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Porn age checks - Surely a good thing?

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Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 07:36

Just read a ‘debate’ on the BBC News website about the pros and cons of age verification of porn websites. Weirdly I was verified for the first time myself last night (I am a porn user but not all the time) so was interested to read it.

j get that it was a debate but I honestly don’t see how anyone could object. Last night I wasn’t expecting to be verified but the process was simple, took about a minute and I don’t think I’d have easily been able to circumvent it. Obviously there are security concerns but no more so than with any other website.

I think these checks are great! My eldest DC is 13 so probably getting to (or at) the age when porn might become interesting to her, and this would make it much more difficult to access which would doubtless be a good thing, no?

Does anyone disagree?! I’d be interested to hear arguments against because I can’t really think of any and that makes me suspicious I’m being narrow minded.

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BusWankers · 25/07/2025 09:17

Theunamedcat · 25/07/2025 09:16

You should never have to give card details to verify your age

What else do you suggest?

Theunamedcat · 25/07/2025 09:16

You should never have to give card details to verify your age

newhouseplans · 25/07/2025 09:16

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 09:12

Yes so block porn at the ISP level... nothing else is going to stop kids seeing this vile content.

Sorry, who should do that, the parents or the government?

If the government, I'm with you.

If the parents, no. Many parents wouldn't have a clue how to do that. Their DC needs protecting too.

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 09:15

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 09:10

As its incredibly easy to by-pass and enforcement of fines is impossible, then how exactly is it in anyway, making children "safe"

Because your 7 year old can't easily see hardcore pornography.

Your 12 year-old will not be able to easily view it without deception.

A worrying percentage of small children have unsupervised internet access and can easily see adult content. Primary school children have a d do watch porn and get very twisted ideas about what sex looks like. Demanding nudes from little girls. Thinking gang banging is perfectly normal, or slapping or forcing them etc.

Don't believe me? Ask ANY safeguarding officer in ANY school, including primary schools. They will attest to what kids are seeing.

At least these age verification steps make it harder for them to view this content.

It's not perfect,but it's a step forward.

newhouseplans · 25/07/2025 09:14

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 09:10

As its incredibly easy to by-pass and enforcement of fines is impossible, then how exactly is it in anyway, making children "safe"

There will be a gap between 10 years olds who know how to search and click on a phone, and 10 year olds who know how to set up.a VPN or even what one is.

What's your alternative? Do nothing amd continue as we are?

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 09:12

newhouseplans · 25/07/2025 09:10

The average age for kids to see hardcore porn is now around 10.

If it stops that happening, no matter how imperfect, then I'm all for it. Definitely not all 10 years know what a VPN is, how to set one up.

Porn is hugely damaging. Boys, and some girls, are consuming violent porn that is utterly degrading to women and girls before they're even sexually mature or have had any sexual experiences at all. Girls are being assaulted by boys, including their older brothers, after they have watched porn, and think it's normal to be choked by their boyfriends.

A society that doesn't try to tackle that is throwing the mental health and safety of our younger generations under the bus because they like to wank to porn. Thank goodness someone is trying to do something.

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Yes so block porn at the ISP level... nothing else is going to stop kids seeing this vile content.

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 09:11

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 09:08

Uh?
I' ve just given you a far more perfect law but you seem transfixed on a bad law.

Blocked at the network level means UK companies are the ones who can be fined, so enforcement is easy.

There are millions of porn hosting sites out there, very very few will follow UK law and be impossible to fine.

Maybe it is ‘more perfect’ (I don’t know, I’m not an IT expert). And if it is then I’d support it. But you suggested that imperfection alone is enough to oppose a law, and I presume that even your ‘more perfect’ law isn’t actually perfect.

So I go back to my original point which is that the proposed imperfect law is a good thing because it moves us forward, even if there are better laws that we could still campaign for. Moving one step along a long path is better than moving zero steps, no?

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newhouseplans · 25/07/2025 09:10

The average age for kids to see hardcore porn is now around 10.

If it stops that happening, no matter how imperfect, then I'm all for it. Definitely not all 10 years know what a VPN is, how to set one up.

Porn is hugely damaging. Boys, and some girls, are consuming violent porn that is utterly degrading to women and girls before they're even sexually mature or have had any sexual experiences at all. Girls are being assaulted by boys, including their older brothers, after they have watched porn, and think it's normal to be choked by their boyfriends.

A society that doesn't try to tackle that is throwing the mental health and safety of our younger generations under the bus because they like to wank to porn. Thank goodness someone is trying to do something.

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 09:10

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 09:04

If it stops a child clicking through and stopping them seeing a woman being raped, not bad thing.

If it stops a curious 10 year old looking up "women with big tits" some term they've heard and seeing the results with a click then that's good.

Obviously it's incredibly easy to bypass, but at least it's a step towards keeping kids safe online.

As its incredibly easy to by-pass and enforcement of fines is impossible, then how exactly is it in anyway, making children "safe"

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 09:08

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 09:00

Waiting for perfect laws (which probably don’t exist) means no protection at all!

I just don’t buy the ‘false sense of security’ thing. I’m a parent. My attitude to my kids’ potential porn viewing is the same today as last week. I will provide the same education and show the same interest as before. I’m just relieved that porn is now three or four clicks away for them rather than one.

Uh?
I' ve just given you a far more perfect law but you seem transfixed on a bad law.

Blocked at the network level means UK companies are the ones who can be fined, so enforcement is easy.

There are millions of porn hosting sites out there, very very few will follow UK law and be impossible to fine.

Tia247 · 25/07/2025 09:08

I think it's really important for the government to step in where lazy parents aren't doing their job! This might not stop all 15 year olds accessing porn but it's at least going to stop younger kids.

I'd much rather this than nothing and I definitely don't think it's going to make parents check their kids phones less because they're complacent. There's 101 other things you need to be checking their phones for apart from watching porn.
Of course ideally parents should be stepping up, but when they're not (and they haven't been) this is the next best thing.

I'm 100% for it and amazed it's taken so long.

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 09:04

Dbank · 25/07/2025 08:50

It smacks of legislation that's been written by well intentioned people who have little understanding how the internet works.

If it stops a child clicking through and stopping them seeing a woman being raped, not bad thing.

If it stops a curious 10 year old looking up "women with big tits" some term they've heard and seeing the results with a click then that's good.

Obviously it's incredibly easy to bypass, but at least it's a step towards keeping kids safe online.

BusWankers · 25/07/2025 09:01

gruebleen · 25/07/2025 08:23

The porn providers are perfectly capable of blocking VPNs, and if governments such as the UK and France require them to, then they will.

It's also not so easy to block porn as a parent. A VPN can get round the ISP's porn-blocking too.

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"It's also not easy to block porn as a parent. a VPN can get round ISP's porn-blocking too"

Yes, but also as a parent you need to know what your kid has on their phones/tablets/computers if you're giving them unsupervised internet access. You also need to take responsibility for raising decent kids, making them aware of dangers, the inappropriate sexual relationship idea porn presents etc.

Parents need to step up too.

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 09:00

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 08:53

We need perfect laws to protect children, bad law just gives parents a false sense of security, so, as almost all children will be using Android/IOS phones and ISPs from UK based internet providers, a better way would be age verification on the ISP, by device, inc using/downloading VPNs.

Public wifi networks too.

These companies know exactly what is being downloaded & viewed, the default is that all blocked at the network level, then AV used to access.

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Waiting for perfect laws (which probably don’t exist) means no protection at all!

I just don’t buy the ‘false sense of security’ thing. I’m a parent. My attitude to my kids’ potential porn viewing is the same today as last week. I will provide the same education and show the same interest as before. I’m just relieved that porn is now three or four clicks away for them rather than one.

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Nevertrustacop · 25/07/2025 08:59

I don't access porn and never have. Also in my 60s, so maybe not as tech savvy as some. Ten minutes ago I had never heard of a VPN.
I have now set one up- Go me!
No idea if the law is good or bad, but it is certainly easy to circumnavigate.

jasflowers · 25/07/2025 08:53

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 08:42

I don’t buy these arguments at all:

  • It’s imperfect therefore it’s bad
  • It’s the thin end of a government censorship wedge
  • It’s unreasonably risky to verify your age.

But I get what people are saying about things that aren’t actually porn or harmful being caught up in this. I remember a while back putting an adult content block on my own phone (to try to stop my porn usage) and it blocked all kinds of things that were nothing to do with anything NSFW at all. In the end I removed it for that exact reason.

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We need perfect laws to protect children, bad law just gives parents a false sense of security, so, as almost all children will be using Android/IOS phones and ISPs from UK based internet providers, a better way would be age verification on the ISP, by device, inc using/downloading VPNs.

Public wifi networks too.

These companies know exactly what is being downloaded & viewed, the default is that all blocked at the network level, then AV used to access.

Dbank · 25/07/2025 08:50

It smacks of legislation that's been written by well intentioned people who have little understanding how the internet works.

ErrolTheDragon · 25/07/2025 08:46

randomchap · 25/07/2025 08:29

Why are you attacking people who think that the bill is an unworkable mess as porn apologists. Are you trying to stifle debate?

Being critical of this law does not make someone a porn apologist.

I didn’t say everyone who has objections is a porn apologist, merely predicted that there will be posts from such people. No need to be so defensive if the cap doesn’t fit.

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 08:42

I don’t buy these arguments at all:

  • It’s imperfect therefore it’s bad
  • It’s the thin end of a government censorship wedge
  • It’s unreasonably risky to verify your age.

But I get what people are saying about things that aren’t actually porn or harmful being caught up in this. I remember a while back putting an adult content block on my own phone (to try to stop my porn usage) and it blocked all kinds of things that were nothing to do with anything NSFW at all. In the end I removed it for that exact reason.

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DustyTangerine · 25/07/2025 08:32

It doesn’t just necessarily apply to porn though. Reddit have blocked anything deemed as nsfw. Some very innocuous subs have been blocked - one was a support sub for quitting drinking for example

randomchap · 25/07/2025 08:29

ErrolTheDragon · 25/07/2025 08:19

I predict the vote will agree with you OP but there will be lots of posts from porn apologists.
It won’t be a perfect system but it’s better than nothing.

Obviously it’s not an either/or - parents should still take appropriate measures to protect their kids from online harms, both porn they may still find ways to access and other stuff.

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Why are you attacking people who think that the bill is an unworkable mess as porn apologists. Are you trying to stifle debate?

Being critical of this law does not make someone a porn apologist.

Sundaymorningcalla · 25/07/2025 08:28

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 08:19

This sounds a bit conspiracy theory-ish to me. Obviously wider range censorship would potentially be bad. But this isn’t that, so I ask again what harm this particular measure does?

Parentsl responsibility is of course important but I struggle to see how this isn’t a tool to help that (albeit an imperfect one).

Your argument is the same as someone who says ‘We shouldn’t have a law stopping kids from buying cigarettes because parents should prevent it, you could just buy them illegally anyway, and it’s a step towards government controlling. What we can and can’t buy from shops’. Do you think that?

When you buy cigarettes you have the option to pay cash and not leave a digital footprint. Unfortunately everything you do on the internet is traceable.

Dbank · 25/07/2025 08:27

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 08:11

With a card number, the same information I’ve given to dozens of other websites.

Personally I wouldn't feel safe sharing my card details with a porn site, especially as it's likely many will be set-up to precisely to harvest card details.

Gobacktotheworld · 25/07/2025 08:25

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jasflowers · 25/07/2025 08:23

Vimtolady · 25/07/2025 08:04

Am Interested as to why you think it’s misconceived. Last night I was asked for age verification. Had I not been able to provide it I’d have not been able to access the content. That’s obviously going to prevent a lot of under 18s accessing it, isn’t it?

Obviously it’s not fool proof. And yes the content is legal. But it’s harmful. So surely age verification is good as it is for other harmful but legal things like cigarettes? Will it do any harm? I don’t see how it would. And it has the potential to do a lot of good.

I know less about the security concerns but figure they’re the same as any other secure website.

When a US state introduced this, traffic dropped by 80%.. a good thing?

No, they just used VPN & unregulated sites, there are millions of platforms where porn can be viewed, its not just Pornhub, going to alternatives for porn just means even more violent extreme porn is available to young people.

Enforcement? these sites are primarily American, atm fining US companies and enforcement is a no no, Trump is protecting US firms, hence the new law isn't as tough on X or Meta.

There is a reason no other country in the world has laws like this, unintended consequences.

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