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PyongyangKipperbang · 25/07/2025 22:42

NaiveDuck · 25/07/2025 19:29

I have followed true crime and the DP in America for decades. I have yet to come across one single victim family who say they haven't got closure from the perp being put to death.

Not....one.

You don't seem to have ever had any experience with victims families. None at all.

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Been thinking about this and you have no experience at all apart from "follow[ing] true crime and the DP in America" and yet you have the temerity to tell me, who has guided her own child through the horrific murder of their best friend, that you know better?! The victims father and I are in touch with each other, my child is in touch regularly with the victims mother.

I am genuinely not sure whether to laugh at your arrogance or cry at your insinuations that I know less that you because of what you saw on the telly.

The victim I have referenced has a memorial at the National Arobretum. I am very VERY pissed off at you suggesting I dont know what I am talking about.

ZamaZama · 25/07/2025 22:14

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:03

Cut and dried means that something is settled, in the case of a crime it would mean there is no doubt of being found guilty.

My comment regarding the cut and dry cases often being the most heinous is down to the nature of these crimes which is often what makes them cut and dried to begin with. E.g the public slaughtering of young girls.

That isn't the same as suggesting there is 'a link between strength of evidence and how serious a crime is.'

You're twisting things.

I’m not twisting anything.

I understand perfectly well what you’ve written, but it seems you don’t or perhaps you just won’t admit you’ve made a mistake.

Heinous means particularly dreadful or wrong. I.e. describing a crime as heinous is quite literally commenting on its severity. You have linked this to the likelihood of a crime being ‘cut and dried’.

So, how am I twisting what you’ve said?

SuburbanSprawl · 25/07/2025 22:08

ZamaZama · 25/07/2025 21:53

And I’ve heard and read that it doesn’t always provide closure. Common sense alone ought to suggest it’s highly improbable all victims’ families feel the same.

There was a case about twenty years ago when a child was murdered and the usual papers started calling for the return of the death penalty and saying 'the victim's family would want it - why aren't we listening to them? Does no one care what they want?'

And the victim's family issued a statement saying that they didn't want another life to be taken and, in accordance with their faith, they felt that they had to try to forgive.

At which point the usual papers started saying that they were deranged by grief and no one should listen to them.

ZamaZama · 25/07/2025 21:53

NaiveDuck · 25/07/2025 19:29

I have followed true crime and the DP in America for decades. I have yet to come across one single victim family who say they haven't got closure from the perp being put to death.

Not....one.

You don't seem to have ever had any experience with victims families. None at all.

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And I’ve heard and read that it doesn’t always provide closure. Common sense alone ought to suggest it’s highly improbable all victims’ families feel the same.

WhereIsMyJumper · 25/07/2025 21:32

I’d rather see some kind of system whereby prisoners are actually useful to society. But we know from the US that is a slippy slope - as they make a lot of money out of the free labour and so don’t release people when they should be released.

SuburbanSprawl · 25/07/2025 21:28

And not one person here has answered why the ones caught red handed can’t be executed.

Because killing people is wrong.

SuburbanSprawl · 25/07/2025 21:27

DrCoconut · 25/07/2025 19:12

It is interesting that even Albert Pierrepoint who had a better insight into capital punishment than most questioned it towards the end of his life. I think he is possibly misquoted when people claim he opposed it, but he certainly questioned what his career had actually achieved.

What he said in his book was that he didn't believe that the threat of the death penalty had deterred a single murderer.

randomchap · 25/07/2025 21:19

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:52

It is, of course. But we agree it is ok to kill criminals in certain circumstances, I just happen to disagree with you on what circumstances they may be.

I think people like Axel should be put down.

Killing people to save other peoples lives at the time of the offense is very different to killing as punishment or revenge after a trial.

One is to save lives, the other is revenge

Only one will save lives

OonaStubbs · 25/07/2025 21:16

Panterusblackish · 25/07/2025 20:44

No the death penalty should not be introduced.

And you are every bit as bad as him for salivating at the idea of the state murdering someone.

You both want death albeit in different ways. You are cut from the same cloth, you are just trying to cloak your bloodthirstiness in self righteousness.

Wanting bad people to die is not even remotely similar to wanting innocent people to die.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 25/07/2025 21:15

WhereIsMyJumper · 25/07/2025 20:32

I am against the death penalty but in favour of assisted dying for one reason - autonomy

Me too.

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:52

randomchap · 25/07/2025 20:46

Killing a terrorist who is in the middle of carrying out their crime, while the public are in immediate danger is very different to the death penalty. As well you know

It is, of course. But we agree it is ok to kill criminals in certain circumstances, I just happen to disagree with you on what circumstances they may be.

I think people like Axel should be put down.

randomchap · 25/07/2025 20:46

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:38

No. I'm just pointing out if we can justify killing people during the act of a crime what is so different to killing them after the crime....

Take Axel for example he is continuing to attack prison guards. Is putting him down not acting in defence of people?

Killing a terrorist who is in the middle of carrying out their crime, while the public are in immediate danger is very different to the death penalty. As well you know

Panterusblackish · 25/07/2025 20:44

No the death penalty should not be introduced.

And you are every bit as bad as him for salivating at the idea of the state murdering someone.

You both want death albeit in different ways. You are cut from the same cloth, you are just trying to cloak your bloodthirstiness in self righteousness.

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:38

randomchap · 25/07/2025 20:30

Indeed they are, while committing the terrorism and are highly likely to be a danger to the public.

They aren't killed as punishment, but in the defence of people.

But you know this, and are just trying to muddy the waters and deflect

No. I'm just pointing out if we can justify killing people during the act of a crime what is so different to killing them after the crime....

Take Axel for example he is continuing to attack prison guards. Is putting him down not acting in defence of people?

Never2many · 25/07/2025 20:35

WhereIsMyJumper · 25/07/2025 20:32

I am against the death penalty but in favour of assisted dying for one reason - autonomy

I’m against assisted dying as well.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 25/07/2025 20:35

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:23

That does sometimes happen in the case of terrorists being shot.

And innocent people like de Menezes.

Never2many · 25/07/2025 20:34

ALSO, if people knew they may face the death sentence for murder, and other really heinous crimes, it MAY be a deterrent. What's the motivation for them to not commit these crimes if they know they will live their life out in a cushy prison? except it is not a deterrent. Go and look at countries who use the death penalty - there are no less murders there than there are over here. In fact in the US the murder rate is significantly higher. So that’s that argument out the window.

And by other countries, I’m talking about civilised countries such as the US, not backward countries like Saudi where the death penalty is just another step in their lack of any human rights.

Also, statistically a jury is less likely to convict someone of a crime if the sentence is likely to be the death penalty.

For the people slavering over the idea of putting people to death and asking why we shouldn’t kill other people, the reason is very simple. If it’s wrong to kill someone, then it’s wrong regardless of the reasons why you do it.

If you’re advocating for the death penalty, then you’re essentially saying that you’re advocating for murder to be legal. Because only a certain kind of person is able to kill another one in cold blood.

And those who are forced to do it because of their job are deeply traumatised by it.

So ask yourself this. Would you be happy for your husband to go out killing people for a living? Your son? Your daughter’s husband?

Don’t you think that if someone has the capacity to kill people they also have the capacity to kill yo?

If you are a killer youo’re a killer regardless of who you’re killing. Don’t kid yourself that a decent hard-working family man or woman is someone who would be happy to kill other people for a living, regardless of who they are.

Only some with already violent tendencies is has it in them to kill someone. And if they can do it to one person, they can do it to another. An innocent one. Maybe you, maybe your children.

WhereIsMyJumper · 25/07/2025 20:32

LillyPJ · 25/07/2025 20:16

That is an interesting point. I'm against the death penalty for many reasons, but am for assisted dying - as long as there are sufficient precautions and guards against abuse. Perhaps it's just from a selfish point of view? I don't want to be in dreadful pain or lose all my dignity, nor do I want to be a burden for my DC or have my money wasted on care. I know it's not what this thread's about but it's given me some food for thought.

I am against the death penalty but in favour of assisted dying for one reason - autonomy

randomchap · 25/07/2025 20:30

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:23

That does sometimes happen in the case of terrorists being shot.

Indeed they are, while committing the terrorism and are highly likely to be a danger to the public.

They aren't killed as punishment, but in the defence of people.

But you know this, and are just trying to muddy the waters and deflect

Zov · 25/07/2025 20:23

PassingStranger · 25/07/2025 10:08

We are just hearing more and more disgusting things on the news, what is happening to society? Absolutely shocking. The cruelty to children is out of hand, yet nobody is forced to have a baby.

I wouldn't care less if he was put down. Save the tax payers a load of money, send out a strong message too.
Prison is not enough for some people. They arent put off going in there.

If an animal savaged a human they would be put down. What's the difference.
RIP poor baby.

Exactly. The whataboutery and apologists on this thread are both disgusting and terrifying in equal amounts.

But if you think that a cold blooded murderer should be executed, and should NOT live a life in comfort, in a cushy prison, with educational and training facilities, and home comforts, and warmth, 3 meals a day, (and drugs and ciggies on tap!) you're 'a Daily Mail Reader.' 🙄

Bring back the death penalty. And do it now. NOW!

So many hand wringing liberal lefties on this thread. It's making me nauseous.

As I said, you can bet these individuals would have a different attitude if one of THEIR loved ones was murdered by someone.

ALSO, if people knew they may face the death sentence for murder, and other really heinous crimes, it MAY be a deterrent. What's the motivation for them to not commit these crimes if they know they will live their life out in a cushy prison?

Interesting how my post from earlier got 31 people agreeing with me and thanking me. Hmmm, seems I am not alone in my opinions. 🤔

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:23

MiloMinderbinder925 · 25/07/2025 20:22

We could save even more money and just skip the trial.

That does sometimes happen in the case of terrorists being shot.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 25/07/2025 20:22

caringcarer · 25/07/2025 20:19

These are figures for America where prisoners remain on death roe for many many years before death. If a person is found guilty no reason why they can't get death penalty within a few weeks. Then it wouldn't cost high amounts.

We could save even more money and just skip the trial.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 25/07/2025 20:20

MorningLarkEchoes · 25/07/2025 19:47

Yes, let’s hold hands and blame society …again. Anything to avoid holding a grown adult responsible for their own choices!

It's totally possible to see reasons for somebody becoming so beyond empathy and morality that they would commit such a heinous act, and to also condemn them for their choice to do so.

randomchap · 25/07/2025 20:19

caringcarer · 25/07/2025 20:19

These are figures for America where prisoners remain on death roe for many many years before death. If a person is found guilty no reason why they can't get death penalty within a few weeks. Then it wouldn't cost high amounts.

No time for appeals then?

caringcarer · 25/07/2025 20:19

BoredZelda · 25/07/2025 16:10

It costs considerably more to put someone to death than it does to keep them in prison for life.

https://www.amnestyusa.org/issues/death-penalty/death-penalty-facts/death-penalty-cost/

These are figures for America where prisoners remain on death roe for many many years before death. If a person is found guilty no reason why they can't get death penalty within a few weeks. Then it wouldn't cost high amounts.

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