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Porn age checks - Surely a good thing?

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Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 07:36

Just read a ‘debate’ on the BBC News website about the pros and cons of age verification of porn websites. Weirdly I was verified for the first time myself last night (I am a porn user but not all the time) so was interested to read it.

j get that it was a debate but I honestly don’t see how anyone could object. Last night I wasn’t expecting to be verified but the process was simple, took about a minute and I don’t think I’d have easily been able to circumvent it. Obviously there are security concerns but no more so than with any other website.

I think these checks are great! My eldest DC is 13 so probably getting to (or at) the age when porn might become interesting to her, and this would make it much more difficult to access which would doubtless be a good thing, no?

Does anyone disagree?! I’d be interested to hear arguments against because I can’t really think of any and that makes me suspicious I’m being narrow minded.

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ntmdino · 02/08/2025 14:42

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 02/08/2025 14:23

The government are refusing to debate the topic even though there are enough signatures on the HoP petition site that they should be debating it. They've just gone "nope. Won't do that."

A video for the new Corbyn party has apparently been blocked

But sure, it's nothing to worry about. There's no censorship here.

You would think that Corbyn would take the position that the Online Safety Act is not fit for purpose, and pledge to replace it with something designed in consultation with the online industries it has affected (including the police and CPS, because they're going to find their jobs much more difficult after this).

Then those of us on the left/centre of the political divide would be jumping on board in droves.

Of course, what Corbyn's actually going to do is sit on the fence and stay silent, just like he did on Brexit.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 02/08/2025 14:23

The government are refusing to debate the topic even though there are enough signatures on the HoP petition site that they should be debating it. They've just gone "nope. Won't do that."

A video for the new Corbyn party has apparently been blocked

But sure, it's nothing to worry about. There's no censorship here.

ntmdino · 02/08/2025 10:24

Vimtolady · 02/08/2025 08:55

People’s conflicting attitudes always amuse me.

I reckon that the Venn diagram between people who want to kill paediatricians because they get confused between them and ‘prefixes’, and the people who are against this bill because they think it’s a giant government conspiracy to enslave them, is almost a circle.

Same with people who are free speech absolutists and think that the way to ensure that is to support authoritarian nationalist politicians.

See, that's where you have a problem - there are a lot of people like me who are naturally centrist/left voters, but who have been sucked into the web of this absolute mess of a bill both professionally and personally and can see all the problems with it.

You're still sitting there believing it's about protecting kids from porn, but if you actually took the time to read the 1000+ pages of Ofcom guidance like I've had to (and it is required to read it all for anybody running a site that's considered in-scope, which is most non-static sites, whether it's a small hobbyist site or a big social media monster), then you'd realise that only a tiny portion is about protecting kids from porn. Age checks are just the most visible part of it - it's the bit of the iceberg sticking up above the water.

If it was just age checks for porn, then almost nobody would have a problem with it. In fact, the way it's all designed, it will make it infinitely more difficult to a) investigate and b) prosecute the people it's designed to stop in the first place (as well as anyone else who commits any crimes online). This is because it fundamentally breaks the chain of custody for evidence by forcing service operators to be the first line of law enforcement online, when they are neither qualified to do so nor bound by any professional standards. Defence lawyers are going to have an absolute blast with it.

All of which you'd know (and more) if you paid attention to anything beyond "age checks for porn".

It's foolish to draw conclusions (and, frankly, be quite insulting about people) when you're basing it all on less than 1% of the available information.

The most annoying part is that Reform are the only one of the political parties actually taking a stand against it. That's why it's turning into an issue characterised as far-right wonks being wonks - because none of the other parties actually understand the fuckery that's going on here, least of all the one in power (because they didn't write it), or the one that created it (because most of the people responsible for it are no longer in Parliament). I will not vote Reform under any circumstances, but if almost any other party came out in opposition to this Act and proposed a sensible replacement, I would absolutely vote for them.

And I absolutely hate the idiots who voted for this rubbish, because they're turning me into a single-issue voter for the first time in my life.

Vimtolady · 02/08/2025 08:55

People’s conflicting attitudes always amuse me.

I reckon that the Venn diagram between people who want to kill paediatricians because they get confused between them and ‘prefixes’, and the people who are against this bill because they think it’s a giant government conspiracy to enslave them, is almost a circle.

Same with people who are free speech absolutists and think that the way to ensure that is to support authoritarian nationalist politicians.

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FrippEnos · 01/08/2025 21:53

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 08:42

I don’t buy these arguments at all:

  • It’s imperfect therefore it’s bad
  • It’s the thin end of a government censorship wedge
  • It’s unreasonably risky to verify your age.

But I get what people are saying about things that aren’t actually porn or harmful being caught up in this. I remember a while back putting an adult content block on my own phone (to try to stop my porn usage) and it blocked all kinds of things that were nothing to do with anything NSFW at all. In the end I removed it for that exact reason.

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How about because its not imperfect it doesn't work?

Card number
Your DS could take your card number and put the card back

Facial recognition
Any photo of you in the house will do, plus there have been reports in MSM about teenagers getting round it with pictures from google.

Its risky to verify your age.
Quite simply it is risky to put your details into an unknown website. and this goes for pictures of your face, DoB and IP addresses.
The government can't keep data safe MN has been hacked at least twice and several water companies have had data protection issues in the last month.

This can be used for censorship of political views.
And there is also talk about banning VPNs.

Surely if parents don't want their children to watch porn then the adult blocker that cause you some difficulty is surely worth the price to protect children.

And remember that this is the second attempt to do this as some years ago the government put restrictions on UK internet companies.

SerendipityJane · 01/08/2025 21:41

ntmdino · 01/08/2025 20:35

For those thinking that "blocking at ISP level" is the silver bullet...you need a reality check. Most ISP-level blocking is just done by blocking the DNS queries. In other words, if you don't use your ISP's DNS servers, then you're free and clear.

That's even easier to get around than installing a VPN. Takes about 30 seconds.

This is not about porn, either; it's about any content (legal or not) that Ofcom (not Parliament) deems "harmful", based on their interpretation of every law on the books in the UK.

An unelected agency with little oversight, given carte-blanche to decide what you are and are not allowed to see, who can change the rules at any point and who have stated that their goal is to "regulate the Internet". This should terrify everybody, but for some reason people are still saying "Yay! Our kids are safe!".

I run my own DNS server just to stop ads and tracking.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 01/08/2025 21:30

ntmdino · 01/08/2025 21:23

Really?

The rules have already been changed on the fly by Ofcom. As soon as people started signing up for VPNs, they announce that it's suddenly illegal to discuss or instruct people on how to install a VPN, while on an in-scope site.

There you go - a perfectly legal activity, using perfectly legal technology, described by perfectly legal speech, but suddenly illegal to host because somebody spotted a hole in their plan and they've decided that shouldn't be allowed. And all done without Parliamentary input.

So, do tell me: in a developed democracy, does that sound right?

For example, I'm a network tech (among other things). Reddit is in-scope, and has plenty of technical subreddits. If I have a problem with the VPN at work, it's in Reddit's interest to prevent me from seeking solutions on their site otherwise they could be found in breach and could end up with an £18m fine depending on which way the discussion goes.

Same goes for Stack Overflow (lots of kids on there, learning tech), Discord, etc etc.

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An update which will definitely harm small content creators who are sponsored at times by Nord VPN for example

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 01/08/2025 21:25

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 21:18

“Terrify everyone”. That’s a bit much. The internet (for most people) didn’t even exist 30 years ago so I think I’ll live with it being regulated by OFCOM (which is accountable to Parliament and whose Directors are appointed by the government).

People are acting as if we’re going to become North Korea. We’re really not. A bit more regulation to protect people from harmful content is a good thing. The restrictions to ‘free speech’ are actually restrictions on people ability to disseminate content, not to produce it. And regardless, any harms caused by regulation are vastly outweighed by the benefits of regulation.

Keep living with your head in the sand

See how it feels when you find sites getting blocked for you because you're views don't align with the party line

As I said before, rules like this already discriminate against certain content like LGBTQ+ under the guise of "following the rules"

ntmdino · 01/08/2025 21:23

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 21:18

“Terrify everyone”. That’s a bit much. The internet (for most people) didn’t even exist 30 years ago so I think I’ll live with it being regulated by OFCOM (which is accountable to Parliament and whose Directors are appointed by the government).

People are acting as if we’re going to become North Korea. We’re really not. A bit more regulation to protect people from harmful content is a good thing. The restrictions to ‘free speech’ are actually restrictions on people ability to disseminate content, not to produce it. And regardless, any harms caused by regulation are vastly outweighed by the benefits of regulation.

Really?

The rules have already been changed on the fly by Ofcom. As soon as people started signing up for VPNs, they announce that it's suddenly illegal to discuss or instruct people on how to install a VPN, while on an in-scope site.

There you go - a perfectly legal activity, using perfectly legal technology, described by perfectly legal speech, but suddenly illegal to host because somebody spotted a hole in their plan and they've decided that shouldn't be allowed. And all done without Parliamentary input.

So, do tell me: in a developed democracy, does that sound right?

For example, I'm a network tech (among other things). Reddit is in-scope, and has plenty of technical subreddits. If I have a problem with the VPN at work, it's in Reddit's interest to prevent me from seeking solutions on their site otherwise they could be found in breach and could end up with an £18m fine depending on which way the discussion goes.

Same goes for Stack Overflow (lots of kids on there, learning tech), Discord, etc etc.

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 21:18

ntmdino · 01/08/2025 20:35

For those thinking that "blocking at ISP level" is the silver bullet...you need a reality check. Most ISP-level blocking is just done by blocking the DNS queries. In other words, if you don't use your ISP's DNS servers, then you're free and clear.

That's even easier to get around than installing a VPN. Takes about 30 seconds.

This is not about porn, either; it's about any content (legal or not) that Ofcom (not Parliament) deems "harmful", based on their interpretation of every law on the books in the UK.

An unelected agency with little oversight, given carte-blanche to decide what you are and are not allowed to see, who can change the rules at any point and who have stated that their goal is to "regulate the Internet". This should terrify everybody, but for some reason people are still saying "Yay! Our kids are safe!".

“Terrify everyone”. That’s a bit much. The internet (for most people) didn’t even exist 30 years ago so I think I’ll live with it being regulated by OFCOM (which is accountable to Parliament and whose Directors are appointed by the government).

People are acting as if we’re going to become North Korea. We’re really not. A bit more regulation to protect people from harmful content is a good thing. The restrictions to ‘free speech’ are actually restrictions on people ability to disseminate content, not to produce it. And regardless, any harms caused by regulation are vastly outweighed by the benefits of regulation.

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UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 01/08/2025 21:02

dynamiccactus · 01/08/2025 17:20

Interestingly the government has felt the need to publish this today:https://www.gov.uk/government/news/keeping-children-safe-online-changes-to-the-online-safety-act-explained

It's interesting the bit about "promoting VPNs"

That's going to cause problems for various YTers/Streamers who are often sponsored by Nord VPN for example

ntmdino · 01/08/2025 20:35

For those thinking that "blocking at ISP level" is the silver bullet...you need a reality check. Most ISP-level blocking is just done by blocking the DNS queries. In other words, if you don't use your ISP's DNS servers, then you're free and clear.

That's even easier to get around than installing a VPN. Takes about 30 seconds.

This is not about porn, either; it's about any content (legal or not) that Ofcom (not Parliament) deems "harmful", based on their interpretation of every law on the books in the UK.

An unelected agency with little oversight, given carte-blanche to decide what you are and are not allowed to see, who can change the rules at any point and who have stated that their goal is to "regulate the Internet". This should terrify everybody, but for some reason people are still saying "Yay! Our kids are safe!".

pencilcaseandcabbage · 01/08/2025 18:08

I've been asked twice for ages verification, neither time was it even porn or even 18+ related - they were both perfectly safe for work fan art. This was Bluesky and Discord. A pp said she was asked for age veriy for pelvic floor exercises. So it's definitely catching things it shouldn't.

My main issues are that anyone who gives their ID is just asking for this to be compromised. Government used to warn us about keeping our data safe online. Now they want to get us used to handing this over to any company who asks, for av purposes. It's normalising something that we should be questioning. And there are bound to be people who set up websites purely in order to harvest valid ID documents.

I've also read things from smaller companies who say that they simply aren't in a position to implement what the UK government is asking. That the legislation assumes everyone has the resources of big tech. Their solution was simply to block UK users.

And as many of you have said, it's so easy to circumvent with a VPN. That's what I did so as not to hand Discord and Bluesky my ID. And I'll keep doing that for as long as I am able.

I totally understand not wanting children to access porn, but think that this law is simply a bad way of attempting it.

ntmdino · 01/08/2025 17:55

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 17:00

The online safety act is specifically about that.

No, it isn't. Less than 10% of the Act itself is to do with protecting children, and even less of Ofcom's guidelines are about protecting children.

Of course, 100% of the politicians' soundbites are about protecting children...because (almost) none of them actually understand the law they voted for.

Apart from anything, consider this: the Act cedes all authority for deciding what is and isn't "harmful content" to Ofcom, and Ofcom can change the definitions whenever it likes without any recourse to Parliament. This includes absolutely legal content, even protected content like freedom of expression - and when it does so, that content will be legal to read and write, but not legal to host.

If you think this was ever about protecting children, you're dreaming. That's just the way it was sold to parents who don't want to learn about the world that's left them behind.

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 17:51

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ.

Obviously nobody would love their internet usage to be revealed. But the point is that it’s about the balance of harms. Any data leak (if there is one) won’t say ‘Vimtolady used Pornhub on the 31st July for 8 minutes at 22.45 and this is what she searched for…’ It’ll say ‘These 17 million people used Pornhub’, and if someone picks me out of that line up then whilst I’d be embarrassed I could point to the other 16.999 million people. I don’t mind that level of embarrassment if it helps keep kids safe.

Your sex shop example is interesting. I think it kind of proves my point. Sex shops genuinely are embarrassing because they are used by far fewer people. I never went into one, because my urges were nothing compared to the embarrassment of going into one. The internet now means that there’s no need, so porn use has massively increased (and almost all the sex shops have shut). As a result there is much less stigma around porn. It’s become normalised including, sadly, for kids.

As a free speech champion, by the way, I presume that you strongly object to sex shops having to black out their windows. No?

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UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 01/08/2025 17:49

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 17:30

Well this one for starters. I often get adverts for vibrators on here. If they age-restricted access I’d be fine with it. I also often see adult-oriented adverts on Mail Online, and there is completely unregulated access to violent and misogynistic music on streaming sites.

Of course it’s a parent’s responsibility to do all they can. But this will add to that. You seem to think it will replace that, but as the parent of a teenager I haven’t felt that this replaces my responsibility at all. It just helps with it. There is no way that any parent can reasonably control who their child comes into contact with all the time. They’re in school for most of their waking hours for a start. We can do what we can do. I don’t begrudge putting my details into a porn site every few days if it helps restrictions kids’ access. Do you?

Vibrators aren't blocked under the legislation though as far as I know (I didn't have an issue accessing Anne Summers earlier for example)

Neither is violence. Violence is apparent ok

Because the law is BS and not really intended to protect children but control adults.

And you're a fool if you think this won't be slowly used for censorship

It's well know that "anti porn" rules on places target LGBTQ+ content more harshly than actual porn, blocking SFW content as "inappropriate" because it's also labelled as LGBTQ+ for example

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 17:45

skymagentatwo · 01/08/2025 17:39

MN states Mumsnet is intended for use by individuals aged 18 and over only in its T&C. So may be your parenting skills are not the best, if your allowing your kids to view it.

Also If you are getting adverts for vibrators on MN, obviously again you need to read MN T&C and see how they use digital footprinting. If you don't understand what that is and how it works then again its up to you as an adult to brush up on your technical knowledge, that's all on you.

PS digital footprinting follows you through all your browsers, web searchers and web usage with your digital ID, so again that's all on you.

If you don't understand all that then you should not be allowing your children to use electronic devices as you are not capable of monitoring them.

I understand all of that. I also understand that my kids have access to the internet all the time on devices that aren’t mine and that I have zero control over. As do everyone else’s kids including any you may have.

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UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 01/08/2025 17:42

Drawings and art aren't supposed to be Age check hidden

I got asked to prove age to view a slightly NSFW artwork

skymagentatwo · 01/08/2025 17:39

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 17:30

Well this one for starters. I often get adverts for vibrators on here. If they age-restricted access I’d be fine with it. I also often see adult-oriented adverts on Mail Online, and there is completely unregulated access to violent and misogynistic music on streaming sites.

Of course it’s a parent’s responsibility to do all they can. But this will add to that. You seem to think it will replace that, but as the parent of a teenager I haven’t felt that this replaces my responsibility at all. It just helps with it. There is no way that any parent can reasonably control who their child comes into contact with all the time. They’re in school for most of their waking hours for a start. We can do what we can do. I don’t begrudge putting my details into a porn site every few days if it helps restrictions kids’ access. Do you?

MN states Mumsnet is intended for use by individuals aged 18 and over only in its T&C. So may be your parenting skills are not the best, if your allowing your kids to view it.

Also If you are getting adverts for vibrators on MN, obviously again you need to read MN T&C and see how they use digital footprinting. If you don't understand what that is and how it works then again its up to you as an adult to brush up on your technical knowledge, that's all on you.

PS digital footprinting follows you through all your browsers, web searchers and web usage with your digital ID, so again that's all on you.

If you don't understand all that then you should not be allowing your children to use electronic devices as you are not capable of monitoring them.

JustPinkFinch · 01/08/2025 17:38

*Snooper's Charter

(Shopper's Charter sounds a lot less ominous)

Gobacktotheworld · 01/08/2025 17:34

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JustPinkFinch · 01/08/2025 17:31

I'm not keen on giving up my privacy because parents plonk their kids in front of devices, and then can't be arsed to keep an eye on them.

I have 2 connections at home, 1 from Virgin Media with parental controls on. My kids use that one. And 1 from Zen with no parental controls. That's for the adults.

All adult used devices have a VPN installed since 25th. So while I was always open with my internet use to my ISP (and therefore to the gov under the Shopper's Charter), i've now removed their ability to see any of it.

Not important really, I am a law abiding citizen. But assuming many others do the same, the intelligence services are definitely going to be lacking in intelligence.

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 17:30

skymagentatwo · 01/08/2025 17:25

What innocent websites have inappropriate adverts and pop ups all over them and how would this legislation prevent this.

Now your just going into the realms of hyperbole. Ill reiterate its a parents responsibility to ensure they do all they can preventing their kids from accessing inappropriate content that includes vetting who they play out with and learning some tech skills as a grown adult.

As I said bloody lazy parenting.

Well this one for starters. I often get adverts for vibrators on here. If they age-restricted access I’d be fine with it. I also often see adult-oriented adverts on Mail Online, and there is completely unregulated access to violent and misogynistic music on streaming sites.

Of course it’s a parent’s responsibility to do all they can. But this will add to that. You seem to think it will replace that, but as the parent of a teenager I haven’t felt that this replaces my responsibility at all. It just helps with it. There is no way that any parent can reasonably control who their child comes into contact with all the time. They’re in school for most of their waking hours for a start. We can do what we can do. I don’t begrudge putting my details into a porn site every few days if it helps restrictions kids’ access. Do you?

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skymagentatwo · 01/08/2025 17:25

Vimtolady · 01/08/2025 17:20

Not sure it’s possible to argue about whether previous generations would have been harder on an invention that hadn’t at the time been invented.

But if you’re concerned about parental responsibility I’d suggest that saying that ‘Kids are only exposed if you allow them to’ is a very dangerous thing to think in a world where all their mates have phones and where even innocent websites have inappropriate adverts and pop ups all over them.

What innocent websites have inappropriate adverts and pop ups all over them and how would this legislation prevent this.

Now your just going into the realms of hyperbole. Ill reiterate its a parents responsibility to ensure they do all they can preventing their kids from accessing inappropriate content that includes vetting who they play out with and learning some tech skills as a grown adult.

As I said bloody lazy parenting.