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Porn age checks - Surely a good thing?

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Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 07:36

Just read a ‘debate’ on the BBC News website about the pros and cons of age verification of porn websites. Weirdly I was verified for the first time myself last night (I am a porn user but not all the time) so was interested to read it.

j get that it was a debate but I honestly don’t see how anyone could object. Last night I wasn’t expecting to be verified but the process was simple, took about a minute and I don’t think I’d have easily been able to circumvent it. Obviously there are security concerns but no more so than with any other website.

I think these checks are great! My eldest DC is 13 so probably getting to (or at) the age when porn might become interesting to her, and this would make it much more difficult to access which would doubtless be a good thing, no?

Does anyone disagree?! I’d be interested to hear arguments against because I can’t really think of any and that makes me suspicious I’m being narrow minded.

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jasflowers · 25/07/2025 11:03

It wouldn't but the ISP will know you re using a VPN, without AV, same with torrent sites... not what you re visiting or downloading.

I accept that a determined user, like yourself, will do all they can to view porn but blocking at the ISP, is a far better way than simple AV, got round using free VPNs that take a couple of clicks to download.

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 10:57

TinselAngel · 25/07/2025 10:34

Most women are not occasional porn users and even if they were it doesn’t mean you have to do it. Watching other women being exploited should not be a turn on which you are reinforcing by sex or masturbation.

Try ignoring the urges and doing something harmless or better still useful, instead. Then you'll be in a position to teach your children not to use it.

Easier said than done, sadly. But I don’t think my porn use impacts my kids (unless it’s a genetic predisposition! I know my mum did…).

I don’t think it’s my job as a parent to teach my kids not to use it. It’s my job to teach them that it’s usually not a genuine depiction of sex, that it’s an exploitative industry, and that it can be damaging in lots of ways. But it can also be good in some ways. Once armed with these facts it’s up to them whether they use it or not.

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BusWankers · 25/07/2025 10:48

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 10:24

Why isn't it? its costly to monitor but thats just an excuse by ISPs/Ofcom who want to maximise profits.

Blocking at the ISP level is done by many countries who want to ban certain sites.

Shared computers? really? i'd want to know if my partner was accessing porn.

Spoofing a mac address only goes so far, if the ISP has blocked the porn in the first place, what exactly would it gain the user?

China try to block / censor the internet... doesn't work.

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 10:48

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 09:26

As i said earlier, down loading of a VPN would be by default blocked by the ISP, subject to AV, which can be tighter, as these are UK regulated companies.

How will you stop me downloading a VPN install file that I've torrented or similar?

It's really not hard to deal these things

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 25/07/2025 10:43

It's also farming out parenting

So now parents can go "Oh good Little Timmy and Tina won't be viewing porn because the new law stops them. I don't need to monitor them any more"

Whilst Little Timmy and Tina are using a VPN and accessing even more hard core content

And I say Timmy AND Tina because girls can and do view this stuff too

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 25/07/2025 10:41

Hardlyworking · 25/07/2025 10:38

Lol, OK. Scuttle back to your sad little hole. Most women are actually porn users, and it's perfectly natural for women to masturbate too. I feel sorry for you.

Yes how dare a woman masturbate rather than "do something useful"

🤣

skymagentatwo · 25/07/2025 10:39

Hardlyworking · 25/07/2025 10:38

Lol, OK. Scuttle back to your sad little hole. Most women are actually porn users, and it's perfectly natural for women to masturbate too. I feel sorry for you.

Agree 👆

Hardlyworking · 25/07/2025 10:39

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 10:38

Aren’t you forced to enter personal details every time you buy anything online?

A purchase isn't the same as browsing information, and you know that.

Hardlyworking · 25/07/2025 10:38

TinselAngel · 25/07/2025 10:34

Most women are not occasional porn users and even if they were it doesn’t mean you have to do it. Watching other women being exploited should not be a turn on which you are reinforcing by sex or masturbation.

Try ignoring the urges and doing something harmless or better still useful, instead. Then you'll be in a position to teach your children not to use it.

Lol, OK. Scuttle back to your sad little hole. Most women are actually porn users, and it's perfectly natural for women to masturbate too. I feel sorry for you.

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 10:38

Hardlyworking · 25/07/2025 10:36

No, it's definitely not big process. Anybody can download a free vpn in less than a minute to bypass. Quicker than entering your card details, no?

I will never be forced to enter personal details to access any part of the Internet. This is the tip of the iceberg, no?

Aren’t you forced to enter personal details every time you buy anything online?

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Hardlyworking · 25/07/2025 10:36

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 07:57

I agree with that. It’s not perfect, and obviously there are ways round it. But it’s definitely big progress no?

Totally agree with the general normalisation of porn-adjacent stuff though. Things like Mail Online and social media have tons of stuff about porn even if it’s not actual porn. That clearly will spark interest and thus should stop. People don’t need encouragement to view porn when the natural desire exists already and is bad enough.

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No, it's definitely not big process. Anybody can download a free vpn in less than a minute to bypass. Quicker than entering your card details, no?

I will never be forced to enter personal details to access any part of the Internet. This is the tip of the iceberg, no?

Switcher · 25/07/2025 10:36

Yeah I guess it's a good thing in the sense that I quite like watching porn sometimes, but it makes me feel a bit grubby. And I'm way too paranoid about sites getting hacked to input my details, so I just won't watch it.

ARichtGoodDram · 25/07/2025 10:34

I think it's likely to bring complacency to a lot of parents who won't realise how easily circumvented it is.

Tech savvy kids will use VPN's and non tech savvy kids will be shown how to use VPN's by their mates.

The tech is also not fool proof at all. DH was asked by one site (not a porn site - a forum that has a coupe of support sections) to do the photo age thing. DS asked if he could do it as he'd heard, from his mates, that loads of them weren't accurate. He's a young looking 14 (he's not one of the 6ft plus strapping teens that look mid twenties that lots of MN'ers have) and it passed him in seconds...

TinselAngel · 25/07/2025 10:34

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 10:26

True. And in the cold light of day I dislike the fact that I use it too. But one of the malevolent facets of porn is that it takes advantage of natural urges which make it hard to resist. I am as guilty as many others are for my failure to resist those urges sometimes.
I use it less than I did. And I don’t view extreme content. But yes, I accept, like most women I am an occasional porn user and without porn users there’d be no porn industry. So I am in part to blame. That’s why I have no issue verifying that I’m over 18 and think it’s a good thing to have to do so.

Most women are not occasional porn users and even if they were it doesn’t mean you have to do it. Watching other women being exploited should not be a turn on which you are reinforcing by sex or masturbation.

Try ignoring the urges and doing something harmless or better still useful, instead. Then you'll be in a position to teach your children not to use it.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 25/07/2025 10:32

Sadcafe · 25/07/2025 10:24

Surely the whole age verification thing needs to be about anything that has harmful content, not just porn( I think that is the aim) Tik Tok, Facebook etc all have content that isn’t really appropriate for under 16s, but the issue always seems to be porn

It's not just porn...

clearveil · 25/07/2025 10:30

@Vimtolady Exactly the scale and scope of availability is way beyond anything adult who were kids 25 or 30 years ago could have imagined. Its negligent and so unfair to let young kids contend with all of that, this is a step in the right direction.

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 10:26

TinselAngel · 25/07/2025 10:21

You could set an example and reduce demand, by not viewing it yourself, OP.

True. And in the cold light of day I dislike the fact that I use it too. But one of the malevolent facets of porn is that it takes advantage of natural urges which make it hard to resist. I am as guilty as many others are for my failure to resist those urges sometimes.
I use it less than I did. And I don’t view extreme content. But yes, I accept, like most women I am an occasional porn user and without porn users there’d be no porn industry. So I am in part to blame. That’s why I have no issue verifying that I’m over 18 and think it’s a good thing to have to do so.

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jasflowers · 25/07/2025 10:26

How on earth do you view porn accidently? unless its sent in a message etc, which this law will not prevent as the rules don't apply to meta tiktok etc.

Sadcafe · 25/07/2025 10:24

Surely the whole age verification thing needs to be about anything that has harmful content, not just porn( I think that is the aim) Tik Tok, Facebook etc all have content that isn’t really appropriate for under 16s, but the issue always seems to be porn

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 10:24

Dbank · 25/07/2025 09:58

Getting a bit away from the legislation, but blocking at the ISP level isn't really a workable solution, easy to spoof a MAC address, and unworkable on a shared computer, which many people do.

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Why isn't it? its costly to monitor but thats just an excuse by ISPs/Ofcom who want to maximise profits.

Blocking at the ISP level is done by many countries who want to ban certain sites.

Shared computers? really? i'd want to know if my partner was accessing porn.

Spoofing a mac address only goes so far, if the ISP has blocked the porn in the first place, what exactly would it gain the user?

TinselAngel · 25/07/2025 10:21

You could set an example and reduce demand, by not viewing it yourself, OP.

Deadringer · 25/07/2025 10:20

It's a step in the right direction. At the very least it makes it less likely that a child will access porn unwittingly, and it sends out the message that it is for adults only. Many teenagers use fake id to buy alcohol and to get into clubs and pubs, but that doesn't mean that we should scrap the age limit for purchasing alcohol.

GasPanic · 25/07/2025 10:20

The laws are poorly thought out and will be ineffectual.

They will encourage greater use of VPNs which will actually make the job of policing the net a lot harder.

They also risk user data leaks. If the government can't even keep a list of secret agents safe, what kind of idiot would believe that a porn company can keep it's user data safe ?

What the government should be doing is working on better tools to allow parents to control the use of devices for children rather than trying to discriminate against adults.

ScholesPanda · 25/07/2025 10:07

I haven't voted. I think the law has a noble aim- no-one normal wants kids to have access to pornography.

But, even with my limited IT knowledge I think it will be easily bypassed and ignored, particularly by the group it's supposed to protect. Meanwhile it could produce all kinds of unintended consequences.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 25/07/2025 10:06

Rreel · 25/07/2025 09:41

I hate that it’s being called the porn law/ porn age checks, as it actually goes far beyond that, it’s wide ranging, fairly wooly and can pretty much apply to any website on the internet. The online safety act is a terribly written law which will probably do very little to help

They're calling thr Porn Law to gain support and hide the rest of what they have define

Until people find that even accessing MN or FB or Amazon requires ID checks and the realise how poorly done the law is and how far reaching the "adult content" description is