our gym is mixed changing rooms and separate showers.

It could be worse, there's a PT dude meeting a client to swim and then giving her a happy ending in the family cubicles at our local leisure centre. Someone heard them a couple of months ago and then my pal did the other week and suggested they get a room...

I wouldn’t like this either.

Our local council gym has open showers by the side of the pool (which I use for a quick rinse before I swim) and a number of lockable unisex shower cubicles (which I use for a proper shower and hair wash afterwards). The main changing area is a “changing village” with lots of lockable cubicles of varying sizes and there are also two separate single-sex group changing areas.

For anyone who isn’t happy with the changing village, there are two single sex changing rooms upstairs with a few lockable shower cubicles and two lockable changing cubicles. They tend to be used by people using the gym though, rather than those using the pool.

The showers at my local council pool are like that. Open mixed-sex showers at the side of the pool, in full view of the pool and all the swimmers. Although plenty of people do take the time to wash their hair and pits with shampoo and shower gel in the swimming pool showers.

The gym changing rooms do have separate single sex shower facilities, but they’re in a separate part of the building and quite a walk from the swimming pool. I’ve only seen someone in a swimming costume near the gym changing rooms once, and that was a lady who was at the leisure centre for the first time and had got a bit lost.

No they weren’t…

No, not getting weird. It’s just that people are know realising that what’s normal for them turns out not to be normal for other people.

I’ve often swum at lunchtime and returned to the office, in different council gyms in different London boroughs, across the last 30 years.

I’ve always been able to have a proper shower in a single sex shower cubicle. That some people have never had this (and have thus become accustomed to it) is astonishing to me.

But also, given all the debate over the last 10 years around sex and gender and single sex spaces, it surely can’t come as a surprise to people that plenty of facilities have single sec changing rooms and showers?

Shower when you normally do? After going for a swim? That will be immediately after I get out of the pool then. In the single sex showers.

How do you do this? Do you wrangle your swimming costume off under a towel or do you go to work still in the costume? In either case you'll still have residual chlorine unless you've taken your cossie off before you shower.

No of course not

Men must continue to have access to women and girls and we mustn't say anything about it!!

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